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Dating thread no 52

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BillMasen · 26/04/2013 15:11

The first one started by a bloke?

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Flipper924 · 29/04/2013 23:39

You have a type, then, Ike?

JulietteMontague · 29/04/2013 23:48

Ike would it out him if you said why he is called Torso Rubber?

JulietteMontague · 29/04/2013 23:50

Wouldn't a summer gathering be a good idea?

We could all skip through meadows in floaty dresses or something.

I suppose the women could dress up too .

ike1 · 29/04/2013 23:56

No Jule...i think I mentioned the reason back on thread thirty something or other. It was just that on our first date he spent the entire time running his hands up and down his own body...it was really the strangest act of self stimulation...it was quite clear what he wanted to do to me. Someone, I think it was Kin said he was rubbing his torso..hence torso rubber.

That 'type' appears to be completely bald with odd facial hair it seems Flip...a consequence of being in middle yoof it would appear..

VelvetSpoon · 29/04/2013 23:59

I'll be too fat for a summer gathering, hence my vanity would prevent me from attending .

Hopefully by Xmas I will have lost enough weight to fit into this dress I bought 2 years ago and have still not worn...

ike1 · 30/04/2013 00:05

Good grief there's posh....velv

JulietteMontague · 30/04/2013 00:08

Velvet wow! you'll look amazing in that.

I do have to announce, I got back into my jeans this morning. Having just referenced fb, it seems said jeans are now almost 5 years old and have been in the cupboard for the last 2 . Once I reach my target it will be time for The New Jeans.

JulietteMontague · 30/04/2013 00:09

Ike I always imagined TR was some sort of body builder type who was all ripped and shaven. Says far more about me I suspect

ike1 · 30/04/2013 00:10

Well done Jules!!

ike1 · 30/04/2013 00:12

No that's cos I said he looked like Right Said Fred Jule! Oh yeah he was a big guy but more athletic than muscley and into his 'soul patch' hair fluff and lond sideburns that sorta thing...

ike1 · 30/04/2013 00:13

long

WarmFuzzyFun · 30/04/2013 06:33

Morning All!

MsC Take it easy girlfriend.

There now follows a bit of a rant...apologies in advance.

I felt really pissed off yesterday, why didn't I just ignore and block? I am a medaller make no mistake. Old boyfriend got in touch, one who had dumped me to go back to 'love of his life'. I was nosey and flattered and now I need to go no contact, but I would like to give him the piece of my mind I restrained myself from giving him when he dumped me. He was/is an entitled, up him self C*, he wanted me to be glad and grateful that he had deemed me worthy of another try. Seriously? I have worked hard to separate my self esteem from other people's opinions, but sometimes it is hard work.

Cold has resurfaced again, work is going to hell in a handcart, I am being run ragged by my 3 DC's and just want to pull the covers over my head.

But, today will be a better day.

WarmFuzzyFun

KinNora · 30/04/2013 07:04

Wow Velvet that is a spectacular dress, I'm also impressed that you can consider wearing something that needs to be worn bra less -respec'.

Juliette you must be chuffed to bits about the jeans, just in time to impress Dutchie with your pert arse, eh ?

Ike so GS Ruse is your type, I will keep an eye out for suitably facially haired gentlemen.

I have this dress which hasn't had an outing yet bap central which might well be my party outfit of choice.

Have a lovely day, everybody.

Flipper924 · 30/04/2013 07:54

Ooh, pretty dresses, Velv and Nora. Bra-less is not an issue for me.in fact, I had a tap dancing exam at the weekend, and had to do that without a bra because of the dress I was wearing. Not a problem at all. Barely a bounce.

Yes, WFF, today will be a better day.

I'd offer to keep my eye out for suitably be-haired men for you, too, Ike, but clean shaven is the chav look of choice this year, and that's all I have here to sift through.

Only one more sleep, Jules! How exciting!

KirstyWirsty · 30/04/2013 07:58

MsC so sorry for your friend .. My DD has just turned 8 and I cannot imagine how I would cope with losing her

Do I need the crash carp ?? Kiltykilty had said yesterday morning that we couldn't possibly maintain the level of texting we'd had over the last week .. Fair enough .. Had a few texts over the course of yesterday and last night he sent me two one word texts in response to ones I sent (hours apart)

I should just wait for him to text me today shouldn't I .. We have made arrangements for Thursday .. I am stressing a bit after theAuditor basically shagged and ran .. Maybe just wine doom as there haven't been any red flags and he did tell me about not texting so much .. Thoughts?

