Dating thread 55, everyone welcome!

[lubeytoobooby]

Woop! Lubes is BACK :o

newbies, daters, those taking a break, online dating real life dating or otherwise, and the loved up.... all welcome!

Off we go -chit chat away.

(I might even dip a toe back in myself)

secret eeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! At date! Excited! Hope it goes well. :)

bant kindly accept a nice mug of brandy hot chocolate and an all encompassing hug of non MN-i-ness. It will all be well, it's just the getting there.

juliette. FIVE!!! (Almost booked holiday, we have decided on Corfu, he found lovely little quirky guest-house last night. Public thank you for all of your suggestions and help x)

OWW brandy hot chocolate and hugs for you as well, my lovely.

Am excited for daters-dates tonight and sending positive vibes.

And fucking hell! at SP. thats a bugger.

'leaping ladyparts' - & 'fanny flutter' I like the term 'fizzy knickers'

Yes, let's hope it is life and it's dramas rather than him going off me

But believe me, as much as I like him, I have rhino hide.

look at that: its not it's fgs (goodness, not god)

SP that's horrible. I hope you get it all sorted as soon as.

Right, I'm at Mum's. I will sound like a heartless cow but I'm surprised I haven't combusted. I want to scream.

Also, bear with me on this as It will seem silly but just need to get it out, she's given away/thrown out from her garage the only two items from childhood that I asked her to keep . When I asked about the things that have gone she got ill.

So out go the things that i treasured and instead my Mum has dug out a creepy doll collection i didnt know she kept , but i hated as a kid and laid them on the bed 'to stop them being crushed'. The one (black) doll I did like, never existed.

I know it's now dementia but its always been like this. I can't say anything or she gets ill ( I think it's a genuine reaction), or cries or denies.

Sorry for the outburst, i know it won't change but someone just say something nice, please. I don't think I'm heartless, just Leary to be hard hearted.

Dear Juliette you are not heartless, you are allowed to feel angry and hurt, dementia is an infuriating, distressing, hurtful terrible thing to deal with, sometimes it's harder for the relatives to deal with than it is for the person themselves. Big hug x

And you can say whatever you want on here or via pm, it's important you feel able to vent.

Snape I love 'fizzy knickers' , that's genius. grin

Oh ffs I meant

Thanks Kin. the thing is, it's always been like this so it's a continuation of the same things but I actually find it easier to deal with knowing there is dementia as well. I'm raging though.

Oh Juliette that's awful, really understand how you are feeling. If she's given the things to someone, any chance of getting them back? Hugs to you, horrible situation and so difficult to deal with.

And hugs to you SP. Absolute bummer.

WFF what were the vibes? If it was just a one-off I don't think there's anything sinister going on, probably just a crap day.

Ooh Corfu Snape that will be lovely, beautiful place away from the touristy bits.

Juliette my mum has always been "difficult" but now I am 100% sure there's some kind of mental illness there too - it makes it easier in a strange way as I can put things down to the illness rather than just her being a crap mum (which is also true).

SP that's utterly rubbish I'm sorry.

My good mood has evaporated due to my tosspot of an Ex kicking off, long and rather nasty story I won't go into, suffice to say he has upset and annoyed me in equal measure, and fucked up my weekend plans. Arse

In such stressful times I would usually seek solace in chocolate, alcohol, or a man[ blush] But I cant just ring C up out of the blue and say 'come and give me a hug' because, well, he's not my boyfriend. And alcohol and chocolate are banned on my diet. Water and carrot sticks are scant consolation!

Will try and relocate my happy inner self and report back later :)

Juliette yes, I remember you saying that your mum had always been 'difficult', the whole thing must be very difficult to deal with.

Velvet - what an arse he sounds.

How about a long bath and a good book? Works for me. Sorry to hear about your ex and hope you get your equanimity back soon - sounds like you are in a much better place generally

juliette you poor thing. I know exactly what this is like, my teenage years were spent looking after my great aunt who lived with us who developed Alzheimer's when I was around 12. I'll PM you a hilarious (in retrospect...) story about royal wedding day and the hidden poo. But I absolutely get how upsetting and difficult this is for you. I know that you know there is little that can be done, other than looking after yourself and your resilience and recognising that you are not alone in this. Have a sneaky-hug. I'll be thinking about you. :)

Thanks all, OWW yes when you know there is something else wrong it is easier to deal with.

Snape I missed the bit about Corfu. How exciting, yay for guest houses

Velvet. What an arse. Good on you for sticking with the diet though.

SS need an update on your lunch date - hoping it went superbly.

Got butterflies about tonight. Trying not to get excited, but I am, a bit. Foolishly did some painting this afternoon and despite a bath keep finding little speckles of white emulsion all over. In the hair is worst as they bear an uncanny resemblance to nit eggs. Not the best look for a date.

Or dandruff, and that's not much better.

juliette,velvet, bant and SP hugs

I'm heading out on a ladies night .. 25 of us for dinner and then onto the pub to a reserved area .. Not heard from Rocky today .. I have texted him first the last couple of days so resisting the temptation .. Insouciance personified me

OWW look forward to loo update!

Hi to everyone else ( hit send too soon)

Good luck OWW, enjoy yourself, you too Kirsty and anyone else going out tonight.

Glad you are now getting excited OWW ...good sign lovely girl...

Oh I hope so Ike - I am butterflying and fizzing all over the blooming place now! Maybe, just maybe, and it's only a maybe ....

Thanks all for your thoughts and I think you're right in that I'm sure he wouldn't realise that I was worrying about stuff. It's all in my head I think. Good luck to everyone dating tonight

Hope you're having a good time OWW :)

SP sorry to hear about your purse, that truly sucks :(

Juliette I also have a mum who has done/said all sorts of horrid things over the years, she is a narc, I can empathise. I can see how it's almost easier to understand now that your mum has Alzheimer's, but at the same time, I'm sure it still hurts like hell, like it always has. Hugs to you.

Kirsty your current arrangement sounds fab and the kind of thing I'm looking for!

Hello to everyone else :)

Well my lovely joiner didn't get back in contact with me and I suspect he has moved on already - why do most men on OD have the attention span of a gnat? Shame, I was loving his flirty banter so much better than the usual earnest starter conversations I seem to get embroiled in, and was thinking he'd be fun as a FWB type.....

Have set up a profile on Match tonight as I got 3 days free. Bit freaked at having a more "public" profile though as I spotted my XH on there a few months ago, as well as a few of his mates.... Is there a way of hiding a Match profile, in the same way as you can hide your profile on POF?