The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wondering Where The Spring For Their Boing Is!

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Hi I'm Mouse

One of the Brave Babes on the Bus, a Bus full of different posters, some who drink more than they'd like to and are trying to stop, some who don't drink at all now, and some who are somewhere in the middle. :)

There's no judging here, no finger pointing, no rejection, just pure, unconditional, (occasionally tough), love and empathy.

We all share stories of how we got here, to have our seat on the Bus, looking for our own personal sobriety, our own personal happiness. Sometimes we talk about other things too, you know, like cake, cheese and even day to day life, life that can lead us to breaking point......... lead us to hit rock bottom.

So, why not come say hi, take a seat, post, lurk, whatever suits you :)

This is our latest journey with a link to others

And this is the reason we're ALL here, the first ever thread

Hope to see you soon :)

curry come back for a chat if you need to distract yourself. Remember, it will pass and you will wonder what all the fuss was about.

Great to see new babes on the bus. Keep on trucking, one day at a time, hour at a time, minute at a time, whatever you need.

Mouse that's really promising, so glad you were able to leave him without breaking your own heart. Now, hmm, didn't someone on the bus say it might not be as bad as you feared it would? Told you so

Actually, really, really don't want to worry you but from my experience working in these types of settings, day two is often worse than day one because the child is a bit more aware of what's going to happen so any clingyness sometimes does come back. On the other hand, it might be a breeze, who knows. Kids, eh? They like to keep us guessing.

But, if you have to, you can stick to just the one hour until you think he's ready to do one and a half.

It looks like lots of us are on day 1 or 2 and thinking about being a bit more healthy. I did day 1 of The Shred today (well, the first ten minutes before I collapsed). I have to get better at this. My mantra is weight, fitness, health.

C'mon babes, lets get our summer bodies ready just in case we get a sudden heatwave and have to bare all, eeek!

Oooh, curry I meant to say, why don't you get the house professionally de-flead. They can be really hard to get rid of on your own and when (if) it gets warmer, they will breed like mad.

Faire, trying to do this, but dealing with landlord who is trying to get out of it. such bloody hard work.
also house does not have washing machine, which makes home-remedies that much harder

Such a newbie...3rd attempt at adding, just accidently deleted last two attempts..doh!

indiebus will clunk click every trip!
mouse so glad today went well for you, ice cream and park sounds like a good way to end an eventful day.

day 1 and day 2 babes ..im with you all the way. My problem, and i can only speak for me, is i have this delusion that i can control my drinking. For me, this is an illusion and is like playing russian roulette. I think i am 'getting away with it' with a few drinks over a few nights and then bam without initially intending to, i will drink to blackout...do moderate drinkers do this?!

My last drink was sat night and i still feel a bit crappy but im trying to turn the experience into a positive by thinking it was the wake up call i needed to smash the delusion that i can drink in a conrolled way..i know that abstinence is the only way for me.

Koala your post really helped to bust the delusion, the thought of my DS looking at me on a mortuary slab...wooah very powerful! and sadly having sat in many aa mtgs and gone through rehab i know this is not just a scare tactic but a reality.

So a wake up call and although crap at the time it has helped me see how i cannot control my drinking and that ( re) discovering this is a step forward. Thankyou all for being here.

Hope to get some boing back soon (im so square, im taking that 'boing' is a spring in your step?)

xx

Yeah, it's tough curry. What is the landlord saying, they don't want to pay for it, or what?

ma the thing with my posts was I wrote about my aunt's house in detail, and there can't be that many places like that in that location. Which doesn't matter much to us Babes, but I was paranoid that a normal mumsnetter from Over There could get on board the Bus by mistake and read it.

Plus I didn't think it was right to identify my aunt without her knowledge.

curry sounds horrible! Was that you posting about fleas in Active Convos?

I now have an appointment with someone from pest control tomorrow - but I had to try bloody hard to get it and finally go down in person.

I am concerned it will be too hard / expensive for me to do our bit because we don't have a washing machine. I would like to charge everything we are paying on this to the landlord (I don't know how much of a battle this would be to attempt) - the landlord is sending pest control but we have paid for all the laundry (I mean duvets, pillows etc - obv we would have washed the sheets anyway) - but I am concerned nothing can usefully be done until the stuff that is on there now is taken away and hot washed - and I just do not have the time to do this, I cannot take another second off work. None of this is insuperable, it is just all happening at the same time!

Yep I do have a flea-thread going. Someone suggested I get a nice pic of all my bites on my white wobbly thighs for legal purposes ;)

sinamen yeah, the Boing is just a lovely feeling of being refreshed, full of energy and lighthearted. You probably know how you start to feel better after a few days off the booze.

Unfortunately, it does make it easier to forget how bad drinking can get and I think that's where this bus is amazing. There's often someone clambering aboard full of morning after woes. It helps us all if anyone is brave enough to post about how awful things have got for them. It reminds us all what booze can do to us if we let it.

Then there are all the happy, sober posts from people getting out there, getting on with life and doing their thang . Gives us something to aim for.

