Is this financial abuse or am i reading it wrong.

[Darkesteyes]

I know it seems like neither of them are badly off but shes contributing by staying home to look after children so that he can/could push forward in his career but something about it still says financial abuse to me.
What do other MNers think?

www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2013/jul/12/money-biggest-taboo-relationship

Gosh he sounds like such an arse!

I liked his book "The scent of dried roses" where he wrote of his depression and of his mother's suicide (sad). However, after having read the linked article and a few of his earlier columns, my dislike of the man

His wife has to do the majority of the housework and child-care and she also has a "part-time" lecturing job (I bet she has to do many hours of preparation and marking in her free-time). Yet, because she brings in less money, her contribution to the family is that if a skivvy and her opinions are to be disregarded. His disdain for her is clear to see.

Dislike of the man grows.

I have had the germ of an idea. I'll post it on the other thread as well.

It's all very well us sitting here fuming at him calling him a cunting arsewipe under our breaths. But that won't help him and more importantly, it won't help his downtrodden wife who is clearly not an equal partner.

He must have the vestiges of decency. After all, his wife has not actually left him. So why don't we invite him onto MN? Not to lambast him but just to talk to him about economic equality and equality in the home. This wouldn't work if we all mouth off at him, but surely we could do a bit of gentle re-education?

What do you think? Should we ask MNHQ to invite him on?

The entire premise of the column has always annoyed me - he is a man in a houseful of women. OMG! Will his balls drop off??!

Sure, invite him in, if he can take it.

He got truly enlightened by the comments in the Guardian itself, if he bothered to read them. Both male and female.

Another vote for an invite for a MN chat.

Yup to MN chat! Would loove to ask him what 'job' he thinks SAHP of SN kids do...

Link to other thread anyone?

wow what an arsehole
feel so sorry for his wife

he might bot have a wife for much longer with that attitude towards her

I hope she divorces the swine!

also that swhy he things its a taboo and an issue
because what he is doing is horrible

most people that share everything, like me and dh don't argue about money and its not an issue

even when I earnt more than dh we still shared everything
I wouldn't not have wanted him to have less than me

I couldn't live with a, well I wont call him a man because hes not, but I could never live with someone like that
yuk

that's why he thinks it's taboo and an issue

Well said. Yes, let's get him on here and show him it's not taboo :)

What is amazing is that he earns actual money for writing this drivel www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2013/feb/09/taking-kids-to-school

At that link.

Sneer at allergies? Sneer at children? Imply wife is unstable and he does it all?

This guy sounds abusive all round, not 'just' fiscally. :(

And he's paid to mock his family, be spiteful about them and spout how hard his life is... Making money off smugly saying how shit his family is. (And apparently everyone else, after all allergies don't exist in his world. How dare those allergic kids make life harder for his wee begotten self as he whines about his children FFS!!!)

Does anyone have a link to the other thread? I'm rubbish at searching on here.

OMG is he serious?

His daughter telling him he hates him every day?
He assuming all other parents have such a relationship with their children?

I hope it a farce.

And yes, he sounds like a man I would never ever be married to.
Invite him on MN.

And working for the Guardian, that's even more shocking.

His face is really familiar. Im sure i saw him in a magazine a few months ago moaning about a one night stand he had.
And how the woman was "distinctly average"
With all these other revelations too he is sounding like a VERY emotionally abusive "man"

Re that article on getting children up and out for school, well if that's what it's like every day, I'd hate to live through that, either as a parent or a child. Doing packed lunches at breakfast time? Crikey our kids do their own (same age) and they do them to evening before, put their own clothes out the evening before, set the alarm clock to make sure I get up in time for getting them up :-) Breakfast stuff is set out, as much as possible the night before. No arguing over what to eat, I'd be mortified if any child said they hated me, really why would you start the day with so much stress and bad feelings? Definitely he should never be a SHAP! In any case, that article was absolute drivel and I'd be embarrassed for that to be published under my name.

His column amazes me for the reason snazzy says. I look forward to my column about what it's like to be the only woman in my work environment. Being outnumbered is my everyday experience and then when there is,by chance, more than just one woman in a meeting my male colleagues say "oooh a coven" and we laugh gamely whereas Toss Pott gets his own newspaper column about it.

He's dreadful and has form for this kind of obtuseness.

He is The Guardian's very own Katie Hopkins, although I suspect more clueless.