Dating thread no 51

[JulietteMontague]

All tales of online and real life dating here!

velvet on the numbers thing fwiw on POF I've had few one or two word messages, okc random men who can put a sentence together but are off the wall (65 yr old tantric Shaman anyone?) and gsm nada in the last week. It's not you

Yeah Velvet at least you've not been contacted by men wearing collars and leads, and David Brent.

My latest message signs off "Kind regards". I do not inspire kink or comics. However, sauce level from Indie has now risen from Korma to Tikka Masala. All is good.

Got home to find an unpleasant letter from my mum complete with much underlining and phrases in capitals. She has also left me a bag full of drinks for dd as I'm not capable of giving her enough to drink. Haven't read letter properly but it is full of demands that I promise I believe her unequivocally, further requests for information about punishment meted out to dc, instructions for me to seek psychological help for them and a reminder to bleed dd's radiator. How very, very depressing. Feel a bit low. Dc had a great time at my friend's mum's though.

I'm terribly sorry you feel so low OWW, what's your gut feeling about her behaviour - do you think it's just an exacerbation of her previous unpleasant moods or do you think there's more to it ?

I think there's something not right about her but I'm not sure where the line would fall between the various possibilities. The letter seems quite unbalanced. She has written me letters before about my ex that are quite concerned with punishment and forgiveness and this is more of the same. The tone and questions she's asking are just not right. She is very focussed on who I believe and making out there's something major wrong with my dc. That's very hard stuff for me to read.

It's very hurtful to read something like that, even more so when it's written by your mother. It is all completely untrue though and the product of someone who is experiencing some degree of imbalance.

Just going to ignore her, Nora but I was really hoping she'd leave it as she's had plenty of chances to air her views and I thought that might be the end of it. She just needs to quieten down. Oh well. I think I might start another thread about this so I am not derailing things on here with it all.

My hair has gone very weird and "big". Not me at all but it is my own fault for falling for the advertising (and money off coupons) and buying some different products, so I am going to have to take some drastic action with it tonight or else it will be looking shite for tomorrow. Going to be a mad rush, got to get home, collect dc from after school club, go back to school half an hour later for a meeting about school holiday, come home, have tea, put ds to bed, get ready and get out for my date with Indie! Bloody hell I feel tired just thinking about it. Fingers and everything crossed that he's a good'un.

Got a babysitter for Wednesday too. Bloody hell squared! It's all going on this week.

I suspect that she might be unable to ignore it though OWW if her powers of reasoning are skewed.

Happier matters though, your big hair, what about sticking a bit of blow dry spray stuff on and then putting it in Velcro rollers ? That would make use of the bigness and at the same time look slightly less bouff. I really hope Indie turns out to be a huge success.

Feeling very positive about od at the moment as I have a number of possibilities. One of them will be alright, I'm sure of it. (But please don't quote me on that).

The Italian has been quiet tonight but I think it's his first day at a new job so will see what tomorrow brings.

I think it works like that though, it does for me. I must enjoy having lots of attention, which is a slightly worrying character trait. That knob did quite upset me yesterday, I should have had more sense.

I do like the attention but more than that I like having lots of possibilities!

I can see why that spanner upset you. There's no need for gratuitous nastiness. At least he's shown himself for what he is, but it's a bit of a shock when you're just chatting away and they start on something like that.

Indie is getting nice and frisky ready for tomorrow hehe.

I'm sure your hair will be great, OWW, and Indie will love it. Sorry your Mum's being so awful. I think ignoring is the way to go with her letter, unless it was really out of character, which it doesn't sound like. Ignoring takes the wind out of her sails.

Don't be upset by idiots like that, Nora, please. His opinions are worthless, though it's not nice to feel someone's vitriol directed at you.

Thank you, it was only a transitory moment of upset and caused by the shock of someone being unpleasant, pretty much every other man I've communicated with or met via OD has been, at the very least, courteous.

Flipper have you heard anything from the Wedding Snogger ?

OWW are you frisking up Mr Indie ? You shameless hussy

Kin thanks for earlier advice, I'll contact GP again.

It is upsetting when some knobber turns nasty, strange because you don't even know them but it has really got to me on occasion. That nasty creep I met last week threw me completely, it was a horrible experience and I couldn't go running for 2 days after, I just felt unsafe. It will pass.

Thanks Juliette I think it was the suddenness and vehemence of it, caught me by surprise but at least it saved me the bother of meeting him and him doing it in person when I said something he didn't like.

I know that horrid man really affected you, that sounded like a hideous experience.

No, nothing, Nora. Made friends on fb, polite questions about journey home yesterday, then nothing since. I wasn't expecting to, though. He seemed really nice, and I'd be very happy to see him again, but he's not long out of a serious relationship and over 2 hours drive away. I'm a bit worried that I've upset the friend that brought him as her plus one. I sent a message to say that I hoped I wasn't out of order (I know she was worried before that he might like her, and she wasn't interested, and was very excited when I said I quite fancied him on the day, so I think I was ok), and haven't heard anything back yet, which isn't typical of her.
I hate upsetting people.

Careful, OWW, you don't want Indie peaking too soon.

How dare some nasty idiots have a go at lovely Kin and Jules! Sometimes it's like od gives people a licence to just be mean. I know you are both made of tough stuff but it is still hurtful!

Flipper surely she can't be upset with you, especially if she didn't want anything to do with him. If she is upset she wants to give herself a stern talking to.

Thanks Pom I'm fine, I'm the thread's very own Ena Sharples -tough as old boots ( youngsters may have to google )

That's my thinking, Nora. She was fine about it yesterday, just joking about the fact that he'd woken her up going back to their room in the early hours. I'm sure I'm just overthinking it, with a bit of delayed winedoom adding to things.

That's my thinking, Nora. She was fine about it yesterday, just joking about the fact that he'd woken her up going back to their room in the early hours. I'm sure I'm just overthinking it, with a bit of delayed winedoom adding to things.

Oops.

Kin Put me down as Elsie Tanner -I will not be Annie Walker--

Flipper she may just be mildly put out that she didn't pull or something, rather than that she wanted him. Or have winedoom herself. Sod it

I can so see you as Elsie Tanner, Juliette, Elsie was great

Flipper ah, the old 'winedoom' always a bugger.