Fresh Start, no more losers.

[LoserNoMore]

Just thought I'd start a new thread, general chit chat, moaning, skipping etc before I go to work and incase the other one fills up.

goodluck with interview lazarus

just say adios to him louly better now than 5 years.

SAF in a box is ok until you get back. Still need to know where you are going in Egypt.

LNM is it your back? are you ok?

And yes, I am brown on arms, chest and back ... but only slight tan on legs, so have just put some St Tropez instant bronzer on bottom bit of legs to see what it looks like... well as its instant it looks ok - but I only put it on from feet to past knees, going to get my friend to do rest on Thursday as going out for posh meal and want to wear a dress god help me

Hi, been catching up on some sleep since Sunday. It is a trapped nerve. The scan picked up something else but I'd rather not get into it just now. I'm not going to worry about it, I feel engulfed by a big black cloud today. I think being stuck inside for too long is contributing, well plus a million other fucking factors the past few months.

Anyway, enough woeness. I'll catch up with posts.

Hey, LNM. Similarly have health issues that I have to try not to think about too much, so I am right with you on that one.

The relaxation stuff on YouTube helps. As does telly, MN, and reddit (esp r/funny).

I have started Christmas shopping online...lovely to do something to look forward to. And totally out of character for me, I am never that organised. .

Can't believe you have started Christmas shopping! That's what 24th December is for! Crazy lady.

Definitely need to look at the relaxation techniques.

Christmas? We're can't be due another one of them for a few years can we? They come round too bloody fast.

Have they given you a timescale for healing LNM?

Cabin fever is very miserable and when you've been in pain for a few days it begins to feel that it is never going to end and you'll never feel normal again.

Sending you a big hug. Hope you're feeling better soon. Regarding the other thing they found, hope it's not serious and remember we're here if you want to talk but you're not under any obligation to discuss anything you don't want too. Sometimes we just need to process and dwell on things on our own so we can get things into perspective.

Another good nights sleep will help so I hope you have some more of those lovely drugs!

Oh, if your after relaxation techniques have a look on itunes. There are loads of free podcasts with guided meditation or relaxation. I find they help immensely as I can never remember the steps otherwise.

You don't need an apple product, I download them on my PC, convert to MP3 using a free converter then save them on my blackberry so I can play them back.

Hi Chips, no timescale. Just wait it out and wait for physio. It's much better today, I can stand upright at last and I'm not walking like an 80 year old. Lovely day here today so been in the garden for a bit.

Sil text me this morning. Being all nice to start with and then telling me I've punished ex enough (again) and can't I just forgive him blah blah blah.

Man, why can she not just butt out? Honestly, if my brother had messed around his wife, I NOT be texting her saying she should get over it! What is she thinking?

I mean, I know what is going on, he's been whining to her and she's fallen for his version of it, but back in the real world she needs to shut up now!

SIL is probably fed up with him!

alwayskeptalidon my thoughts exactly.

He told me he's started looking for somewhere the other day.Probably a last ditch attempt.

Oooohhhhh...yeah. Makes sense.

You can tell SIL & exH are related. It is all about them.

You are punishing him. Rather than it being about you being devastated that he is a cheating wanker and ending your marriage.

Why are there so many people like this out there who can't see beyond themselves?

Who knows, Xales. Some people it has to be all about them regardless if their actions.

Hi all! Oh my word, can't believe she text you that!! Honestly, that's just a joke!! Do they both truly believe you're just gonna be a bit pissed off for a bit and then let him come home and all is forgiven!!!!!

Ask her if her hubby/partner went out of his way to lie and cheat behind her back - would she take it all and office and forget? It's not that easy!!!

Anyway, I hope you've done the decent thing and just ignored her!! Makes sense though that she's probably well fed up of him by now! Next time you see him, you should give him the local paper with some flats circled that he might be interested in!!!

I really should proof read before I post ....'forgive and forget'!! Chubby fingers and small iPhone keyboard!!!

Yeah ignored it, if she doesn't know how I feel by now she never will. No point trying to go over it with her yet again.

Glad you feeling a bit better, hope it is onwards and upwards from now on.

I agree its pointless contacting her, sound like the whole family is only wrapped up in themselves. It'd be different if you'd cheated on him that would be disgraceful unforgivable behaviour. You're well shot the whole lot of them.

Ohhh sun in Scotland, enjoy it whilst it lasts!

you have to laugh at SIL though - in a satirical way. You have punished him enough! Seriously? Not how are you coping? Hows the back? do you need any help? Im sorry my brother has behaved like such a shit.

I do wonder if they may be used to 'this' sort of behaviour - maybe his parents had affairs and it was the norm, you swept it under the carpet and got on with things. Thats what they seem to expect to happen.

Im just glad you have the self esteem and hootzpah to see this through.

Make it all about you and the girls - home, life, fun, holidays.

hope the back is on the mend. Please try to GENTLY do the exercises I suggested, they do work for trapped nerve. They gently stretch the muscles which helps release pressure on nerve and loosens muscles.

Thanks, Jax. All his family seem to be in the "Everyone deserves a second chance camp". They struggle to realise I didn't sign up for that.

Good news, just got a call about a job I applied for, got an interview on 15th July! Trying not to get my hopes up. There are 2 positions, one PT and one FT.

Oooh! Congratulations on the interview . Tis something to celebrate given the number of people applying for the available positions these days so give yourself a pat on the back!

Everyone deserves a second chance

I like that, it's got a nice ring to it. It should be incorporated into marriage vows, just to, you know, make sure that everyone is cool with it.

Do you solemnly promise to love and honour, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer and to give a second chance after shagging another?

Yeah, that'll work

His family have convenient selective memory's I feel - second chance my backside. Ignoring is the best action here LNM - as you say, nowt you can say at this point to change her point of view.

Gentle stretching as Jax suggests - sounds bloody painful so I'm v glad you're on the mend.

Work been hectic so time on MN has been really limited. Tonight however, I'm sat in DD3's room because she projectile vomited everywhere about an hour ago. It's taken me this long to clean everything up, so I'm ready with my towels and bucket and latop for round 2.

PLEASE Pleeease say that the vom could be a one-off and not the start of a technicolour 24 hrs?!?!

I'd be so tempted to text her back and say 'Well, a second chance is all well and good, but after OW's pregnancy and the STI tests not coming back clear, as well as the Police having to get involved, that's easy for you to say'.

I know the tests came back clear & OW wasn't pg, but it doesn't hurt to rub a bit of salt in, does it?

yes, I would have to reply to the sister, just because she doesnt get it - she wont ever 'get it' but I would reply along lines of suggested.

Good luck for job interview. Just go for it!

Fairenuff, they should really incorporate that into the vows.

Hope your dd wasn't too sick during the night LittleEsme

That is tempting Lazarus. I wonder what her reply would be...

Well I'm all on my lonesome this weekend. Dd's are going to their grandpas birthday tomorrow. Huge family party that we were meant to be hosting.urgh, kind of hurts knowing I'll never be a part of that again. I know ex is a twat and his family haven't exactly been great through all of this but things used to be good. Pisses me off that yet again I'm the one who suffers, if ex could have kept it in his pants things would be so different.