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how long should good sex take???

119 replies

stopusingmynicknames · 20/07/2013 18:16

That subject got you reading!

Have just slept with internet chappy, who informed me immediately prior to having sex that I should look forward to five hours of undiminished pleasure. I pointed out that five hours of it wouldn't, in my humble opinion, be particularly pleasant, but rather bloody painful, and in the end I gave him about two hours and then feigned sleep...

Anyway, it got me thinking. How long do you girls and boys think a good shag should take???

OP posts:
Sidge · 20/07/2013 20:11

Two hours without coming yourself?

Jeez I'd have given up and gone to put the kettle on!

Sometimes I like a quickie, sometimes a longer session but I think after about 15-20 minutes of pumping I'd have had enough.

WeAreEternal · 20/07/2013 20:15

I have had some amazing 5 minute quickies and some equally amazing hour long sex sessions.

Usually though we have 30-45 minutes of foreplay (usually inc oral sex) and 30 minutes of penetrative sex.

Sparklysilversequins · 20/07/2013 20:34

Hmm with my last man we used to go all night. However a. He was damn hot and b. we only saw each other every week to 10 days.

Trouble is though it raises expectations so when you get a bit further into the relationship they expect the same and it just can't be maintained can it?

In general though fast and furious is ideal for me Grin.

phoenixmai1 · 20/07/2013 20:38

5 hours sounds painful, mmmm 2 hours sounds good but I get around 45 mins but I cant complain coz its always amazing Wink

BlackMini · 20/07/2013 20:41

Bloody hell, after even one hour of a man continuously humping away things would be erm... dry to say the least. Sounds painful and crap.

ihearsounds · 20/07/2013 20:42

Omg all that time and no orgasm Shock

IF you are going to see him again. Lay down some rules, mainly being no mention of time beforehand.. If he cares he will take it on board. No amount of 'well I know woman' is acceptable because of the obvious. He don't know you and regardless of what he thinks we aren't the same. Yes we like long sessions, well some of us, but we don't want to be told beforehand we are going to be fucked for xx amount of time. If he isn't willing to listen, well tell him to go home and wank for 5 hours, and as proof you want it filmed.

AKissIsNotAContract · 20/07/2013 20:45

After about 20-30 mins without an orgasm I'd have said 'when's it my turn to come?' or similar.

Twinklestein · 20/07/2013 20:59

@ ihearsounds: Why on earth would she want to see him again after worst sex of the century...?

It was bad on an industrial scale.

SelectAUserName · 20/07/2013 21:05

AKiss I think I'd have held up a card with "Error: HTTP 404. G-spot not found. The link to my fanjo is broken"

magnolia74 · 20/07/2013 21:10

Bloody hell..... 2 hours and no orgasm!?!?

I suppose I'm lucky, after 22 years with dh I can still have an orgasm about 10 minutes in Grin but then I think that's because we know what the other one wants/needs at the time Blush sorry tmi

AKissIsNotAContract · 20/07/2013 21:31

I wouldn't let a bloke keep hammering away for 2 hours. I'd have to put us both out if our misery and make him stop.

Dahlen · 20/07/2013 22:40

I've certainly had all-day marathons in the stop-start sense, but five hours of humping? No thanks. Hmm

You can tell that Viagra was designed by men. I've canvassed a lot of opinions on this and absolutely no woman ever has said that they want an erection to last for hours ? because it's tedious quite frankly. What would be nice instead would be a pill that resulted in several hours of skilful foreplay instead. Wink However, a lot (but not all) of the men I speak to seem to think that long erections are the best thing ever and makes them super studs. Weird mismatch of opinions.

ExcuseTypos · 20/07/2013 22:50

You let him hump you for 2 hours and didn't even have an orgasm? It's no wonder you didn't, but surely you should have told him to hump off somewhere else?

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8isgood · 20/07/2013 23:02

God that sounds like sex with my ex :-(

And that was shite :-(

If you are "connected" sorry about cliche but I happen to believe it true then sex can be a 5 minute wonder :-)

Or

However long you want really but to hump away for hour on end surely is like watching a man in a yellow fluorescent jacket digging a hole in the ground with a manual drill!!!

Shite you must have lost the will to live!!

maleview70 · 20/07/2013 23:38

Sex for 2 hours in this heat? Are you mad?

I could just about manage 5 minutes in this (if I could be bothered at all!)

Would rather have an ice cream and sit in the garden with my feet in the paddling pool!

Think my DW is very much in agreement!

dontyouwantmebaby · 20/07/2013 23:55

OP - anyone that informs a prospective partner before sex that they should be looking forward to X amount of hours of pleasure is surely a complete twat. Small wonder nothing happened for you!

How would he have liked it if you'd announced similar to him? He sounds truly horrendous.

dontyouwantmebaby · 21/07/2013 00:01

and there is no optimum length of time that 'good' sex should take, it depends on how you are both feeling at the time. sometimes a quickie is all that is wanted/needed, other times a 5 hour session of changing position etc is great. 5 hours of non-stop penetration? tedious in the extreme.

either the OP is a schoolboy testing the water to see 'what wimmin REALLY want' or else, I dunno. if for real, then please don't 'feign sleep', just bloody tell them, its the kindest thing to do.

Kaluki · 21/07/2013 00:39

2 hours???
I bet he's on coke!
I'd be bored shirtless and numb by then Grin
I think about 30-45 minutes (including foreplay) is quite enough for me!!

Wetwood656 · 21/07/2013 00:53

Ha ha imperialblether but that was all foreplay with bonnie prince Charlie and no ending ever in sight, remember?

SolidGoldBrass · 21/07/2013 02:15

Was this man actually saying that FIVE HOURS of non-stop PIV was supposed to be a treat? I would have hooted with laughter at him. Several hours 'in bed with' someone can be great fun, but that's when it's a mix of oral, handjobs, cuddles, other stuff, chatting, snacks, snogging, etc. A five-hour session of BDSM might be enjoyable if you're both into it. But five hours unrelieved PIV? Urgh, horrible prospect.

courgetteDOTcom · 21/07/2013 02:42

Reminds me of a guy I used to see, especially when you said about control (is he a Midlander?) we had three days where we only got out of bed for essentials and had lots of sex, but wasn't just three days of sex and was actually fun.

Kiki2822 · 21/07/2013 02:51

15-45mins.

Buzzardbird · 21/07/2013 08:18

I don't know how you didn't laugh in his face! What a total knob!
Am also curious to know how people know how long they take? I have no idea. Not even a ball park figure.

TDada · 21/07/2013 08:24

Be wary of ego/maturity of man promising 5 hours. Did he say that he needed XXL condoms as well. Did he tell the story about fainting when his blood rushed to the other part if his body?

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