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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off To Find The Summer Sun and Sobriety!

999 replies

Mouseface · 05/08/2013 22:38

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, take a seat and enjoy the ride. We're a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, those who are trying to give up for life, those who are giving up for a few hours because that's all that they can manage (which is fine!) or quitting just for today......

We don't wear Judgey Pants (they're far too last year darhling Wink) but we have hugs a plenty and tough love when it's needed. Which isn't often!

So, what have you got to lose? If you're reading this, you're thinking that you are no longer happy with the way you drink, which tells me that this is the Bus for you. :)

If you'd like to see where we've been so far and what we've been up to, take a peek HERE

And if you want to knnow why we're here in the first place, take a look at THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE :)

See you soon x

OP posts:
Foolonahill · 29/08/2013 21:19

Ma How is the diet going?

bobblypop · 29/08/2013 21:32

hello all....
brief post I'm afraid..
I'm back on day 1 Sad did get to day 6 though - which is and achievement for me.
Drank 3/4 of a bottle of wine last night - which I am ashamed to admit is actually less than usual Shock It is occurring to me more and more that the fact that I could easily (and often did) drink 2 bottles of wine in a night is really shockingShock
funnily enough I didnt even get any pleasure from it last night. just went to bed not having done loads of stuff I was planning too, feeling fuzzy and annoyed with myself...
so...fresh start today and feel better to be back on track...

hope everyone's evenings are going ok....Grin

guggenheim · 29/08/2013 21:43

ma I don't think there was any problem with your post, I think it was all just general discussion. hope so anyway Smile

Well done tango

bobby day 6 is good. Glad you have some perspective on the drinking.

dementedma · 29/08/2013 21:57

Thanks guggs
red you are doing brilliantly.
To whoever asked upthread about running, please let me stress I am not a runner. At all. But every year I train to jog the 5k race for life for a friend with breast cancer. It gets harder every year but I do it. This year I jogged 5k in 40 minutes - personal best is 32 - and I am trying not to undo all the good work. I suggest following the couch to 5k programme which has podcasts telling you when to jog and when to walk. Its brilliant and it works. I go from struggling to jog for a minute, to doing 40 minutes on a 9 week programme. There is a whole thread on it on MN with lots of beginners swapping running tips.

aliasjoey · 29/08/2013 22:07

Sorry I've not been around. In fact the Bus dropped off the Threads I'm On, it was only because ma posted and you were in Active Convos that I remembered Blush

I hope you're all doing okay - sorry to hear you weren't well babyj hope you're on the mend.

since not being on the Bus I am drinking more, I keep finding excuses, maybe two-three times a week (instead of target of once a week)

Did not need any excuse tonight - DD has been behaving appallingly all week, this evening DH lost his temper, I'm stuck in the middle like a United Nations peace ambassador.

Mouseface · 29/08/2013 22:33

Evening, tis me, mouse

Just popping in to say we are home and will come back properly tomorrow.

Well done to Tango and to Red who are doing great :)

Lonni - who said you were smug?

OP posts:
aliasjoey · 29/08/2013 22:55

mouse hope you had a great holiday

Pink01 · 30/08/2013 06:22

Morning babes!

Thank crunchie it is Friday. I am so ready for the weekend. I need to organise everything for the DC going back to school next week but apart from that I just want to chill out a bit and recover from the shock of going back to work! Smile

Day 12 here, not planning on drinking this weekend but I do need to be careful as the weekend is definitely the time when it would be easiest to fall off! I bought something online yesterday and it immediately came up with one of those money off vouchers for Virgin Wine once my payment went through. I sat and stared at it for a long minute, even after all this time and effort my brain was telling me I could grab a bargain!? Madness.

Sorry to rush off, but have a good day all babes. Love and strength to all of you.

Lonnie hope to 'see' you today my friend

Pink X

mrspicklepants · 30/08/2013 07:18

Good morning all just wanted to ask if any of you have ever experienced severe joint pain/spasm after a drinking binge? I used to get this in the early hours especially after going to rehydratd with a cold drink of juice etc. I would literally be laying in bed in agony with it but I stil don't really know what it was?? Only recently I'm starting to feel very achy all of the time even when I abstain. I need to look it up but am wondering if its like fibromyalgia?? Any one else recognise this could it be alcohol related?

