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sex nerves!

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kittykat10 · 13/05/2013 16:06

hi i have met a really nice bloke and we have loads in common and tomorrow night i am going to his for a meal, jokingly i said can i kip on sofa and he said of course but the bed would be more comfortable we have discussed going a bit further etc and i have said to him im nervous as i only had 1 bf he has said can go as slow as i want whihc to me is good but today in the shops i even thought about getting some contraception just in case, part of me thinks go for it but my head says i shouldnt but that what caused me not to have a bf till my 30s .
i really like him, ive been on holiday and he texted me each morning and i do find him attractive i just needed a bit of girly advice3 i guess!

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BarredfromhavingStella · 13/05/2013 16:10

Don't over think it, relax & see where the evening takes you-can't hurt to have condoms in your bag can it...

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kittykat10 · 13/05/2013 17:00

that my trouble i over think!
ok going down the condom line i dont really know what to buy god i sound so daft i know.

i know he would like me to stay as well we changed the date night date from tonight to tomorrow as he not got to be in work early on wed

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BarredfromhavingStella · 13/05/2013 17:03

Bless you, just get any-featherlites maybe? Grin

Have a great night.

Skinnywhippet · 13/05/2013 17:21

And some lube?

Vivacia · 13/05/2013 18:27

If you're not sure what to buy why don't you discuss it with him? Also, it doesn't have to go kissing and then penetrative sex. There's plenty of things you can do in between until you're both comfortable, relaxed and know what each other likes.

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kittykat10 · 13/05/2013 18:30

yeah he kind of shy as well maybe going slow best idea and like he said its been a while for him

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kittykat10 · 14/05/2013 13:32

ive done nowt but think about this and well if it happens it happens im an adult and we like each other maybe my years of not dating and avoiding men have been wasted but id like a future with this bloke we have lots in common even to the point of same school, same road at home!
a friend of mine died a few years back and well life is to short!

off to the shops!!!!

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Skinnywhippet · 14/05/2013 18:47

Good luck!

Lowry · 14/05/2013 19:15

You'll be fine.
He sounds like a lovely, gentle man who'll stop proceedings whenever you say the word.
If this is your first time, don't expect fireworks! It shouldn't hurt but in my experience the first time was far from the best.
The second, third, fourth .................now that's different!
Enjoy yourself and have fun. xxx

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kittykat10 · 15/05/2013 15:35

hi
no it wasnt my first time but i now realise what a selffish buggar he was in bed!
we sort of did stuff, a lot of things and did end up in bed together which suprised me as he didnt even kiss me for ages i think we had tea and were watching the film but unfortunatly he couldnt rise to the occasion so to speak , he was really upset over it yes i was a bit disapointed but tried not to show it x
but he is lovely he kissed me lots and held me which was so nice to feel wanted.

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kittykat10 · 15/05/2013 16:23

he wanted me to stay but i had to come home and now feel awful

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