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oooh i feel ridiculous

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ImNotBloody14 · 21/06/2013 20:21

So silly. I'm a NCing regular. and a real proper grown up, I swear

I fancy someone. But I cant get up the guts to let him know or even to contact him. I've added him on FB (it's taken me months to build up to that) and he accepted. he's liked a few of my posts and a photo. I keep seeing him online (butterflies) and want to make contact but cant think of anything to say that isn't a blatant excuse to get talking to him. AFAIK he's single- well it says so on his FB.

arrgh this is so frustrating. if this was my best friend she would be chatting away to him no problem.

don't know what i'm posting for- just need to get this out of my head.

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MissStrawberry · 03/07/2013 07:55

Good for you OP!

Don't ever do anything you are not 100% happy about. Nerves at first kiss are perfectly normal.

My first snog with now DH went for ages and I told him I was too scared to stop in case his face said it was crap GrinBlush.

deliasmithy · 03/07/2013 08:15

I had an infamous third date snig failure. I was too nervous and I knew it was coming and suddenly panicked so turned away at the last moment. My 'date' ended up smearing a snig down my cheek.

The following week Ion next date i made sure I got totally hammered which seemed to help remove my inhibitions!

Kirstywirsty · 03/07/2013 08:44

Still sounds as though you had fun 14 when is your dinner date?

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ImNotBloody14 · 03/07/2013 09:44

We did have fun- apart from scary movie i dont think we stopped laughing the whole time. Yes tickling of the ' lets get some physical contact going here' variety Grin

Next date isnt til 14th which is the dinner date. But im sure we'll arrange to see each other between now and then. Cant wait that long to see him again!

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ImNotBloody14 · 03/07/2013 09:51

Btw i am really loving all your own first date/ first snig stories! Grin

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SuperiorCat · 03/07/2013 10:00

Agree with stonesteps

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 03/07/2013 10:06

He must be shy too!!

How old is he?

I don't think I have ever snigged a man first of moved in for a snig.

I do remember my worst every snig, I was 12/13 and looking at the boy, it was freezing cold and he had snot running from his nose onto his mouth, and I knew I was going to have to snig THAT, I'm sure I ran away!

You cannot wait until 14th Shock No way....

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ImNotBloody14 · 03/07/2013 10:30

I dont think hes shy- he doesnt seem to be. He just seemed to follow my responses if that makes sense? And as i said waaay early on in the thread i have a tendancy to put the barriers up. I didnt want to and could feel myself doing it but just couldnt let them down. I think a wee bit of alcohol is the key for next time.

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Numberlock · 03/07/2013 10:31

Hmmm I'm in two minds about this one. Tickling but he didn't move in for a kiss, not even when it was time to say goodbye?

I wouldn't be meeting him again till you go on a proper date.

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 03/07/2013 10:39

Yes you did mention barriers, nothing wrong with taking things slow tbh. :) but not as slow as the 14th as we need an update before then

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ImNotBloody14 · 03/07/2013 11:02

He did lean in for a kiss but i moved away. My stupid brain got in the way.

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ImNotBloody14 · 03/07/2013 11:04

I havent kissed anyone in almost two years! Shock Forget how its done Grin

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WhiteBirdBlueSky · 03/07/2013 12:46

OK. You're going to have to get drunk.

deliasmithy · 03/07/2013 13:26

Yep that sounds similar to my situation. One of the cures is to dress up and looks amazing and have a few drinks

MissStrawberry · 03/07/2013 13:40

Don't get drunk. Just have enough to give yourself some confidence if you think that is what you need.

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ImNotBloody14 · 03/07/2013 13:51

No not drunk, just a bit more relaxed.

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HerrenaHarridan · 03/07/2013 15:21

It's ok to take things slowly, you've both made it clear your interested.

Enjoy the flirting stage, it doesn't last for ever Grin

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ImNotBloody14 · 03/07/2013 15:31

I am really enjoying it. I dont remember ever enjoying the dating/ getting to know each other stage as much with anyone else. Its nice.

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thistlelicker · 03/07/2013 20:29

Have u heard from him today

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ImNotBloody14 · 03/07/2013 20:43

Yes, the usual texts on and off through the day.

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claudedebussy · 03/07/2013 20:52

sounds very promising!!!

thistlelicker · 03/07/2013 20:58

Slow steps make big difference

headlesslambrini · 03/07/2013 21:28

shamelessly marking my place - I need to know what happens

sarahandduck · 03/07/2013 21:32

Loving this thread.....I am also shamelessly marking my place

ifitsnotanarse · 03/07/2013 22:49

I am available if you need a babysitter between now and the 14th. Anything to get the snigging started.

BTW - FFS OP Grin