Hello everyone 
Still here, increasingly uncomfortable, and was reminded today that DS was 8 days, not 7 days before his due date. That means that as of Monday I will be more pregnant than I have ever been before. Which I think is entirely unfair given the utterly crap pregnancy I have had. I just want it to be over, and for life to recommence really. And I KNOW that I am not yet even at my due date, but I expected acrobat to follow his siblings' example and put me out of my misery a bit earlier.
Thanks for the advice regarding when I go into labour (note to my uterus: yes, this involves you getting your act together instead of pulling these half hearted attempts which merely confuse and now tire me).
He hasn't a "right" to be at the hospital at all, and my doula is very much aware of the changed situation so i am not too concerned really whether or not he is aware.
I spent the afternoon with DSis and BIL, who my DCs really do adore so much. TB had an attack of chest pains whilst we were sitting in her kitchen. I'm sure she isn't putting it on, but to be honest she has been told to cut out alcohol and cholesterol high foods, but was drinking wine with lunch and eating buttered bread. I know I'm being a bit judgy, but if she was that worried, she'd be avoiding that surely? I also had to lay the law down when TB started trying to discipline my DCs in front of me, and to tell them what they were and weren't allowed to do at the beach. To DSis this is "normal" and I think she was probably annoyed with me for raising it. Anyway, I did raise it, and now I think I need some more time apart from TB as she obviously still has no respect for me as a parent to my DCs.
I shall be good at put all those concerns into a box and bury it for now as well
Other than that, all was fine with DSis until she mentioned she'd been at a lecture on the new risks of co-sleeping, and started telling me how it the new paper is pretty much conclusive, that midwives are to be banned from recommending or speaking at all positively about co-sleeping, and that if an infant dies of SIDS in a co-sleeping situation, then the UK Chief Safeguarder has said that it will become a safeguarding issue. I told her I didn't want to argue, that I had read the responses to the BMJ paper as well as the paper itself (but I am very very dull like that), looked at the data used in the 5 studies used to prepare the paper, and that I remain of the opinion that it is likely to be the best option for me. I know she is just expressing her concerns, and she has obviously been delivered a fairly scary lecture, but she honestly thinks that I am completely off my rocker for contemplating it. I wish these sorts of things never came up for discussion 
She is very different from me though. (My theory is that DPs preferred her because she is far more conventional, ordinary, conservative, does things properly, and sensibly etc)
ballyhoo thanks for reading my threads and adding your support here. My dad can't help me practically because died suddenly 2 years ago, but he is still helping me, because I remember the twinkle in his eye when we had great plans brewing between us, and I remember him saying how proud he was of me, just a fortnight before he dropped dead. He had a special jumper he wore to meet DS and DD for the first time, and it is packed up in my hospital bag as it is to be the first thing that acrobat is wrapped in, as opposed to hospital towel or blanket.
Right, I am off to have a bath with clary sage. Whilst drinking raspberry leaf tea and munching on some fresh pineapple. I have boxing up of more emotions to do after the day with TB and DSis. Grrrr to them making me feel, intentionally or not, like a bit of a rubbish mum.