Tanggodown1 · 30/08/2013 11:05

I was itching a lot last night and wonders if that was alcohol related ?
I'm planning on not drinking today
Iv done this before stopped for a few days and always gone back to it, starting to wonder if I'm one of those people are better of not having any alcohol , cutting it out my life altogether ( not that easy) I know but I'm sort of a 'all or nothing sort of babe'

Hope everyone's well x

Fairenuff · 30/08/2013 11:12

Sorry Mrspp don't know about that one but I'm sure someone else will be along with an answer.

The trouble is, we all get odd little aches and pains from time to time and if we are drinking, our first thought is that it's to do with too much alcohol and we've poisoned, damaged, harmed ourselves in some way.

It's part of the paranoia of drinking and adds to the self-loathing and anxiety. Hopefully you will feel better soon. Stay off the booze and if it continues, see the GP?

Anneisnotmyname · 30/08/2013 11:13

Hi just sneakily posting from dh's pc (mines broken) so will have to be quick. The thread's really moved fast the past day but thanks for all the advice, I've taken it all on board. Every post on here I think I get a little something from :)

So day 4 today - I've never got past 6 af days but have noticed that for all I keep going back to the beginning it's now easier to have an af day than it was a few months back. Back then I was congratulating myself if I had one a week Blush

Sorry not to namecheck, hope everyone has good friday :)

Fairenuff · 30/08/2013 11:28

Pink Thank crunchie it's Friday. I haven't heard that in years Smile

Joey good to see you back. I was wondering if the WW had got you chained up in her castle as so often happens when babes go MIA. If it happens again, send out an SOS and the BB SWAT team will swoop in and rescue you. (I think she melts if you throw water over her).

Ma have you seen the WalkJogRun website/app? A friend recommended it to me as I'm going to start walking in September (as in, y'know, for exercise, not just walking to the kitchen to get a cuppa Grin).

It might suit you too Venus as I know, like me, you're not keen on exercise just for the sake of it. But this website shows local walks from 1 mile to 20 miles so you can pick and chose.

Bobbly well done for getting right back on it. And for drinking less than you might have done.

Hi to all, will try and catch up a bit more later on x

aliasjoey · 30/08/2013 11:41

Hi faire Smile

I have a very unhappy 11 year old DD who has being behaving appallingly all week. We are at the end of our tether. I'm amazed the neighbours didn't call Social Services last night...

I think she's really worried about starting secondary school. I want to slap her and hug her at the same time.

Fairenuff · 30/08/2013 11:50

Yes joey it's a difficult time for everyone when they change school at that age. Changes all round for a few years now. Do you know what she is worrying about specifically?

aliasjoey · 30/08/2013 11:55

I think she's worried the work will be hard, too much homework, getting lost in the big school.

Also we've been trying to encourage her to walk, as my employer is insisting I become more flexible with my hours, and she's really not happy about that (it is quite a long way)

GladToBeSilver · 30/08/2013 12:14

Bonjour les babes

Haven't had time to read back but thought i'd jump in anyway.

Holidays were fab but predictably the sensible (there is no such thing for me) drinking didn't happen so now on day 3.......keeping busy but dreading this evening

Fairenuff · 30/08/2013 12:17

My two have a long walk joey but dh drops them halfway there in the morning on his way to work and I pick them up after school. Is there anyway you could arrange something like this? Does she have anyone to walk with, or could you offer to pay towards petrol if someone else gives her a lift with their child?

If all else fails, bribe her. Tell her it will save you 50p a day on petrol, so she can have it (or whatever). Tell her she is being very helpful by doing her bit for the family and you don't know how you'd manage without her, etc. Tell her she can have her own key and take her phone to school. Giver her incentives that make life easier for all of you.

The work will not be too hard. They pitch it to the level your child is on. I've found secondary school to be brilliant at this - lots of support if needed. Very different to back in my day.