KinNora · 30/04/2013 08:13

Flipper the thought of me tap dancing braless is extremely worrying.

Kirsty no, don't text him, let him sit and ruminate on how fabulous you are, what a great time he had and he will be unable to bear it any longer and get in touch. It's crap when you've experienced some flaky tosser in the past, you kind of expect more of the same.

Flipper924 · 30/04/2013 08:14

Kirsty, isn't this meant to be more of a physical thing? For me, that level of texting on an ongoing basis would suggest an emotional attachment, which is possibly why the lack of texting is getting you down. Regardless of feelings, though, if you want an arrangement where texting continues as that level, Kiltykilty isn't for you. He's said as much, I'm afraid.

48howdidthathappen · 30/04/2013 08:29

So sorry Mrs C A tough time all round.

Kirsty Cool. Cool. Cool.

Mr R&R only has sisters Kin

Did someone mention a party Im in!

VoiceofUnreason · 30/04/2013 09:12

Sorry for your friend MsC

Kirsty I agree with Flipper re: the texting

Do people embarrass themselves and make drunken passes more often at Xmas parties than summer parties? If so, I vote for the former. Although the first rule of the thread maybe don't date the thread, I see no rule of don't snog the thread as a one-off at a party. I'll bring the mistletoe.

Had a first session with a therapist yesterday. Hmmmm.

Snapespeare · 30/04/2013 09:21

Ms C - so sorry to hear about your friends little girl. I absolutely echo what bant said. if you feel the need to PM anyone his contact details, I'm happy to sign him up for viagra junk mail send some karma to whup him up ass-wise. You're being an amazing, supportive friend, but don't forget a tiny bit of 'you-time' to recharge.

kirsty no text! no text! you are insouciance!

xmas is too far away - we could have half-year xmas on the 25th June? I'm not sure where we would get mistletoe at this time of year though no snogging the thread! can we do secret santa?!

VoR hmmm for the therapist? sometimes it takes a bit of time to establish the kind of relationship where you're happy talking about things. are you going to stick at it?

today is snapelesses 3-month-i-versary. I have no intention of mentioning this as it would make me look weird. but it is so [partypopper]

MirandaWest · 30/04/2013 10:03

Month-I-versaries are good things :) in fact a 3 month one is one quarter of a year which is even better .

Mr Nice so far for his birthday has a teapot (a nice bodum (is that the make - am non hot drink drinker) that he has talked about), some tea, two CDs, a top gear magazine and needs something else. Maybe chocolate. Need wrapping paper and a card. Am not very good at birthdays but I do try hard.

VelvetSpoon · 30/04/2013 10:38

Kin I love that dress! May have to look for something like that once I've shifted some a lot of weight.

Kirsty no, don't text. Insouciance is the order of the day. Thurs is arranged. He will be in touch :)

Snape happy 3 month-versary :) it is 6 months tomorrow (well sort of, it was 31 Oct) since I met C. Who knows, in another 6 months we might have actually made it to a relationship.... :)

JulietteMontague · 30/04/2013 11:19

WFF yes today is another day, you are made of stronger stuff than any of that, it's just all ganged up on you. Which means you are not going to contact the ex are you

Kirsty no text. Step away from the phone

Voice it can take time for you to work out whether this therapy/therapist is going to be right for you. If you are not sure, you can say so and talk that through too. If this one isn't for you, you can also change therapists.

Snape definitely worth celebrating whether you do that with him or treat yourself.

Miranda a strategically placed bit of wrapping on you?

One sleep, one sleep, one sleep, one sleep . This time tomorrow, I will be in Hollandia

OhWesternWind · 30/04/2013 11:25

A thread party would be (ds's current favourite word) epic.

Still not feeling quite right, but now I know it's the tail end of the LM stuff, moving on, I'm better able to cope with it.

I think a bit of fun with the Welshman could be in order, see where that leads . . . Trying to sort out babysitter for Sunday.

JulietteMontague · 30/04/2013 11:40

OWW I think it's entirely natural you would have a dip now. You went back to OD very quickly after LM, not giving yourself time to grieve it. This wobble is a normal sign, what Kin said upthread about it being 'real' now you have the prospect of Indie sounds about right. Go with it, it will pass and all will be well

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