Dating chat thread 46

[lubeybooby]

all dating related chit chat here!

off we go

Nameless mentioned 'eloping' in a scrabble convo tonight choose your hats ladies has he no idea how we do things?

Eloping sounds an excellent idea Snape :)

De lurks.- little suggestion

"I had thought highly of you and believed you when you agreed to pay for my operation to be done at a private clinic. I didn't contact you straight away as I needed time to recover from the mental and physical impact the operation had on me and wanted to give you time to come to terms with what had happened. I also quietly hoped that you would 'do the decent thing' and honour your agreement without my request.

maybe?

'fingers crossed for lubey'

tweed before you re-lurk... That's fab. Factual. Classy. Tempered.

thank you B&A

I'll save the small claims threat for his reply following this one if it's anything but 'fine, have the money'

Ok. tis sent.

miranda god, no, I've known him for six weeks rrrrrrr that would be foolish.

lubey. Can I reiterate that you have acted with integrity throughout this and I have huge amounts of respect for you. He's being a bit of a dick. You shine, sister.

Lubey well done for sending it.

I probably wouldn't have said the 'thought highly of' bit but other that my evil lawyer brain would have come up with something v similar.

I really REALLY hope he now says 'Ok, have the money' even if it is (almost undoubtedly) in the manner of a petulant child who has been told to return something that they want but which doesn't belong to them...

Velv, great minds think alike... I didn't send the 'thought highly of' bit

I included a line also about not understanding why there is any dispute here, referring him to the section of conversation in the skype chat where he said he would do anything to make it easier.

Lubey I'm glad you didn't send that bit.

I think reminding him of what he said previously is good too.

He really is being a whiny little shit about this. And what annoys me is that its that hes saying he cant afford it (that still wouldnt be an excuse imo), seems more like he just resents being asked Utter, utter, knob.

Prepare to be even more annoyed.

He earns 70k absolute minimum for his field. Two modest properties, one he rents out long term with no problems, no dependants.

I get the feeling his idea of 'being short' is very different to that of a renting single parent on 25/30k who has paid out vastly more than him to cover the situation.

Lubey, I even think whether he has been left 'short' is besides the point.

The point is that he offered to pay for private treatment and you only went ahead on the basis of that offer.

Had it been some other matter you might have got the money upfront before you went ahead, but you were physically & emotionally very vulnerable and in your situation who wouldn't have trusted him and taken his kindness as genuine.

Hi ladies

lubey amazing as ever!! You are getting brilliant advice off the lovely people of MN tonight! He is messing with the wrong woman!

It is off with Mr Irish. I have always said I had my doubts and this week they came to fruition. Every communication we have had since Monday has been about how stressed he is at work and home. I have been sympathetic but tbh I don't like the way he has handled the stress (kept that to myself). I have been ill this week with awful viral thing and he didn't offer any support. Texts have got fewer and really boring. Defo not doing it for me. I sent him a text yesterday that he hasn't replied to. Pissed me off big time. Made me feel needy checking my phone every 5 mins like I want him when I know really that he isn't for me. Then tonight I went online and he was there too. Rat. Inwanted things to be fun and easy and this situation wasnt either. Nor did he mentally stimulate me, his spelling was awful and he had a potentially chavvy background! So I have wrote him off. Not sent him a text or anything but just mentally closed the Mr Irish door. Has upset me a bit because it was nice having someone but I know he wasn't doing it properly for me. I also has sex for the first time since exh and that was a big thing for me to do (but didn't actually feel that massive a deal when I had done it!!) and I don't think I liked his way!

So now I am just after a bit of advice. I realise I am the needy type. Can anyone recommend any good books on how not to be needy and how to value your life without a man in it. I need to be on my own for a bit. Everything is speeding up around me (job, divorce, kids, fab new social life etc) and I need to focus on that for a bit!

Sorry to interrupt lubey

Thanks mercury, very good point, he has had plenty of time to plan for it too, if it were me I'd have been expecting to give the remaining money at some point soon. yeah I did trust him, he was nothing other than totally devastated by the situation and very kind about it and good with it.

Oh he's online again here we go again I expect...

Pomegranate I think that stuff just sort of comes to you in time

I'm not sure of any books on the subject but hopefully someone else will know

I watched we bought a zoo earlier and am now watching ghost .. Is if too much to ask to find a man like Benjamin or Sam ??

Got the Sunday (dd away to her dad's) blues

Lubey what Mercury said. This is just him with his back against the wall trying to justify himself. Doesn't matter if he's 'short' or not, he owes you big time. Lets remind ourselves, he took one/two days off, was able to work throughout (you lost working time), didn't have to deal with any of the physical trauma, didn't have his to book and pay for a hotel. All he had to do was come up with part of the payment and be there for 24 hrs, he is being mean now in the full sense of the word.

kirsty bad choice of films for a down day!! Good men are out there waiting to find good women like us. Everything happens at the right time and pace.

Don't be down. Let your mind wander back to your brill NYC trip...

Juliette yes I agree, thanks. He took it as holiday as well , just one day, so really hasn't lost anything.

This is why the post is often misdirected, he's a postman

I LIKE TO GO TO THE GYM AT LEST 4 TIMES A WEEK AND TO HANGOUT WITH FRIENDS ASMUCH AS POSABLE
I WOULD LIKE TO TRAVLE MORE IM EASY GOING PERSON LET MOST THINGS SLIDE CANT BE ARSST WITH RUDE PEOPLE
BUT I CAN BE VERY CAREING PERSON ASW WELL

Bant I'm joining No 30. Naturist dangly bits has to be better than POF's more erect members.

Clown Dating looks only marginally less attractive than Match ...

I know it's cruel Juliette, but I just want to point & laugh @ the postie

Pom this is the first time I've been all by myself with nothing to do since I decided I've had enough of mr cheeky .. I had New York and then DD's birthday .. But today at lunchtime DD went to her dad .. I am feeling really sad and a trip to the gym didn't work so I went to the cinema to see the great and powerful oz didn't work either

I know I gave done the right thing .. He is a loser and a waste of space but I still feel very down and weepy :(