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Another Thread (LoserNoMore...again)

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LoserNoMore · 10/07/2013 16:58

Hi, so on another thread but not really much further forward, in fact I feel worse. Anyway I've been to the doctors and have Anti D's and referred to a counsellor. Hopefully these will work.

Thanks to everyone for their support on previous threads and PMs too, it is all very much appreciated.

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 12/07/2013 16:34

hmmm, so JD has a nice affect on you. That is NOT a bad thing. That is a good thing. Take it, store it, FEEL it.

Now... all the yukky stuff that you have stashed under the rug HAS to come out at some point, get sorted, boxed, binned and moved on. Counselling will help, ADs will help and just acknowledging things and knowing how you can/will react helps. There comes a time when you just cannot ignore it any longer. It (emotions) ends up erupting like a volcano and then wont stop unless its dealt with properly. Trust me, Ive been there, done that, got the t shirt. I have also worked through it, found the light and got out of the tunnel of shit. IT can be done.

AndMiffyWentToSleep · 12/07/2013 17:48

I'm jealous of your beach trip!
I tried growing vegetables. Then I found out fruit was so much easier but maybe I'm just too lazy!

pmgkt · 12/07/2013 19:26

Lnm I have no experience to help you but I was concerned at the end of the last post but glad things have moved forward. Re JD stick with enjoying it, have something happy but don't put the pressure on yourself of ifs and maybes and futures. Just go with the flow

Waterwater · 12/07/2013 20:57

LNM realy good to see you are busy having fun time today. The JD thing makes sense to be cautious but when I read today how you said he makes you feel - well I think you just have to accept a bit of serendipity when it comes your way, girl.

When things feel right, that's what it feels like : effortless. In fact it feels so easy you could be fooled into thinking that feeling is easy to come by. It certainly isn't though.

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LoserNoMore · 12/07/2013 21:17

Well we didn't get to the garden centre. Ended up in a nice little seaside town. Decided spur of the moment to book into a little B&B. Made a trip to Tesco for some essentials underwear and spent the rest of the time sitting on the beach. Considering the crappiest days I've just had its a welcome break and good to be away from the house for a night. JD having a shower and we are just heading out for a bit. Certainly beats sitting in on my own feeling sorry for myself.

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LoserNoMore · 12/07/2013 21:25

Oh and I will be going to the garden centre tomorrow, going to get started on the vegetable patch when I get home.

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Waterwater · 12/07/2013 21:37

Really happy for you. Life as it should be : spontaneous and fun. Sounds romantic in the proper sense of the word ie about enjoying your time together.

imtheonlyone · 12/07/2013 23:23

Grin Yay! Good for you! Just what you needed! Wink

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LoserNoMore · 13/07/2013 01:20

:(

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tightfortime · 13/07/2013 01:37

What's up?

imtheonlyone · 13/07/2013 08:20

You ok LNM? Envy

buildingmycorestrength · 13/07/2013 08:29

Hi LNM. Feeling blue? These are difficult times.

Waterwater · 13/07/2013 09:16

LNM ?

lazarusb · 13/07/2013 10:34

Please check in. However you're feeling, there's always someone here.

Waterwater · 13/07/2013 10:56

Ups and downs are par for the course. Let us now how you are , just even a hi.

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 13/07/2013 14:52

You ok?

imtheonlyone · 13/07/2013 14:56

I hope you're busy gardening and that's why you've not had chance to check in.

I'm just off to make myself and DP if he's lucky a toblerone cheesecake Grin

AndMiffyWentToSleep · 13/07/2013 16:59

Hey, LNM, what's up?

MissStrawberry · 13/07/2013 18:15

LNM - if you post Sad at half one in the morning and then don't return people are going to worry about you.

Post by all means but let people know what you need. If you just need to post Sad and nothing else and don't want a response then let people know.

No one wants you Sad alone.

Waterwater · 13/07/2013 20:21

I keep checking backs. Would just assume you are busy and don't have phone charged, except for the blue face message. Can't help worrying. Do just give us a nod, eh?

lazarusb · 13/07/2013 22:32

Bumping again. Hope you're ok LNM x

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 13/07/2013 22:39

also just checking in before I head off to bed. LNM hope you are ok, and had a nice weekend. Despite the sad face.

Could it be that tablets interrupted a 'nice time'?

Waterwater · 13/07/2013 23:01

Good night x

imtheonlyone · 13/07/2013 23:06

Night all. Am in cheesecake heaven GrinGrinGrinGrinGrinWink

ChipsNEggs · 13/07/2013 23:42

Oi! I've logged in on dial up to check you're ok as our villages cables have been nicked again and 3G connection is non existant, we're lucky if we get a mobile signal. How did we ever think this was acceptable?

You don't need to explain yourself, just let us know you're ok. We care and you do matter.