Hi all.
Well I haven't posted for ages as there was nothing new to add - H persisted to not look for somewhere to live with any great urgency, I started the freedom programme and then H got quite poorly in February meaning he needs an operation. So I couldn't push him to go when he was poorly. However when we got his op date, about a month ago now, of 15th April (tomorrow), and he said he couldn't look until after he had recovered I said I couldn't cope with another 6-8 weeks of sleeping in with the twins. He said 'so for so many reasons you want me gone then?'.
And he looked and found a flat which he has signed the papers on and he moves out as soon as he has recovered from the operation but worse case scenario will be gone in 2 weeks.
We have just had a conversation tho where it transpires I think he thinks he is going to come back here every weekend (?!).
Very odd.
He has been loads better - he didn't drink at all from Jan 1st until 2-3 weeks ago and tonight is the first night I have seen him drunk (pre op nerves) but regardless of that (tonight he said he never thought I would see it through and would say he could stay) I really think my door has closed. I cannot wait for him to go. For the house to me mine. To create a routine with me and the kids. We haven't had any talk about access though just his random comment tonight that he would come back at weekends so I need help with that and to talk to dd. whilst I think there will be no big loss to her when he goes, of course to her he is 'Disney Dad' - no baths, dressing, feeding etc just 10-15 mins play once maybe twice a day. However to her she may yet be quite distressed. He can be away with work 2-4 nights a week so she is used to him being away and he just went away for a week on holiday and she only asked about him twice so I think things will be ok. Anyway - about 2 weeks to go now so if anyone can remember me I would really appreciate some encouragement. Thanks X