No pyjamas . AIBU ?

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I am fed up with the cold weather and feel it more than my DH seems to. He is lovely, but does have a thing about me being always naked in bed. We have an electric blanket on my side which has to be turned off when you get in and does not last long. Plus a good duvet. But I am still always cold for a bit and he does not like me wearing pyjamas or a nightie, or even a vest top. Sulks and thinks what we have plus his hot body should be enough for me.
AIBU ?

I think I've now heard it all about the total unreasonableness of men.

FFS - put your jammies on & keep warm.

And tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuck & when he gets there to fuck off a bit more.

OR - LTB!

How dare he tell you what to wear - or not.

Sulking is banned, anyone who sulks gets tickled. DH or DD2!

Don't these unreasonable men understand that feeling cold isn't exactly conducive to a night of passion?

Put some pjs on FGS - you're allowed to wear what you want. And tell him to grow the fuck up.

It does sound controlling. Does he just see you as a sexual object who has to be ready for him at all times?

It is bog all to do with him what you wear.

I admit I don't like PJ's even in winter but then I refuse to share a duvet as I require a full kingsize one to wrap myself in. Dh would stand a better chance of getting near me in a fleecy onsie.

i am actually in shock! jeez... tell him to grow the fuck up. does he not care that you're freezing your arse off? he sounds like a complete cock

me and dh are currently sporting our matching where's wally pj's. we look like fools but we're warm and cosy

Jesus. I am wearing vest, pj trousers and a thin jumper to sleep in at the moment as it is fucking freezing. Occasionally I accessorise with fluffy socks.

'it is more a bit of a pouted lip if I suggest I am cold and need to wear a t-shirt or whatever. He is kind and very loving but touch is very important to him. Possibly childhood issues, just a suspicion. I can assure you I am not a troll. This really is my nightly issue. Well, cold night issue anyway .'

This guy would have been kicked permanently out of my bed the first time he sulked and out of my life.

I'm amazed that so many people put up with controlling arses. Sure, no one's perfect, but sulking to control is what children do.

I don't tell my spouse what to wear, ever. He's an adult.

I'd wear pajamas and if he sulked I'd completely ignore it.

If Childhood issues are behind this for real, then he should be getting help for those, not making you responsible for his problems. That in itself is a red flag.

tak1ngchances - your post made me

Brilliant description of a great relationship.

I can't afford pjs that fit so I wear whatever and use the electric blanket.
He prefers that otherwise I warm my feet on him

If he told me what to wear to sleep in and sulked if I didn't comply in such a controlling childish manner it wouldn't matter for long as we would be in separate beds, in separate rooms, in separate houses

'Easy access'?

Wow. Your DH is a bit of a childish moron, isn't he?

i don't understand why you put up with this either

Get youself a onesie. one with a hood. That'll learn him.

Only read the first part of this thread but surely this is a joke . . "His hot body" ha

Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

Though I'm the 'hot' one in our relationship, once he ain't wearing anything stinky or scratchy it's none of my business.

I had an ex like this. Have you noticed a lot of these controlling twunts are now "ex's". There may be a theme here...

This is actually quite concerning. Why would you not want your partner to be warm, comfortable, not get ill/stressed/chilled? Why would you not make that a priority?

What about separate duvets? (I guess you are not allowed them) What about if one person snores or keeps the other awake (I guess that separate beds would also be out of the question).

I think the problem here is that the first time your husband said 'oh, do you have to put on those pyjamas' you didn't turn round and very nicely say 'I'm always freezing, I can take them off and put the back on again though' and give him a nice big smile whilst asserting your right to wear what the hell you like to keep yourself from being cold, tense and ill.

There's a big deal of difference between preferring to see you in a sexy nightie (when bedroom hot, when summer, when you feel like it) and sulking if you try to keep warm in one of the coldest winters on record. Just stick on what you need to keep snuggly and if he sulks/says anything, directly challenge him.

Sorry, this sounds odd, bordering on controlling and I wouldn't see it as remotely 'sweet' that he likes you have you naked.

He's a controlling twonk. Go out, buy a onsie and some bedsocks and get yourself comfy and warm. If he doesn't like it .

My husband likes naked snuggles and prefers me naked, fair dos when warm but in the cold? No chance.

If I want to have sex I'll strip off then when it's over I redress. He respects my comfort.

Put on PJ's and tell him to Fuck off

FFS, the man's an arse, you need to nip it in the bud before the control freakery extends to other parts of your life! Wearing PJ's doesn't mean you can't have sex ... it's so cold in our house that DW usually keeps her nightie (or pj top depending) on for shagging - can't say I blame her, and it doesn't bother me in the slightest.