Bedroom toy question

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I?m a man, in a relatively new relationship, and the bedroom department is going nicely thanks for asking. We both have quite vanilla a backgrounds, although in my last relationship my partner had a massager/vibrator which we both used and had fun with. My new ladyfriend has hinted she would like us to be a bit more experimental, and she has her 6oth birthday coming up I?d like to get her (us) something but don?t want to get anything gauche or intimidating. Ideas on what/where to buy? I?ve lurked in the appropriate section of Boots, but would struggle taking anything up to the till as the woman behind it might likely know us ?small towns!

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Lovehoney - mail order, great choice, discreet packaging, far cheaper than the usual sites like Ann Summers

I'm so innocent, that when I saw this thread title, I thought oh dear, some poor child has lost their bedtime toy and is very upset. I guess that wasn't the kind of rabbit you were thinking of. There's no hope for me.

Ha ha mumsyblouse me too! Boots?! Do they even sell those kind of toys in boots? Mail order definitely the way to go lols.

They do indeed! Lovely little bullet you can get in Boots

OP - my personal opinion is that you could maybe get her a catalogue or show her the Lovehoney site and leave her to it. I HATE it if a partner buys me sex toys, I find it pressurises me into using it with them when I'd rather use it on my own!

I have looked at Lovehoney, now that is a fun interesting site for toys. Who needs Hamleys. I would be interested to know if it is the men who buy the gizmos more so than the women. Thanks for your advice ProperStumped, I will let her take the lead on this one.

I just can't believe that someone who can find their way onto the Relationships board on MN can't find themselves to one of the millions of online stores that sell all sorts of things which would help a couple in the bedroom.

Pabo, ann summers etc

What Imperial said ^

Wandering in Boots the other day, I could not initially find the gel pads my poor feet need for my new not so high stiletto's. Then out of the corner of my eye I spotted a big new display of durex vibrators - so yes, they do indeed sell an array of toys there these days. Market forces, amazing what 50 shades has done for the sex toy trade, it's all mainstream now lol.

There's nothing better than tongues and fingers. Much better than cheap plastic.
Surely highly unusual for a lady to wish more adventure in that department at retiral age, AFAIK. Are you sure she really wants this?
Far more likely to be glad to say a thankful goodbye to all that but just want a male friend for companionship only, for driving, meals out, the theatre, holidays and so on. In my experience it's far more common for an older lady to have no longer any tolerance for being groped by any elderly man.

Oh my word Wildflower
Get ready for a flaming.
That is the most insulting post I have ever read in my time on MN!!!
She's 60 - not on her death bed.
And by the way - millions of women like a good toy thank you very much.

And mine aren't usually cheap!

Yes, listen to Wildflower's advice OP. She's indicated that she wants to be more experimental in the bedroom but get her a nice knitting pattern instead and take her on a lovely Saga holiday

Fucking hell Wildflower

She's 60, not 160.

I'm in my fifties, Wildflower, and you really, really need to get a grip!

Love honey allows you to have wishlists so you could set up an account and let her browse adding what she might like to a wish list that you could purchase from

No offence meant but I'm led to believe it is unusual for women of later years to still have any wish for hanky panky in the bedroom or to the slightest desire to start messing around with sex toys. As far as I've heard it's much more common for men to be moaning and groaning that their wives are no longer interested.
And as a matter of fact if a 60 yr old man said he wanted to start getting more adventurous in the bedroom he'd be called 'a randy old goat' or 'a dirty old b.....'
Not judging, only mentioning what's common and what seems unusual.

Lol wildflower how old are you?

I am in my 50's and sex has never been better. DH s nearer 60 and we are very active and quite adventurous in the bedroom and we have quite a selection of toys that are such fun ;)

I don't have any tolerance for being groped by an elderly man but I am extremely tolerant of having lots and lots of sex with my partner. Lovehoney has a very good returns policy which I have never seen fit to use

Good for you that you're all having such a great time but I don't think you're typical.
My impression is that there are a lot of older men out there who are unhappy because their wives gave up on sex long ago and they don't know what to do.

OP, I am curious to know why, as an older man, you chose a parenting forum to ask for sex toy advice. Were you hoping for bored housewives to recount their naughty adventures with a dildo for you?

I notice the OP didn't come back. I also notice his sex toy quandary was his first ever MN post. Funny that...

I'm glad no-one took the bait, although he's probably passed out at the though of all you sex-mad 50 something's with your Love Honey wish lists.

Best laugh I've had all day. Wildflower- words fail me