what i would give to be a happy home again.

[ste8]

there is no question about it nothing beats a happy home. i have two children boy and a girl. and i live apart from there dad. when he was here and it was good it was very good. yes we had problems. i dont think any couple doesnt. just wanted all the rest of you mums to read this and remember how it was or how it is know when it is all good. just remember those times and if those times are now cherish them and hold on to them. because you never know when they might go away.

if there is even the littlest of chances that you can regain that happiness let nothing or no one stand in the way of that.

love to all the good mums out there..xxx

stephanie

Hi Stephanie

Your post makes a lot of sense. We spend our time complaining about the small stuff, but you're right - we should stop occasionally and realise that perhaps we should be thankful for what we've got - a happy home, our health etc etc...

hi blue2

thank you..

So if it was so good how come you live apart now?

one day you will have blue skies. the next day it may rain. life will be a bumpy road we cannot help that. and yes i would prefer we were living together now. i dont want to drag out the past just want to hold on to the good times we spent together. and i wish so many other women would do the same.

Can't have been that wonderful if you've split up!

But blue skies and rain are involuntary events outside of our control, so I'm not sure what it is you're suggesting 'mums' do?

The positive spin on your OP is to cherish what you have that is good.

The negative spin would be to suck up terrible behaviour because there are occasional good bits, or it was once good in the long ago past.

What is it you mean to say?

I don't understand the OP is making either.

the point the OP is making, sorry..

Surely, if a relationship has gone badly wrong, it's much more constructive to focus on the future and make that the best it can be rather than keep harking back to the past and wishing for something that isn't going to happen? 'Holding onto the good times' is what keeps a lot of women trapped in very bad and even abusive relationships.

What happened, Stephanie ?

i was simply saying that there is nothing sweeter than a happy home.

and i wish all the good mums out there the very best.

as i know that deep down that is what we are all searching for.

A HAPPY HOME. XXX

Think op is having a nostalgic moment.

But your HAPPY HOME seems to involve being back with some bloke that you've either left or has left you OP. That's not healthy.

You can make yourself happy though and your DCs?

" i wish all the good mums out there the very best."

Don't forget us bad mums will you?... ...

Either that or it's a man reminding us "little woman" of how a man makes a happy home.

Sorry Ste8 but that is bullshit and very offensive. There are many many women who are beaten black and blue by their men - is that a happy home? You are off your rocker if you think that having a happy home equals having a man around.

A happy home can be a home with just one person, living alone; or two sharing; or a traditional family unit; or a single mum/dad; whatever. It matters not WHO is in the home.

happy home for me. when it comes it will come. not sure who or when it will be but when it comes it will. sorry forgot about the bad mums to.

A little more water in it next time, perhaps...

You are making no sense.

i was not saying that a happy home means being with a man i was simply saying that

THERE IS NOTHING SWEETER THAN A HAPPY HOME!!!!

no where in those words does it say with a man. simply saying i no so many mums who want a happy home and search for it so hard.

THERhubarb is a bit blunt but they are right, happiness is when you make themost of what you have. You dont need to be rich, or have a partner to be happy. If you're unhappy because of lack of money, or without a partner then you should think about how you evaluate your happiness.

Its nice to look back, but its more important to look to how you can be happy in the future.

"yes i would prefer we were living together now."

That's where you mention a man. You're saying your HAPPY HOME includes your ex.... and you seem to be looking at the past through rose-coloured goggles.

" i no so many mums who want a happy home and search for it so hard."

What are they 'searching' for these mums? Don't they have anywhere to live?

You said it was all good when their dad was around and then you appealed to all mums to remember the happy times and hold onto them in case they go away, which implies that those happy times came with a man attached. I'm sorry but I know bullshit when I see it and this is a grade one example.

What is your bloody point? Because all of this guff is really getting on my tits right now.

let me make this very clear to everyone.

this was suppost to be a feel good thread.

whatever makes your home happy. when you are at your happiest.
if its even ice cream then i was simply saying there is nothing sweeter than that feeling.

and i wish you all the best in holding on to that feeling.

we all may have different things that give us that feeling.

stephanie