Well he used to shout and roar and me and call me a bitch over nothing at all but one occasion and ex from many many years ago came up to me on the street and i got really nervous cause i knew H would flip at this. And so of course after all the "who was that" crap he called me a bitch etc. That type of thing.
THen the tempers over dinner not cooked. And threats of phsical violence.
Hiding - money and telling me we were broke.
Cheating on me and denying it - telling me i was imagaing things
Hating me going out for a night without him. Always causing a row before i went out to be sure i wouldnt enjoy myself.
Thinking i fancied a few people even if i just knew them in passing.
That type of thing. You know lying, making me thinnk i was crazy, changing his mind every two mins and blaming me.
I always understood the temper bit - i dont mean i accepted it - just thought it was straight forward anger management thing
Its the jealousy and the feeling that deep down he thought i was some of slapper that couldnt be trusted or conversely thinking that anyone who spoke to me or even asked after me was either an ex or must fancy me..
Of course i lost all my self esteem, isolated myself, got depressed, lost friends, drank too much, got fat etc etc - hence the counselling now.
But having googled this syndrome it seems to be saying that the man doent want to have sex with his wife and that is not the case - he is as passionate now as he ever was. I know he still desires me.
So is there a couple of diff forms of this.
Have spent so long searchin for answers i really would like to know if this is his problem. Also very un-nerved at how nuts it is.
He had a hard upbringing - father was a really bully adn i think he may have beaten his mother but i cant be sure.
Of couse alot of the time he is just lovely and a great guy!!