I make him miserable

[Dylanlovesbaez]

Dp hates me. He tells me often enough and how he can't stand living with me. We have a 15 month old sd a d when i say this is no life her he tells me im selfish. He 'works' from home and is just always around. He has no friends, doesn't talk about anything and does not handle stress well at all. I have no money, where do I go and what do I do? There's so much more than this, I need to be loved and cared for. Fed up with feeling worthless.

You aren't a failure, you aren't the bully. Recognising that and moving on for your daughter's sake and your own is the very opposite of failing.

You think it's down to you because he tells you that it's down to you. Andy Murray's training includes sessions with coaches and sports psychologists telling him 'you're a champion!'... and he's won the game before he's even stepped on the court. You've got someone spending all day every day saying 'I'm normal, you're worthless and if I treat you badly, it's your fault'. It's bound to screw you up.

The only way to get out of that mindset is to put a lot of distance between you and the abuser. If you walked out today and cut contact, I guarantee that two or three months from now you would wake up one morning, slap your hand to your forehead and go 'what the hell was I thinking!'

When I said "it will work out" I meant your life not the relationship.

In fact, for your life to work out, I'd say the relationship has to end.

Well there's a reason he has nobody OP... & only he can fix that.