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Just thought I'd start a new thread, general chit chat, moaning, skipping etc before I go to work and incase the other one fills up.

LNM I can recommend a good osteopath based in Greenock who helped us understand more about DH's back issues than the docs/hospitals ever did. Osteo uses gentle manipulation and acupuncture. I'm sure he recommended only ice packs, not heat tho. Hope it fixes itself quickly. X

back to the docs to one without a language barrier please LNM. need to get it checked out just to rule out anything that needs immediate attention. were you warned about things like not being able to pass water?

def try the exercises someone suggested above - they massage the area and relax the muscles and stuff so really help if a nerve is trapped and everything is in spasm.

hope you've found help for getting the girls to school and stuff. nightmare!

and yes to seeing a physio or such like - expensive but worth it if they can help. i used to get a trapped nerve in my shoulder/neck when i was younger and a physio would give me manipulation and poof it would release. don't know if it's the same in the area you have it treatment wise but so worth a go.

Morning. Was asleep not gone

Back to dr first thing. You need proper pain meds to stop the spasms & control pain. You also need physio not an osteo. Manipulation isn't what you need if a nerve is trapped! Trust me I have just gone through 6 months of this and since feb this year my back is as good as it will ever be. Won't ever be 100% but I will settle for 90%.

6 yrs ago I had an op to remove a piece of disc. The relief when I came round was instant! Backs tend to fix themselves within 12 weeks if appropriate care is given ie meds/physio & gentle exercise. No bending forward. No lifting & being v careful and mindful. Try to use your core muscles as much as possible.

Hugs. X

Sorry, I didn't realise the trapped nerve had been diagnosed.

I trust that the osteo I would recommend would carefully identify the issue and treat it if he could, or recommend an alternative. By gentle manipulation I mean massage and acupuncture. Nothing drastic.
an osteo isn't a chiropractor, who would 'crack' your back. Indeed the physio who cracked my husband's back probably aggravated his slipped disc causing cauda equina which led to emergency surgery to remove a disc which was pressing on nerve endings.

But yes, first and foremost see your GP again and get strong painkillers. I hope you feel better soon.

manipulation is exactly what the physio used to do for the nerve in my neck. guess it depends where it is and how it is trapped.

Went off to bed early last night - still catching up . And all this happens!! Sorry to hear you're in so much pain, that sounds awful. I'm afraid I have no advice, I know nothing about backs at all but sounds like you've had plenty of good advice already

I'll just send you some and and and hope that thy can sort the pain out for you.

Take care LNM

Called the doctor about physio, 6-8 week waiting list, fantastic. Thanks for all advice.

Had a terrible night. I did manage to get help with dd,'s going to school and my friend is picking them up too. I feel like I've hardly seen them recently with them going to ex and his parents. Now I'm hauled up in bed just before the summer holidays begin. Great timing. Bad day today :(

Did the doc give you any meds to help in meantime?

I had diazepam, naproxen and a Tens machine - godsends all of them. Then I spent 15 months in constant, chronic pain waiting to see a physio - she spent 5 minutes on my back and released the nerve - I could have kissed her!
As you say, it was worse than labour. My back is permanently dodgy now as I was diagnosed with osteo-arthritis of the spine but I try to walk, jog and keep it as strong as possible. This really is a time to ask for help re:school runs.

feel like a total drama lama and thread crasher saying any of this but we've been chatting every day so it feels weird not to say. went for post surgical check up today and basically the removed tissue was sent to the lab and it looks like breast cancer. reeling and ????

my surgeon only got the lab results yesterday and has been trying to get hold of the guy he wants me to see straight away without success. he said he'll carry on trying and i should hear tomorrow about when i'll be in to see a specialist but basically it seems i have breast cancer, hopefully it's contained to the milk ducts and hasn't crossed into the lobes and nodes etc but will need more tests to be sure.

am kind of guzzling white wine currently. found all this out then had to go into work and have a meeting so swallow it and perform then after that i started losing it a bit and went to a pub and ordered wine. my friend came picked me up and brought me home. thankfully i got a friend to pick up ds from school and he's having tea there which gave me some breathing space to get myself together but obviously he'll be home soon.

i was honestly looking forward to a bit of shagging, a holiday in the sunshine and the summer holidays of work getting house sorted. now i'm....

Oh SaF :(

Not a drama lama at all. I'm so sorry. It's good that they have found it earlier because of your surgery.

