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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

1000 replies

Mouseface · 04/09/2013 15:02

Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

OP posts:
ThisIsMyTime · 14/09/2013 08:44

Ok so deffo hit the bottom got pissed (2 day bender ) and confessed all to my dh mother and father so everyone knows I'm a drunk hopefully il get the help that I need now! No more drinking for me thank god it's ruining my life I could well loose everything x

dementedma · 14/09/2013 08:51

this how did your parents react. Were they supportive? Once you accept that you need help and are honest about this, you are on the way to turning your life round.

ThisIsMyTime · 14/09/2013 08:54

Yes they were supportive feel like a weight has been lifted dh looked disappointed in me I've booked a therapy session as I don't really no how I got to this point

ArtVandelay · 14/09/2013 10:40

Oh well done ThisIs, I felt immediately safer after I told my DH and my mum I was developing a drink problem so I hope you feel better too. Has your DH actually said he's disappointed or is this your interpretation of his face? He might just be a bit worried? Focus on yourself right now and don't let anyone judge you - you are very brave x x

ThisIsMyTime · 14/09/2013 10:44

The look on his face said 1000 words. Words can't describe how shit I feel facing a drink problem at 27 I'm devastated just hope he doesn't leave me

Fairenuff · 14/09/2013 10:49

Have you thought about going to AA as well as being on the bus This?

Well done for telling your loved ones and asking for support. We aren't called the Brave babes for nothing you know x

ThisIsMyTime · 14/09/2013 10:51

Yes I'm thinking of aa got therapy session on mon so will see if that helps, I'm so upset

Fairenuff · 14/09/2013 11:19

This you are not alone. It seems so scary at the moment but you can do it. Have you read the very first thread that started the bus?

Here

Please read it, it is so inspiring.

babyjane1 · 14/09/2013 11:33

thisis don't despair, the only way is up, I was on a bender on my last booze binge and that prompted me to stop and I've never looked back, your dh will forgive you? He probably thinks he should have noticed, this is not rock bottom, this is a new beginning, an opportunity for change. You have been very brave and now you will get the support you need from the people who love you the most, big hugs just for you xxxx

VelvetB · 14/09/2013 12:04

Hi all
I think my drinking has been getting out of control, I've been using it as my way to relax in the evenings for so long now but I've got to the point where I feel anxious if there's not at least a bottle of wine in the house. Fed up with always feeling groggy and it getting in my way if I feel too rubbish to do anything the next day.
So, hope its ok to join you all and starting on day 1 today!
Xx

whydidthishappen · 14/09/2013 12:23

I've hit rock bottom. Joining AA today. Went to Family Court where a temporary order of protection was issued against me to keep me from my baby and my husband. I feel so ashamed that I could curl up and die. But I want my beautiful baby back. Court says it will happen but I need to be sober first. I'm petrified. Any help welcome. Please dont hate me.

Ladame · 14/09/2013 12:29

Thisis Well done, that must have been hard for you and so brave. Now that they know, they can support you. As babyjane says, it is up from now on. We're here for you too, don't forget that.

Ma I've been LCing, not bootcamp, but just lower carbing and had my two nights 'on' this week, and I've lost a bit of weight. Although it's not ideal, there aren't a huge amount of carbs in wine, it's not like you ate a whole cake, don't let it derail you.

VelvetB Hiya you, here's your ticket, it lasts forever and you will always have a seat on the bus. Silver is our driver, Mouse looks after all of us and keeps us in line. Faire is our purveyor of wise words. There is a squid called Barry in a bucket by the front seat, Ma has the opal fruits and imo can be very mean with them (never having been given one ever) There is a side-car normally populated by a curly liverpudlian and a curly anglo/french person and a Purps and Ma with a ghost dog called spirit, who often just appears as condensation on the window. There is also Horridbabydoll who gives us all nightmares. There, it all sounds a bit random and mad, but it is our support network, along with all brave babes. Here you can tell it like it is and we will all have similar stories. Do you want to stop, or just cut down?

Ladame · 14/09/2013 12:31

X posted with whydidthishappen So sorry sweetheart. Well done for joining AA - that is a massive step. ((hug)) from me.

dementedma · 14/09/2013 12:51

this if my brother had admitted to his drink problem when he was 27 he would have spared himself and all of us the agonies that followed, culminating in him being near death this May until he ended up i a salvation army hostel where he began to change his life. If you go back a few threads to May you can read all about it. Rock bottom is a horrible place and this is to why did this happen too, but once you are there there is a huge sigh of relief all round and lives can start being rebuilt. Richard, my bro, is home this weekend, still sober, healthy, happy, studying for a mental health qualification to enable him to help other addicts. He is building a new life as his old one has gone.
BTW he has twins who he hasn't seen for 10 years and probably never will. Its a very heavy price to pay.
You are both welcome and safe here and hugely, enormously brave.

dementedma · 14/09/2013 12:53
Ladame · 14/09/2013 12:57

Ma so glad to hear about Richard Smile I don't like the orange ones can I have a green one?

Fairenuff · 14/09/2013 13:09

Some people are sooo fussy

Fairenuff · 14/09/2013 13:13

Welcome to Velvet and Why. Some very brave people posting here today. Whatever happens, keep reading, post whatever you like whenever you like. No one is going to judge you. This is a safe place.

Why there have been others where you are now and they have clawed a life back for themselves, just like Ma's wonderful brother. There have been babes that have lost their children, and got them back. All is not lost.

Would it be medically safe for you to stop drinking today or do you need to speak with your gp first?

whydidthishappen · 14/09/2013 13:14

I have visitation with my baby Monday. Will I ever get him back?

ThisIsMyTime · 14/09/2013 13:17

Whydid corse you will get him back I'm on the verge of loosing everything too day one for me too

whydidthishappen · 14/09/2013 13:17

I've been in so much shock since this all happened that I haven't even really sobbed or cried. Since admitting that I have a problem, I feel a strange sense of relief. It has been the first time that the tears have really started to fall.
For the shame I feel, the hurt I've caused. For the pointless drinking that I promised myself would deliver me something but brought me nothing but more pain.
I've a long road to travel, but I can do it if I know my baby is there for me at the end.

Ladame · 14/09/2013 13:23

Yes you will get him back. You absolutely will get him back. No question. You have started the process that will bring him back to you. Be brave, take advice, take any help you can.

Fairenuff · 14/09/2013 13:23

It's so not worth it why and once you have stopped you will also stop being scared. Scared of a life without alcohol. Once you stop, you will realise that, actually, life without alcohol is pretty damn good.

You won't be slowly killing yourself, you won't be losing relationships that you want to keep more than anything in the world, you won't feel weak and out of control.

Are you going to go to AA?

babyjane1 · 14/09/2013 13:26

why velvet and thisis, you will find great friends and support here, well done on your brave posts and you can help each other get through this, hugs to you all,
I've so been there and it does get heaps better , stay close and the brave babes will rally round x cc

ThisIsMyTime · 14/09/2013 13:28

Lots of love and support to why things will get easier just take one day at a time

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