Can't believe he's doing this!

[AuchAyethenoo]

I posted a last week about some financial issues I'm having with my dp, basically he works full time on a decent wage, I receive CTC, cb and maintenance for my eldest dc. I pay half of all the bills, mortgage etc plus buy all of the food and all of the children's clothes, activities etc, etc. This has, of course, caused major stress for me to the point that my mum takes me food shopping just to ensure we have food in the house for my children.

Yesterday he comes home telling me he has just found out his brother (9 years old) has rattled up a £700 bill on his x-box on his mothers credit card. That she has no money at all now. MIL is on benefits, I suggested she could contact DWP to apply for a loan for food and essentials and perhaps speak to her sons father to arrange buying food for them.

I've now found out that dp has given his mum about £300. I don't grudge his mum help for food, but what I am struggling with is that he has no issue giving his mum money but never has any to give to me for our children.

Auch, I am in Aberdeen - if there is anything at all I can do

East London, have a car and a spare room.

Shit. How scary. I would go with hoopers advice and let someone know things are this bad.

When a family friend was in a bad situation, they would ring every morning & every night to say they were still alive

I'm in south London and free all week.

Holy hell, hope you and dc are all ok!!

If your in west Sussex and need anyone please let me know, I know I'm a stranger but I have to offer!

My dc are at there grandparents all this week so there are beds, space, and quietness if you and dc need it. I also drive and am happy to help in any way I can!

I hope your your lack of replies is because you've gotten away, but I have a horrid feeling its because your phones dead and P is keeping you under close eye.

This is serious abuse op, you know it!

Holy hell, hope you and dc are all ok!!

If your in west Sussex and need anyone please let me know, I know I'm a stranger but I have to offer!

My dc are at there grandparents all this week so there are beds, space, and quietness if you and dc need it. I also drive and am happy to help in any way I can!

I hope your your lack of replies is because you've gotten away, but I have a horrid feeling its because your phones dead and P is keeping you under close eye.

This is serious abuse op, you know it!

Was hoping for an update from OP.

Hope you are OK OP!!

Hang in there Auch. We will be here waiting to support you when you can get on MN. Hooper gave some good advice about using a safeguarding team.

Hope you are ok.

Hi, I withdrew my comment at HQ's request so as not to alert abusive partners. Waiting for good news from OP.

Good call Hoopers

Everything crossed that Auch and DCs are safe and away from him.

Can someone clarify at what point you can pull a phone from the socket in other to be sure a 999 call will result in a visit?

If you call 999 and hang up they call you back, if you don't answer they will send police to check on you

If you pull the cord out the back of the phone the phone won't ring so the police will be sent

Op can then freely leave with them if she wishes

So as soon as the call is answered hang up then pull out of socket.

Yes
If 999 call you back the actual phone won't ring but they will hear a ringing as your connection box will ring
So it looks like you can't answer and police get sent

Thanks. I have a fear that in a panic auch would dial then unplug before an answer then wonder where police are, hence asking for clarification.

I keep popping back to see if there's any news, this thread is making me feel quite teary, I keep thinking of 101 Dalmatians when all the dogs bark to each other to alert everyone the puppies are in danger from cruella de Ville. All these offers of help, I think we've got most of the country covered haven't we??

Really hoping and praying that you are your babies are ok Auch.

I know all the offers are kindly meant but if the situation has got to this point then any individual can't do what the police can. Auch really needs to get them involved. My fingers are crossed.

I hope you're ok Auch.

The whole thing is dreadful. Just to also wish Auch well. Hopefully everything will be alright in the end.

I keep coming back to see if the OP has posted to tell us she is safe. I hope you are okay. Thinking of you. X

Praying you and the DCs are safe

Offer of help in Northern Ireland - Belfast or wherever. Thinking of you OP.

Thinking of you, Augh. Don't know what else to say that hasn't already been said. Just keep checking in to see if you've posted. I don't want this to go on to the second page and disappear. Hope you and your children are safe x