what i would give to be a happy home again.

[ste8]

there is no question about it nothing beats a happy home. i have two children boy and a girl. and i live apart from there dad. when he was here and it was good it was very good. yes we had problems. i dont think any couple doesnt. just wanted all the rest of you mums to read this and remember how it was or how it is know when it is all good. just remember those times and if those times are now cherish them and hold on to them. because you never know when they might go away.

if there is even the littlest of chances that you can regain that happiness let nothing or no one stand in the way of that.

love to all the good mums out there..xxx

stephanie

And you signed up to Mumsnet to tell us that?

This your first post is it?

let me make this very clear to everyone.

this was suppost to be a feel good thread.

whatever makes your home happy. when you are at your happiest.
if its even ice cream then i was simply saying there is nothing sweeter than that feeling.

and i wish you all the best in holding on to that feeling.

we all may have different things that give us that feeling.

stephanie

yes

You imply you don't have a happy home anymore. A happy home is what YOU make it. There's no reason why you can't have a happy home now if you choose to make the best of your situation as it is. I take it there are no ongoing health problems, huge financial problems or an abusive ex that is making it difficult to do that?

So why isn't your home happy at the moment? What's preventing that?

Yes a happy home is lovely. Hope you have one soon OP

my home is happy.

Look, I get this.
She is sort of wallowing. But she can post what she wants and wallow if she wants.
Reality will bite, but for now she is wallowing.
Best wishes stephanie. x

Why?

Most people come onto Mumsnet for advice or support or a chat. Not many would join just to tell everyone to treasure their happy homes because they never know when they might lose them.

Your posts make no sense. If you had a story to tell and this was your point then fair enough, but just to say that?

You are clearly saying that a home needs a man to be happy:

" i live apart from there dad. when he was here and it was good it was very good. yes we had problems. i dont think any couple doesnt. just wanted all the rest of you mums to read this and remember how it was or how it is know when it is all good. just remember those times and if those times are now cherish them and hold on to them. because you never know when they might go away. "

You are referring to the men going away as your man clearly has done. That was the point of your post, to tell mums to treasure their men because they are what makes a happy home.

To which I still respond with bullshit

Actually I am going to join in.
I yearn for summer days, lots of them. That last for weeks on end.
With maybe a soft breeze from time to time.

Well if your home is happy then why say 'what I would give to be a happy home again?'..... as that implies it isn't.
I don't understand?

Ilikethebreeze sorry about that, I had curry last night.

i was mentioning my happy home in my thread. every woman or man is different. for some it may be there pet dog that makes them happy. if its your pet dog that makes you happy hold on to them moments as you never know when you may lose them.

some maybe their children as it is also in my case. so i cherish every moment i can with them.

if you feel it is bullshit. i appreciate your words and i am sorry you feel that way.

stephanie

THERhubarb, you can post what you like.
No need to apologise to me

i named the thread that because how many people want a happy home again?

how many people would give anything for a happy home again?

Is it too early for ??

Bloody hell this gets worse.

Look OP, no need to keep signing off with your name, we got it the first time round.
You clearly implied that a home was happy with a man in it in your first post.
You did actually say that your home was no longer happy and then you changed your mind and said it was happy.

Now whatever you are taking, I think it might be making you just a teensy bit loopy so put the happy pills away and make yourself a nice cup of tea. You might feel a bit better after that.

Can I also prescribe a week living in Manchester to knock a bit of cynicism in you. It's healthy you know and it stops you coming across as some loose pink candyfloss.

ok

Boggle

What is your bloody point? Because all of this guff is really getting on my tits right now

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

Rhubarb, I think I

Well Op, I have to say your post had the effect of kicking me when I am already very much down.

I had a pretty much happy home until very recently. But there were moments of unhappiness that I decided to address. I called my partner and the father of our son on his useless selfish unkind behaviour. We argued about this on and off, and now he has left.

My home is not very happy at the moment. I'm sad, DS is disappointed, EXP is sad. But I am trying to look to the future and cling onto the fact that my I've done the right thing for DS and I.

Hey, at least you can remember and cherish the good times!

(OP it's 'their' not 'there' if it's indicating possession.)

"how many people would give anything for a happy home again?"

I'd actually hope they wouldn't give too much. When the happiness comes at too great a sacrifice - as whopayswhat experienced - then it's pretty empty and difficult to look back on with anything other than sadness.

OK, so why not get back with their dad, if that was what your ideal happy home was?