My mind is a bit of a mess at the moment and as I have no one to talk to in real life I'd like a bit of perspective on my current situation.
To try and cut a long story short about a couple of months ago I noticed dh was regularly chatting to someone online most nights. He regularly uses his laptop at night anyway but i got suspicious when he always hid the page when I walked by. I knew he was chatting as I could see the reflection of the screen in the window behind him.
I looked as his FB page and noticed that a woman was clicking like on just about everything he posted and usually within minutes of him posting it. Anyway after delving a little deeper he tells me that he chats to this woman 6 nights out of 7. I have no idea what they are talking about and the laptop has a password. He got a new phone last autumn and he barely lets it out of his sight. It also has a password so I can't access it.
I think he chats to her through Skype and he uses a separate account to chat to her and not the family account that we both have access to.
Two weeks ago this woman decides she is coming to our city and would like to meet up with dh. I felt really uncomfortable with this but he assured me they were just friends. She lives over 2 and a half hours drive away and came with a friend. They spent 8 hours together sightseeing and going to a restaurant in the evening.
Yesterday dh announced she was coming here again. I wasn't happy and he seems to think I'm being ridiculous. He went to meet her at 1.30 and says he'll be home around 9. He didn't know if she was coming alone or not.
Dh has plenty of female friends from university and from work and it's never bothered me but i just feel really uncomfortable about this. He barely speaks to me in the evenings and I often feel invisible.
Am I being ridiculous?