what i would give to be a happy home again.

[ste8]

there is no question about it nothing beats a happy home. i have two children boy and a girl. and i live apart from there dad. when he was here and it was good it was very good. yes we had problems. i dont think any couple doesnt. just wanted all the rest of you mums to read this and remember how it was or how it is know when it is all good. just remember those times and if those times are now cherish them and hold on to them. because you never know when they might go away.

if there is even the littlest of chances that you can regain that happiness let nothing or no one stand in the way of that.

love to all the good mums out there..xxx

stephanie

Spot on Cogito. Plus I could do without feeling I'm going to regret this forever, (you've given me sound advice on other threads, but I've name changed for a day).

Op, welcome to MN. You should feel free start threads on whatever you want, but this is a place where people shout loudly when they disagree and your OP is quite controversial as it suggests that we should hold onto men in order to keep a 'happy home' regardless of whether in reality there is some bad stuff happening also.

Dear OP, what you're saying is very sweet and I'm sure we all appreciate a reminder of being aware of those moments when things are good in a relationship.

I just think that the politics of marriage are very complex and it's very easy to fall into bad habits, and negative dynamics. A lot of the time, nobody is really to blame. There are lot of forces that push you in one direction or another and there's not a lot of control from either side, e.g. long working hours, lots of domestic work at home, no money, no free time etc etc. Children bring another dimension to most couples and it is easy to be crunched under so much pressure.

Having said that, there are situations and attitudes that are deal breakers: emotional, financial, physical abuse or neglect; infidelity, persistent lying, breach of trust.

If you've been in one of those, you're lucky to be apart now. If the reasons for separation were trivial, which they rarely are, then it's understandable to have regrets.

All best

I would like a happy gnome. :(

Nethuns is that way >>>>>>>

Do they have happy gnomes on Nethuns?

op seems to have disappeared. Hope she is still happy.

.. or becomes happy again.

I can see your new here. Best of luck bringing cheer into these parts.