Ive been thinking about responding and its with careful thought i have decided to post. I am fully aware it will not go down well, for i am the devil incarnate on this thread, if in no where else in my life.
I am in no way speaking for velvet, but just, as a friend who understands and as someone who is empathetic enough to understand.
Poor velvet has been treated appallingly by c, yes, the blame is all at his door. This isnt a one or two dates situation, this has been going on between them for almost 7 months. As anyone would be if a 7 month relationship ended, velvet is upset, full of self doubt and feeling terrible. I will not refer to anyone elses relationship on here, but think back to how any number of you have felt in a similar situation.... and then think back to the support this board offered you. Lots of hand holding, and understanding and listening and patience. I do wonder why velvet isnt afforded that same support and instead is told to basically buck up and shes is sending out bad vibes so its her own fault.
Im incredulous that that has been said quite frankly... so much for the sisterhood and talk about kicking someone when the are down.
We have all had wobbles and moments of self doubt. We all know logically that its not us etc, etc, but when something upsetting happens, such as the end of a relationship, most people ( especially women) do tend to look to themselves, worry if its them. Again, i could post personal examples of each of you questioning yourselves at various points, but im not going to in case its deemed to personal.
Being single for a length of time, and im not talking a year or two, but much longer, is hard. To have a glimmer or hope and for that hope to be estinquished so quickly without so much of a courtesy text is a pretty painful experience. I would like to think that this board which has offered so much support to others, would do the same for ALL of its posters. Treat people how you would like to be treated and all that.