Dating thread no 51

[JulietteMontague]

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Have you decided what you're doing about your course yet ?

Yeah Ill go back in Oct....there are no jobs in it though all healthcare is cut to the bone as you are probs aware. Despite my new pics and plenty of attention there is no one I fancy...the one I did enjoy bantering with wants his own kids one day...no chance of a hol. All seems just mundane...not traumas just blah...

I'm sorry, it's shite when everything seems a bit bleak and grey. I don't suppose there's any way you could volunteer for a charity related to your course is there ? I know you do some voluntary stuff already. I'm convinced the OD stuff is cyclical, I reckon men synchronise their testosterone levels or something

Or come and work with me, we'd have a right laugh.

Hello all,

Good luck for tonight oww

Hope fast is going well nora just the thought of fasting is enough to send me straight to the fridge! I seem to accidentally fast a lot of the time though and in fine with that!!

I have made a decision not to go out with the boy. I'm just not feeling it. He really isn't my type. He is lovely and will be fine for someone I just know it isn't me. I don't fancy him at all. I know all i have seen is pics but i i know that he just isnt what i want and his neediness is really off putting. Now has anyone got any tips on how I cool things off and cancel tomorrows date? I don't want to unnecessarily hurt his feelings

Sorry ike I wasn't ignoring you. I have really rubbish days sometimes where the sadness is overwhelming. I don't have a miracle cure to turn things around but I just try and arrange some things that make me happy and remember that it won't always be like this and I won't always feel sad. Life is shit sometimes but you are a brilliant person and you will make the best out of any situation you are in because that is just what we do. We survive, smile and get on with it because that is the only way. It will all turn around soon and get brighter

Oh god I hope I didn't sound patronising then. Sometimes all I want to hear sometimes is a positive message so that's what I was trying to do. Sorry if I have offended ikey

Thanks Pom I've just had butternut squash soup and a Ryvita for tea - mmmm mm mmmmm.

Can you send him a text saying that as time's gone on you've decided that don't think you're right for each other so there's no point in meeting but good luck with everything.

That should have said 'could you send him a text ' - don't blame me, it's my blood sugar.

Sorry you're feeling low Ike. Horrible grey mundane tedious feeling. Hope it passes soon.

No good advice Pom as I'm rubbish at that sort of thing, but I'd just say that I've never met anyone who looks like their photos - probably an equal mix of better and worse - so that's not always a reliable indicator. But the neediness does sound like a problem. Maybe you could just tell him gently that you've changed your mind and you're sure he'll find someone soon as he's a [insert positive adjective] person? Good luck for the future etc etc.

Kin Things are going well with mum. I am cooking food that mum can eat to take over, another batch to do tomorrow. I bloody hate cooking. Got to do my bit though.

Yep things are fab with Mr R&R. Can see each more now mum is home.
Seems odd not being tied to hospital visiting times.

Pom He is younger than you? could you just say you have decided you aren't comfortable with the age difference.

Ike I think we all need the summer. Everything seems better with the sun shining

48 yep a couple of years younger. It's just the general I can't believe you are even messaging me messages I have had over the last couple of days that have been a complete turn off. I want someone to be cool and confident not a puppy dog wagging his tail!! I have my own insecurity issues I can't deal with his too! In the nicest possible way of course!!

Kin I tried the fasting diet at the beginning of the year and did about 4 fasting days, the first was really hard, I felt crap but the next day wasn't really hungry and i thought, hey! this could really work but after the 2nd and 3rd day I just stuffed my face and the overall weekly calorie intake was probably the same as norma . I think you do have to eat sensibly on the non fast days for it to have any effect IYSWIM. You are probably more disciplined than me though! and soup was a lifesaver

That's good news 48 ( not about the batch cooking ) - does she seem happier to be back in familiar surroundings ?

Tigsy a couple of people at work are doing it, one's lost 4" from her waist and the other's gone down a dress size. I watched the original Horizon because I have a crush on Michael Mosley was quite impressed by the scientific evidence but haven't attempted it until now.
I completely disapprove of diets and the diet industry under normal circumstances but needs must. I think you're supposed to 'eat normally' on the other days.

Yes mum does seem much happier at home. Carers are brilliant. All good so far

I often fast as find it easy to go without food. As long as I have tea and fags Im happy

Evening all!

DD is fine today a couple of tiny blisters on her hip and she assures me the one near her nipple [ouch] is no bigger and believe me when I say we'd know about it if she was in any pain! She's 17 so not a tiny by any stretch of the imagination!

OWW good luck with the l'uomo tonight! Thought of you and Snape when DDs were messing about trying on fascinators today!

Ike hope you soon feel a bit chirpier

Kin I can only assume that with your fasting you're just trying to make me feel even worse - what with juliette and Lubey's healthy doings, I must be the only lazy, smokey, slattern left on here! Cos it's always about me innit

Oops forgot to refresh missed loads of stuff. Will start again when I've caught up!

Ohhhh, Secret I was worried she might be a toddler, 17 is a completely different matter. I'm very much a lazy slattern, in fact lazy slattern, c'est moi.

Right - how does this sound?? To put the photo bit into context he sent me a picture earlier to make sure I was happy with the way he looked before we met up (screams lack of confidence and needy to me and that isn't what I am looking for)

"Hi, I am really sorry I have changed my mind about meeting up. Please don't think it is anything to do with the photo you sent me earlier, honestly it isnt because I thought you looked cool.Iit's just that I feel bit uncomfortable about the age difference. I know you will find someone lovely soon. Take care x"

Can't believe what a bitch I feel. He was nice but I just know he isnt for me. I really don't want to meet up with him but the guilt is making me feel horrible. I know I am making a bit of a mountain out of this bit I don't want to hurt his feelings.

Pom I think that sounds fine and however much of a bitch you feel, it is the best thing to do, you are being honest and straightforward and as pleasant as you can be delivering unpleasant news, so don't beat yourself up!

I'm not sure I'd include the comment about the photo but apart from that it's fine. You're being kind and gentle with him but you are not responsible for his feelings.

I'm here ... He's not ...

I know I worried about the photo bit but just don't want him to feel rubbish about the way he looks. I hate this!!!!