A spin-off from the other thread which got deleted but also got me thinking - would you ever reconcile with your ex? Why or why not? Have your feelings about it changed over time? If you have reconciled or are in reconciliation, who initiated it, the person who left or the person who was left? What things did you or your ex insist on changing and what things did you accept would stay the same. If you refused reconciliation, how did your ex take it? Did he/she blame others, themselves or you? Do you think reconciliation works over the long term or do the same issues keep popping up?