My partner has slowly become more grumpy and short with me, for no apparent reason. He will sometimes apologise when he's been really over the top, but always does it again soon after, making the apology meaningless to me. Its as though its an excuse to give himself permission to behave how he likes (he thinks he can just apologise afterwards and all will be ok).
When I talk to him I am ignored so much of the time. I repeat the question which can make him snap at me, or tell me he was busy concentrating and thats why he didn't reply. But often he is 'concentrating' on mundane tasks that require no though, like buttering toast or washing up some cups at the sink, so I don't buy it. If I tell him this, he says "fine" in a really dismissive way, and nothing changes.
I'm fed up with how he talks to me. When I call his name from the other room he snaps "WHAT?". If I ask him to help me with something he makes it clear he doesn't appreciate being asked, and will often say he's too busy at the moment, then will 'forget'.
I feel that it is a waste of time sharing anything with him because he never remembers it, and will often ask me about it a day or two later, as though I had never shared the information in the first place. I am fed up of repeating myself and am feeling like the invisible woman!
But he's been very ill recently and is on some very toxic long term therapy, which apparently can alter the mood. So that makes me feel a bit cruel to expect more from him than this, although I remind myself that he was like this before getting ill, its just that getting ill made it worse than it had been.
So... I am interested if anyone lives with an ignoring misery-guts and if so, how on earth you get through the day without getting affected or infected by it? I try to rise above it but eventually become snappy myself because I am so sick of it!