I've been thinking about this a lot recently. I'm having a 'penpal' relationship with an Italian. We met on a OD site. I ve googled him and he's quite prolific on the interweb because of his job. We ve skyped and he's definitely the same person. He's asking nothing of me but I'm planning to take my DS to Rome so I think we will eventually meet. My worry is this. Since we've met he was in hospital for a couple of weeks, he still sent the odd email. We skyped when he got home and he had clearly lost weight and had a cold sore on his mouth, he did look a bit poorly. Then a few weeks later he went travelling partly for his job and partly a holiday. I'm wondering if I'm being naive and that all may not be what it seems. Although my intuition is telling me he is genuine, I've really lost faith in myself to make good judgements. He doesn't have a regular job and tells me he has investments so doesn't really have to work all the time. Any thoughts?