SAF - sorry to hear your news. I can't imagine your shock or what you're feeling right now. As for what you were looking forward to, just take one day at a time. Your diagnosis is still unclear, it could be very early days. In any event, the success rate for breast cancer is high. I have 2 friends that have been through it and have made a full recovery and are enjoying life immensely. I also have a friend who had an elective double mastectomy last year because of the high risk linked to her family.

Please just take one day at a time. Hopefully you'll have more information soon and you can start to fight this. If there is anything at all I can do, please PM me. Sending you love and hugs. Your strength will see you through this.

i just am a bit?? i don't know how you process shit like this you know?

i twitch between panic and 'i'm gonna die and my son will have no mother' and 'ah it's no big deal probably just need a bit of an operation and you'll be grand'. i feel for the guy who was telling me but god it was a clumsy announcement.

I'm so sorry SAF. Hopefully thanks to your op it has been caught very early and early diagnosis gives the best outcome. As much as you can try and relax, deep breaths and the like.

Hope you're feeling better LNM and have some decent painkillers, I have no experience of trapped nerves/sciatica but I cried like a baby when I strained a muscle in my hip so it must be agony.

I faced a cancer diagnosis a few months ago (false alarm and not comparable but made me think). It was the lone & parent bit of my life which was thoroughly traumatic. I have no answers other than 'Don't go there' Take it step at a time

Cancer has such a reputation but nowadays is not the disease it was. Huge advancements and yours has been caught early because of the surgery. All good. What time are you being seen tomorrow.

I had a skin cancer scare when ds2 was a few months old. It does take time to process it and it's normal to be shit scared. But don't imagine it's the worst case scenario, because there's a very good chance that it isn't. You are one strong lady. Give yourself a bit of time to deal with it. I'm very much of the 'I want to know everything, no holding things back' school but I can understand that you might not feel like that now.

yep it's the lone parent bit that hits home. ds is 6. i am of the want to know everything camp too but my surgeon seemed... scared? he seemed very tentative about drawing conclusions and very keen to tell me how long it was since he'd been in the patholigcal field rather than the cosmetic. got the impression it was the first time he'd had to give news like that to someone who'd come in for reduction/implant/cosmetic surgery bless him.

I would imagine he was concerned about saying something inaccurate in case you sue him later on! If it was his first time he will remember you in the future and going over what he could have said better etc. I'm sure he was well aware of the impact of that news though. Hopefully you'll know more soon and treatment will be speedy.

SAFjust read your post, wish I could say or do something useful but no idea what to say, other than I'm so sorry and fingers and toes crossed that its very very treatable. Thank goodness they found it when they did. Loads of hugs and and more

LNM sorry to hear about your back too, and for you too

XXX

Hopefully when you've seen a specialist tomorrow you'll have a clearer idea, diagnosis and treatment plan. I'm sure that will give you more to anchor onto

LNM Hope you got some help today

SAF, I'm sorry to hear your news, what a shock for you. I'm not too good on the advice but I've been there myself and I know how scary it is. Sounds like it has been found very early, please let us know how your app goes.

I'm spaced out on mess, still in sin and a bit fragile as I have horrendous pmt to top it off. My friend is doing school runs for me and I received a nice bunch of flowers today from JD.

LNM - Sorry you feel so pants, I hope the back gets better very soon. Glad to hear you that you got nice flowers earlier .

SAF - what a shock, especially when you went in for something unrelated. I'm so sorry to hear your news. I've also had a scare years ago and took two weeks waiting for results but thankfully was ok, so i have a tiny inkling of your feeling. As others have said, hopefully it has been caught early and all will be ok. Really thinking of you at the moment though.

Hoping today brings better news for you both

oh no. LNM keep taking meds, and do gentle exercises, nice that JD sent

SAF nothing has been confirmed my lovely - and lets look on the positive side; IF anything is there, it has been caught v early and you will be treated promptly and see a consultant ASAP.

No point me saying dont worry, its a natural response and I totally get the feeling of silent panic alternating with its a big hooha over nothing.

We are all here for you - actually we are here for each other.

Morning ladies

LNM - hope that you're feeling a little more comfortable today? And JD wins some more brownie points for the flowers! Good lad . Hope you've not had any further hassle from the ex just to add to all your woes.

SAF- can't imagine how you are feeling. Just echoing what all the others have said in that they've caught it early which is good. It must have been an enormous shock for you. Take one day at a time and we are all here for you - and as Jax said, here for each other