how long should good sex take???

[stopusingmynicknames]

That subject got you reading!

Have just slept with internet chappy, who informed me immediately prior to having sex that I should look forward to five hours of undiminished pleasure. I pointed out that five hours of it wouldn't, in my humble opinion, be particularly pleasant, but rather bloody painful, and in the end I gave him about two hours and then feigned sleep...

Anyway, it got me thinking. How long do you girls and boys think a good shag should take???

[TDada]

Hey babes, that was my 2 hour warm up.....get ready for 5 hour main course.......make sure that Teddy Pendergrass or Barry White is playing in the background when he serves the main course.

[EdvardMonsterMunch]

This morning an everlasting passion session of around 5 mins .
Both satisfied

5 hours sounds like our idea of hell !

[swallowedAfly]

have just caught up and seen that you didn't even come in that time OP! jesus he must have been bad in bed if hours later you hadn't had an orgasm.

and if you clearly weren't coming from penetrative sex why didn't he stop and do something else? sounds an utter nob and i suspect he'd taken something to stay hard that long or has a problem with coming himself.

[SomeDizzyWhore1804]

I had a boyfriend who was all about the five hours of lurrrve- he could hump all day and never reach a conclusion and was deeply proud of it- always saying things like "I should be in porn, I can cum on cue" and on one memorable occasion challenging me to tell him "when" to do it by clicking my fingers to prove that he could, indeed, cum on cue

The man was a lunatic- controlling, sexually bizarre, narcissistic and just plain mad. Run for the hills. My excuse for putting up with this mans porn fantasy bullshit was that I was young and naive.

For what it's worth DH and I normally take 30-45mins and that seems normal from what people are saying here.

[SomeDizzyWhore1804]

CourgetteDOTcom mine was a midlander.... Have we been shagging the same man?!

[swallowedAfly]

ideal scenario for me would be massively passionate kissing and quickie followed by cuddly, cooling down and grinning lots then getting re-aroused and having a slower, longer and more savouring session itms. then there'd be some sleep and start again in the morning. it might amount to five hours but not five solid hours.

someone asked how i can tell who will or won't be great in bed - can't give a clear answer i'm afraid - it's like a sixth sense isn't it? some sort of feeling you get about their sensuality - definitely the eyes and lips are involved but couldn't describe how.

oh but here's the weird bit where i sound like a loon all of the lovers i've had since i had my son (which is very few i might add) who i've read were going to be good in bed turned out to be scorpios and i'm a scorpio too. i'm not an astrology freak but that's some coincidence isn't it?

[kalidanger]

Teehee SomeDizzy "Just plain mad"

My ex could go for hours on Viagra He'd come a few times during a 'session'... I'd come once then end up indulging him for the next four goes. Five hours sounds about right, sore fanj and aching hips also sounds about right

He/we would also be fine and satisfied with a 15 minute one. I much preferred them, funnily enough.

Agree with what everyone else has said about dickheads and their unconvincing sex-god impressions. Ex wasn't a dickead (about sex, he was JUST PLAIN MAD about 90% of the rest of the time) but he'd previously had weed-induced droop and I think he liked to assure himself that he could keep it up for hours, even with chemical assistance.

Why am I even typing this? I miss the quarter of an hours we used to have

[EllaFitzgerald]

How was he planning on timing it? I'm wondering whether he was expecting you to whip out an egg timer?

And will there be another date?

[fishandlilacs]

cripes when 19, crazily in love, I could and would shag all night, but we usually slept in between.

but older married and (still crazily in love, not just all consuming) about 15-30 minutes does me thanks!

[stopusingmynicknames]

thanks so much for all the feedback and stories!
I am seeing the chap tonight may keep my laptop on and update you all if I'm in the right position! and if he starts on the 'expect five hours, baby' I shall tell him that he has exactly one hour (love the egg timer idea) and that involves EVERYTHING, not just PIV.
I do like the man, but I suspect there's an inability to let himself go, and so he has converted that into some kind of ego statement.
standby for updates...

[Groovee]

I remember a young lad who was going on holiday and aimed to loose his virginity.

His plan was 30 mins foreplay, 30 mins penetration AND 30 mins after play. He was gutted when it was a quick fumble, 30 seconds to come and her rolling over and saying she was off.

[kalidanger]

Write him a list, OP On a clip board with a pen on a piece of string.

[DeathByTray]

I began by encouraging it, and then, er, wrote out my shopping list in my head.

After that amount of time, I'd be writing my shopping list ON his head !

I'm exhausted just reading this thread.

[Branleuse]

5 hours sounds more like a threat :|

[stopusingmynicknames]

I do love you nest of vipers! This time yesterday I was feeling like I was a bit inadequate, and now I feel so much more assertive and confident about saying what I want and need.

[akaWisey]

Is he an essex man by any chance?

I had one of those and actually it was ALL ABOUT HIM.

Also very controlling in other areas too.

[yabyum]

I'm sorry, but if I haven't had an orgasm after 15 minutes I know I'm not going to & I lose all concentration. It's like flogging a dead horse.

OP, if he doesn't make you come this time, I hope you'll tell him where to get off.

[Buzzardbird]

Tell him the only way you will consider 5 hours is if you have a serious game of chess at the same time

[bestsonever]

Hmm...Mr hours and hours, who never arrived at a conclusion but able to maintain it very firmly the whole time. Viagra? "Course not", he lied. The time he must of run out of pills was the complete opposite-smaller, softer, and about 3 times in 15 mins (poor fella, why lie when it's so obvious lol!)

[freerangeeggs]

I'm surprised your muff didn't catch fire

[DisgraceToTheYChromosome]

"Five hours undiminshed pleasure? I'll put the Ring Cylce on. You don't like Wagner? You won't able to hear it with your ears covered. Now, get started!"

[DisgraceToTheYChromosome]

Cycle!

[swannylovesu]

quite honestly, with 2 kids and a new house....i'd prefer it to fit in an advert break

[SirBoobAlot]

Two hours and no orgasm? And you're seeing him again tonight because..?

I've had some awesome quickies, and some brilliant two hour long sessions. And the opposite as well. Good sex should last as long as it still feels good.

[middleclassdystopia]

Married 10 years, still in love. Usually about 5 to 10 mins for a great orgasm. I used to think we were too quick but I think we are just so in tune with each other.

5 hours! Nonsense!