I've done it!

[FreeAtLastAtLongLast]

NC regular here.

I've done it. I've told him it won't work.

So no more being shouted at, no more of him messaging other women when I've stood up to him (well, I'm sure he'll do that tonight, but I'm fine with it), no more dreading him coming home because there's a high possibility of him being angry, no more of his dodgy mates, no more of his manipulative "I'm scared of what I might do to myself right now" because I'm asking him to change, no more being lied to about drug use, no more putting up with his ropey relatives, no more of him shouting at me even louder because it upsets me that MY CHILD will hear, no more being shouted at even louder because it worries me that the neighbours might complain triggering a potential loss of MY HOME, no more worrying that he will turn up at my work in a fit of rage because this time I'll tell security.

So, I'll never see the money he owes me, and we are skint. It's ok, I'll earn more, and I know how to look after my money when I'm not bankrolling a waster.

Apparently I'm mad, a lunatic, and everyone knows it. Ok, I'm sure they'll see that I'm ok when I'm not being bullied. And anyone that doesn't see that doesn't matter.

Apparently my cunt stinks. Oh well, not his problem, even though I'm clean.

But the best bit is that he will never see or contact me again. I'm definitely ok with that! Here's hoping he sticks to it, I'll call the police if he doesn't.

Thanks for listening (reading)

congratulations! your cunt stinks! omg, are you sure you've made the right decision He sounds a charmer. You're lucky your child isn't his.

I'm very lucky. And I'm very glad I used contraception too!!

And if you knew how bad that idiot smelled for the last couple of days because he couldn't be bothered to shower, you'd know why his comment can only be ridiculous.

I'm going to change the bedding in a minute

Well done, can I reccommend the no contact book by the lady who does baggage reclaim. Just read it and it's very good.

Need to stop shaking first though!

Bloody good for you, Im on my own & its lovely.

No more eggshells!

Enjoy your life, living it EXACTLY how you want!

I'd love to read it, think it would do me the world of good, but I was expecting him to pay his rent and I'm not entirely sure how I'll get by without it. What a mess. But at least I know where I stand financially. It's not good being fobbed off for rent by someone who has blatantly been off for a few spliffs with his mates

No more eggshells! I've been treading on them for far too long, and it was getting worse and worse, literally by the day.

He used to blow up at me every month or so, then every fortnight, then every week, then a few times a week, and since last week it's been daily.
This was quite a speedy progression too.

I threw him out last week for ranting and raving about my child. My child :(
He begged and begged to come back, was on his sorry knees. Promised to get help. Assured me that he doesn't hate my child. Promised to be more supportive of me as a mum. Didn't last long.

The first i did when I got rid of my dreadful ex was boil up the bed sheets. His feet [yak]

Hooray for you OP

Well done you!!x

Thank you.

It's good to talk about it. I've hidden so much from my nearest and dearest that I need to have these chats with them sensitively and I don't think I could do that right now. They'd be horrified if they knew how bad it was. But some had a fair idea

Well done! I'm so happy for you.

Remember the adrenaline will wear off in a while, so you may slump. Remind yourself of the reasons why you ended it! Works every time!

I know I'll slump Hissy, that's why I started this thread. It will keep me going!

And thank you Hissy, you often pop up when I need support

Well done Free! No more Mr Stinky Dick :)

Well done OP and very good advice from hissy
You sounds like you are talking about my ex - especially the bit about him saying what a lunatic you are and how everyone knows it `there is something wrong with you' was his fav.... when I didn't do what he said/wanted - he has the script. (years down the line it is my ex by the way on his arse and my life has been pretty good without him) no one has ever said I am a lunatic etc. since. --apart from in gest when I tell a very bad joke

So true Sticky!

And no more come down sweats on my sheets grrr!!!

It will be a year for me soon. I bought new sheets

Well done lovely.

I'm struggling to buy bread and milk at the moment, I'd LOVE new sheets

I'm looking forward to a year of emotional freedom!

The utter sadness is kicking in. I don't trust easily, and honestly believed we would be forever. I would have been with the good side of him for the rest of my days. But I have to factor in the nasty side, and it kept making itself known :(

Well done!

Anyone who criticises your DC should be shown the door.

He sounds horrid.

How long were you with each other?

A couple of years, he moved in early this year, and that's when it deteriorated. Think he thought he had me right where he wanted me, and would change me, make me more compliant, more nervous. It's textbook isn't it?

To my shame I had to physically remove him tonight. He had all his stuff, and kept storming back in to check in case I was hiding his things , he went back out, was coming back in to check my bedroom again, turned back to check something and I shoved him the rest of the way. Had my knee against the door frame because he pushed against me. Bastard didn't get back in

Ha! Like he really believed you were hiding his stuff.

Well done. He sounds like a real waste of space and life. Onwards and upwards for you and your wee one. Big hugs.

He was blatantly exerting control!! As if I'd do that! I've always been self sufficient, there was nothing I needed in this house when he first came over, I provided everything. He knew it was his last chance to put the boot in

Exactly. A last pathetic attempt to wave his willy. Lucky he didn't get it caught in the door when it slammed