I have posted before on here about my DH - at present we have more or less agreed to give our relationship one last try. The potted summary is that for a long time he has expressed unhappiness/disatisfaction and doubt about the relationship. Finally during a row in early May I told him that I was very close to saying that enough was enough. This gave him a real shock and he said that he loved me, didn't want to lose me etc.
This post is just to get some opinions on something that happened this morning.
He has always been 'not a morning person', so I have long adjusted to him being a bit sullen and grumpy in the morning. Likewise, he does not like being a passenger when I am driving and is critical of my driving. So, on occasions when he gets a lift with me in the morning he can often be quite irritable.
But this morning I noted that he uttered six things that were either directly critical, mocking me or questioning my decisions - within a five minute car journey. All 'small', but the effect is cummulative.
I might be a bit sensitive today, as I have a major deadline today, but I had a bit of a cry on my way to the tube station. I am also finding it a bit tricky to get focused and on with what I need to do, hence turning to MN.
So how far, in a loving relationship, should a partner make allowances for something that happens during a person's bad times/bad situations?
Would it be ok if he was just there grumbling, but not being critical of me? Where does 'that's how he is' cross over into unacceptable?
Many thanks for any insight.