Do you know if they use MyMaths? It's a great computer programme to work on at home, aimed at all levels. Basically, they just keep working at whatever level they are on until they get enough questions right to move up a level. The teacher can monitor it from their own laptop and set it as homework.

We got into a homework routine straight away. Come in from school, half an hour 'free time' to relax, unwind, have a snack and a drink. Then do their jobs (each have daily housework jobs which take about half an hour). Then homework (30-45mins usually), then dinner, then freetime until bed. If they don't have homework they do a little bit of revision (spellings, learning vocab, etc.) This is only Mon-Thurs btw, homework doesn't have to be done on Friday, 'cos they've got all weekend to do it. Also, Friday is sweetie treatie day Smile

Stealth boast warning my dd has just got all As and A*s in her gcses this year, so something has paid off there Grin

I talked to my Year 2 children at the school I work in about their worries going into Year 3 and most of them said that the work would be too hard. So I asked them, did they want easy work? Did they want 2+3 like they learned in reception. They all laughed and said No.

Some of them were worried about teachers shouting, being told off for something they hadn't done, oh and one of them was worried about falling out of the window Confused.

Getting lost is a big one because most do get a bit lost at sometime but they are usually in a group and manage to sort it out. My SIL is starting a teaching job at big school and she is worried about getting lost too!

Keep talking with her joey and if she shouts, walk away. Tell her you will listen when she is ready to talk.

Wow, that was a long post. Starting big school is so exciting, I'm sure she will love it! Smile

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GladToBeSilver · 30/08/2013 17:34

Phew - that took a good hour to read Grin

well I was seriously struggling about half an hour ago and then realised

that I was hungry and my blood sugar had dropped,

so had something to eat (lovely comte cheese and crackers mouse Grin) and a glass of lime and fizzy water.

And guess what - the craving has subsided - not gone, but manageble for the moment.

And this moment, the next hour, half hour, five minutes is all I need to deal with for now.

After that I will deal with any cravings, thoughts on what I am missing out on, why I feel a bit empty and 'wrong', thoughts of the offie, suggesting going to the pub to DP.

At the moment I'm not sure how I will deal with them - probably a bit of knitting, TV, reading, cleaning out the kitchen mess draw...... maybe even the gym (well sauna) Shock

I don't feel in a position to offer individual advice yet - need to earn my bus pass again, BUT, I hope that sharing my struggle at this particular moment in time, will help some of you,or any soon to be Babes who are thinking about posting for the first time

Come on board - you will only find peace and love here Grin

And then, tomorrow will be day 4.....and I will feel so BLOODY GOOD about that.

Keep on keeping on lovely BBs

Silver xxx

GladToBeSilver · 30/08/2013 19:04

okaaaaaay

killed the thread and only been back five minutes Hmm

Grin
bobblypop · 30/08/2013 19:10

Want a drink sooo badly. Have about 100 reasons to drink.....and an unopened bottle of wine in the fridge.
Please talk me out of it. Tell me all the good reasons not to....

dementedma · 30/08/2013 19:13

Yay silver.
Shit. Visitors are here. Gotta go

aliasjoey · 30/08/2013 19:46

Hello isinde I'm glad to be back. Definitely find it easier to control my drinking when I'm riding the Bus. (Maybe that's why sometimes I avoid coming on, because I'm desperate for a drink? Blush

bobbly can you ask someone to put it away somewhere? I've been known to lock mine in the car, it takes more effort to go and fetch it then...

jango36 · 30/08/2013 20:21

Hi Bobbly pot
DONT! do it :)
I too have a 100 reason to give in tonight.... but I WONT.. and why because I ll still have the same reason to drink tomorrow but I also have a cloudy head, be dehydrated, not want to exercise or do pretty much anything except pick up again :(. I ll also have saved myself around a tenner :)) think new make up or posh shampoo/conditioner :))
This is my mantra for this evening and sod it I will DEAL with the urge to drin tomorrow... In the meantime I am getting stronger and more able to fight of this shit addition/urge whatever it is.
My big regret is that I didnt find this awe inspiring bus AGES ago I could have saved myself a shed load of shit. x