This is my first post in an age - I lurk on here a lot, know most of you regulars by name & I know you don't pull any punches - here goes -
I met a guy last night. First date from an online dating site. He's the 2nd person I've met over maybe 6mos. 1st one didn't go anywhere but was a nice afternoon. I am not that experienced in the online thing.
This time was different. We had a good initial connection over text/email. He phoned me which was a bit of a shock(!) and arranged a date.
He's an attractive, arty kind of guy, great fun, a bit zany and had me laughing out loud in no time. We had a really fun time and at the end of the night left me in no doubt that he found me sexy and fun and wanted to see me again, and soon...
I'm 43 years old. I'm living in the husk of a broken 10 yr marriage (together 16 years). H still lives here with me and our 2 children. The marriage broke down when I found the usual shit on his phone, married affair profile, sexts to randomers, and emails for appointments with sex-workers whilst abroad. I went into a 6mo hysterical bonding after finding the shit, and 6mo later asked him if I could look at his phone. He refused, and that night I moved him out of our bedroom. He now lives down the end of the house. We have seperate lives, just coming together for bills mortgage and the children. Its been like this for 1year and 3mos. I find it extremely hard hard going - feel stressed just being around him, not good for my mental health.
He's leaving to work abroad for a few months in October. Our eldest (12)is clear on what's going on, (obvs i didnt tell her what her dad had done!!) and she encourages me to go out and do my own thing. Younger child (5) just accepted we don't share a room anymore.
Back to me. I haven't had any engagement with a man or sex for 6mos and haven't been too bothered (bar a v brieg fling with an old flame). Would it be so terrible if I hooked up with this date guy, for short-term fun, for sex, for some pleasure? I'm fairly sure he's not a keeper, he's a bit of a rolling stone & will be off travelling etc
But I like him, am very attracted etc
In October I'll be very restricted socially between work & commute & children so should I make hay (and roll in it? :) whilst I can??
Date sent me a sweet & sexy text this morning .., & asked if I'd like to come to his "for dinner" ;-)
I guess I'm worried about being slutty at jumping into bed with him. But on the other hand I'm thinking life is short & what's stopping me... Not like the H will hold back when he gets his wings izzit
Sorry this was soooo long & thanks for reading