I've done it!

[FreeAtLastAtLongLast]

NC regular here.

I've done it. I've told him it won't work.

So no more being shouted at, no more of him messaging other women when I've stood up to him (well, I'm sure he'll do that tonight, but I'm fine with it), no more dreading him coming home because there's a high possibility of him being angry, no more of his dodgy mates, no more of his manipulative "I'm scared of what I might do to myself right now" because I'm asking him to change, no more being lied to about drug use, no more putting up with his ropey relatives, no more of him shouting at me even louder because it upsets me that MY CHILD will hear, no more being shouted at even louder because it worries me that the neighbours might complain triggering a potential loss of MY HOME, no more worrying that he will turn up at my work in a fit of rage because this time I'll tell security.

So, I'll never see the money he owes me, and we are skint. It's ok, I'll earn more, and I know how to look after my money when I'm not bankrolling a waster.

Apparently I'm mad, a lunatic, and everyone knows it. Ok, I'm sure they'll see that I'm ok when I'm not being bullied. And anyone that doesn't see that doesn't matter.

Apparently my cunt stinks. Oh well, not his problem, even though I'm clean.

But the best bit is that he will never see or contact me again. I'm definitely ok with that! Here's hoping he sticks to it, I'll call the police if he doesn't.

Thanks for listening (reading)

Well done Free! Bloody well done!!

Well done. It will keep getting easier.

I hope you have blocked his number.

Beryl I tried last week, but iPhones don't block numbers, and neither do orange!!! I was shocked at that to be honest

Can't you change your number and let all your friends know the new one?

There's something about bedsheets, isn't there! I had never used my nice white bedlinen while I lived with my ex, because he would go for days without showering and anything pale always looked filthy. He never smelt bad, but he worked outside and so got covered in soil and dust and all sorts. So when he finally left I changed the sheets that night, to my lovely white duvet set, and it was such a treat.

I would seriously think about changing your number. I never had to do that with mine as I only got one or two texts afterwards and then total radio silence, thank god. Truth is he never wanted to be with me, I was just convenient for him.

I'm so devastated, so hurt

This will pass. It'll be OK.

It gets easier. Promise!

And the next time he says he doesn't want you paths to cross, tell him to stay the fuck away from you then!

Stand your ground, the bullying little twat has NOTHING! Only a really weak little prick gets his kicks from bullying his gf.

I can't wait to stop feeling like this! I've drank like a fish since he went, it's as if I'm desperately seeking oblivion. That changes from today.

He wanted to walk the dog. I replied saying that I only want my money, and he needs to leave me alone.

I'm very very hurt. I really believed in him, adored him and would have done anything for him. I'm crying again

Free I don't know what your relationship history is, but it will get better.

He doesn't get to walk the dog, or get to text you, or have conversations with you about whether or not he is going to be at your work. It's over, and from your op, it sounds like that is a good thing.

Weekends are hard, because that is the time you don't have work to distract you, but in time you will get better, and feel stronger (and more free, not living in fear, not being abused, not being told you smell).

Here's to a good week!

Thanks beryl, but it is just getting worse

I've had so many texts tonight, some of them were begging texts, the others have been nasty. Nasty about me and my child. This is awful

Free, you need to get a new SIM and a new number.

Don't respond to the texts at all. In fact, I would suggest you don't even read them. Don't delete them either - you may need them as evidence down the road.

He sounds truly awful - you have done the right thing. Stay strong, and don't let him get to you.

How's things free?? R u ok??

You really need to change your number. You can call orange right now and pay a small charge to change it. You think it's a big deal but it's not really. Quick group text to people who matter with your new number, and you will learn it in a few days. Just cut him off.

Hi again, thanks so much for your support

And I'm sorry for not responding, I was checking in, but I've had such a manic week at work I feel frazzled! I've had good support from friends too, which has been lovely, although I feel really burnt out what with hectic work days and evenings with friends visiting!

The messages come and go. The odd request to see the dog, and a few nights with a barrage of abuse and taunts. I'm not responding

I get the impression his friends are keeping him occupied, and that he is rowing with his mum constantly. In fact I've been told he has been vile towards her, and sadly I'm not surprised.

I was wavering last week. Had some lovely messages, the words I always wanted to hear. Followed swiftly by him blaming his mum for 'poisoning his thoughts' and making him angry, which he regrets. Sooooo his actions really are everybody else's fault!

Such a lucky escape

I won't lie, I've shed a lot of tears, for who I thought I was with, for what could have been, and because I know it will never be. It's going to hurt for a long time. But it will get easier and I'll have some fun getting over him