Joey just ask mn to delete it because it might identify you. They'll do that for you, no probs.

curry see what pest control say tomorrow. No point washing it all too early. Is there a launderette near you that will do a service wash? All you have to do is drop off before work and pick up after.

Hello all. I hope you don't mind me joining in?

I have name-changed for this thread as I want to keep this journey to myself for now. I read on MN every day but post infrequently. I am going to go back and read the thread when I've done posting this or else I'll just chicken out.

Today I finally snapped. After years and years of heavy drinking. I was trying to detox at home and I can't do it. I rang the doctors and dropped lucky for an appointment today. I was in there for 20 minutes and finally said the words "I am an alcoholic".

I didn't care about whether my licence would be taken away. I didn't care about Social Services being involved. I was/am killing myself.

I've got to go back for full blood tests to assess the damage I've done, then go and see the doctor for a treatment plan. I've got a referral to the Drug and Alcohol Team too. It was incredibly hard. I was shaking and crying and ashamed but I have done the right thing.

The only thing the doctor would give me before the blood results are back was:

1. Advice to not stop drinking immediately, but try to reduce it slowly if I can.
2. An extremely mild sedative to try and relax me and help me sleep.

Sorry this post is all about me. I will try to contribute when I am in a position to do so. At the moment I have no advice for anyone as I am only just about to start my own personal journey and I'm pretty scared.

Thanks for reading.

Welcome Steps and well done for posting. What do you tend to drink and how will you reduce, do you think? If it will be hard, try adding loads and loads of ice. It will dilute the drink and is only £1 for a large bag.

Just wanted say hi takingsteps, im new here too, but everyone has been very welcoming. Keep posting, it does help and a genuine well done for admitting your problem.

welcome steps and well done on being brave and making the first post. And also for going to the GP - that must have been hard, but they will have seen it before.

Curry, that all sounds awful, your landlord needs a kick up the backside. Hope you've got through the evening and ignored the wine witch

Sina I am right with you on the need for abstinence, I've tried to 'control' my drinking so many times, but I want to be free from the mind wrestling, crushing guilt, paranoia, feeling ill, feeling worthless. I can't just have one or two drinks and leave it at that, so for me, today, I'm not drinking.

TakingSteps well done for being so brave and seeking the help you need and deserve.

Day 2 almost done and dusted here, going to have an early night and hope Ian Beale doesn't plague my dreams again

Welcome steps and well done on your positive actions.
Aaargh, not another flea infestation. We only just got over the bird mites. This here bus is manky. What WILL the new babes think?
Did Week 1 Run 3 tonight in the pissing rain. Got soaked but battled through. No wine witch in this house tonight. Day 1 done.

curry does it mention in the tenancy agreement where the line of responsibility falls in situations like this? do you rent from your landlord through an agent, can they clarify/ mediate ?

hooty sweet dreams!

off for a face pack and cup of tea x

Well done ma that's great- wish I could run :( injury means I can't it's the only exercise I can abide:). Well day one for me again after rubbish couple of weeks. Welcome new babes and all power to your elbow for deciding to make a change and jumping on board. I'd love to meet up but don't think I could make it happen. The farm sounds lovely :). mouse thinking of you and nemo, you are being very brave! Well i find out if we get our school choice tomorrow. Fingers crossed! X

curry i feel your pain, I have also moved into a flee pit, it was a bloody nightmare. To be fair to your landlord they probably didn't know, they can lay dormant for months after the pets have gone then the vibrations on the floor get them active again when you move in. I would say it is deffo your landlords responsibility to sort.

Got our first choice school! Surprised and delighted, if only I could get to sleep, tomorrow I may be boinging :) hope all other babes waiting have been as lucky. Night night babes x

Hello babes. Just me checking in again.

I've been struggling. I was vaguely on top of it (well, no, I wasn't, but I was kidding myself), managed something like 3/4 of January sober, etc. etc. I'm really sorry, I keep coming on here, posting for a few days then disappearing but if it's ok, I am going to keep trying.

Last night DH was out, so I ended up drinking. I am not even going to say how much, but far too much. So I am awake now panicking. I know the panic gets worse because of the alcohol, but I hate it so much and I am so scared I'm fucking everything up. Then I read this thread and some of you lot have such a load to get on with, and I have no idea how you do it.

Right: Day 1. See you all at a more sociable hour!

Day 2.
Hi lrd. Good to see you again.

LRD Just to say I'm awake and listening. All you can do is to keep on keeping on. You've made some good progress, we fall and get back up again. MAny of us are in and out of the side car, getting drunk then hauling ourselves back on the bus for some tea and biscuits. You WILL feel better. Get through today with some kindness ( stop the self loathing) lots of water and food. If you can get out for a walk it will help with the panicking xx

Thanks green. Good point about the walk, I will feel better if I get out.

Good to see you too curry.

Wise words green. nice to see you lrd day 3 here, MRI scan this
Morning, yikes x x x

Hi all day 2 for me felt sick all night feel like crap normally feel ok on day two, maybe by problem has just progressed. O well look after to yourself's today wonderful strong babes