not sure what she wants

[damnit1]

Ok, I have read quite a few threads from guys moaning about their wives, but I am going to and another anyway.

First of all.... I love my wife more than anything and would/do anything for her. The problem is I quite often feel taken for granted, like I will always just be there. I also feel that she is just with me because I offer some stability. She says she loves me, but I feel we are drifting apart.
She never talks to me and the only time I find stuff out about her is when she talks to her friends.
I will often ask her what has happened in her week, but she will often just reply "not much, "just the usual". I try to spark up a conversation or have some fun but she rarely wants to engage. However, this is quite different if someone else does this.
I will often ask her if everything is ok, or , is she happy and she will just reply with a bored yes.
Our sex life also sucks, I wont go over the usual "it used to be much better" (although it was), but she could easily go months without sex and she only seems to initiate if I have mentioned something the night before. I always get " im tired" or " not in the mood" and if I try to initiate by kissing her neck or touching her she will either just lie there or huff and move my hands. I have tried to build up slowly, quickly and every other method, but she is rarely interested (unless I mention it).
I have tried to talk to her about our sex life, but she hates talking about it. I have asked if there is anything I can do, but she just answers either "I don't think there is a problem" or something similar.
I have told her I need to have a physical relationship and I am willing to go to speak to someone as I feel it is becoming a problem, but she wont talk about it and will just roll away.

I honestly don't know what to do. I love her loads, but don't want to end up even more unhappy than now and I don't want her to be unhappy .
We have 2 young children and I don't want to separate for them (and the fact I love her), but I don't want to waste the next 10 years with someone who doesn't love me.

As I have already said, I have tried to talk to her about our problems, but she wont .

I don't know what to do. Am I just being over sensitive, childish or something else.

She owes it to him

But this is about so much more than fancying, or wanting to have sex with, him. By his account, she has no interest in talking to him or sharing fun times with him

Mummy

I think the meaning was clear enough. She owes it to him to talk to him.

weedkiller wrote this and it is a thing to marvel at!!:

"Generalisations are always flawed to some degree and there are often plenty of exceptions. But, on the other hand, they are also useful in that they can indicate what is fairly common and normal, and often fairly obvious to most people.
If they are reasonably accurate they express how the majority, even the vast majority, of men or women behave in certain typical situations. So in spite of their defects their usefulness is validated by indicating general trends, preferences, predispositions, and so on.
A simple example of a very rough generalisation might be: Heterosexual young men like looking at young women and can easily get aroused by them"

Ahem...

May I, for one, go on the record as saying that this is indeed a VERY helpful and fulsome explanation of the meaning of generalisations and may I further confess that, until this post appeared, I had no fecking idea how thick I am.

But thanks to Weedkiller I am indeed now truly enlightened not to mention ashamed that I thought the word generalisation didn't take such a long time to write about. I am indebted to Weedkiller and all who sailed in her.