I know some of you may think I am totally in the wrong but 4 years ago I made friends with a lady as our sons were both in the same class at school. She introduced me to her DH who like me was a mad golfer. We started to play a lot of golf together. Fast forwards 4 years and yes, her DH is my new man and we have just moved in together.
Our lads get on quite well and have not taken it too badly - they are both in their teens. I can live with being a bad person if that's what you all think of me, but both my new partner and I have lived with long marriages which didn't make us happy and there was other s* too long to go into here, which both of us are relieved and happy to live behind.
There has been some gossip at the club and elsewhere, but my partner and I believe in each other and our love and we hope that one day people will look at us and know that we did the right thing to move on.
The bit I can't get my head around is that of all the single people in the world to see our Ex's have picked each other to date. It feels so weird. Am I wrong to think that - I don't want my Ex to be unhappy as he is my son's Dad but she is everything he didn't like in a woman, over weight, reckless with money, she has debts and a bad credit rating, a dirty house full of cats, she hates holidays and going abroad. One of the reasons my new partner left was that she rarely had sex with him and presumably my Ex will want to have sex? And of course everything will always be my new partner's fault for ever for the rest of her life, unless my Ex leaves her, in which case I assume it will all become his fault!
Also I think it is confusing for the kids and a bit weird for any mutual friends. We are trying to rise above it and simply demonstrate by our love and commitment and our refusal to slag them off and to always wish them the best that we don't actually care but I do wonder if there are mind games going on here.