Hi Ladies, long time lurker I read all the time but not really a poster. Married 7 years, one DC with my DH & one DC who is from a prev relationship).
Up to yesterday I would have said I had a very solid marriage and I was married to one of the good guys, someone who I could trust 100%.
Yesterday I went on the home computer and went to log into Facebook, my DH was already logged in, and I saw some messages between him and an old friend of his. Old friend is from about 15 years ago, I think that he had feelings for her before, but they were both with other people at that time. Yesterday she was telling him that her marriage was over and he was telling her that it was probably for the best and he sent her his number and told her ring him anytime or message him any time...
This did not sit well with me as I don't understand why a married person would encourage another married person to ring them, so today I have actually done some more digging on his Facebook(he is at work) all of the messages are deleted ,but I found an archive message from him to another woman some years back telling her she makes him Horney and he needed some more dirty pics from her. This other woman is not in the same country as us and the one from yesterday also lives about 200 miles from us.
I don't know what else could have been going on as he has always deleted everything (emails, Facebook messages, text, even TV shows the minute he is finished with them.
I need help , I need to know if I am blowing this out of proportion as right now I feel so upset and sick, I am shaking.
I need you to please please help me on how to approach this with my DH tonight.
thanks in advance