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I accidentally found out my DP is going to propose...and i dont like the ring

87 replies

enormouse · 07/03/2013 19:08

Ok so tonight myself, DS and DP are watching in the night garden. DS is toddling about playing with DPs kindle and he manages to use it to open Amazon to show me that my other half has an engagement ring in the basket. I may have gone a slightly strange colour but naturally DP didn't even notice (I'm assuming he was too busy watching makka pakka). Unfortunately, it's not a particularly nice ring.

I'm not hankering for a really expensive ring but I had hoped that he would make it to a jewellers (there's actually a jewellery workshop in the village, who have known his family for years) or find something a little more special than Amazon. I don't have anything against Amazon either it's just I don't want my engagement ring coming from the place I order textbooks from. He also has a tendency to buy everything from Amazon no matter what the occasion. (birthday/Christmas/mothers day/fathers day). I had hoped something as special as an engagement ring would be the exception but clearly not.

We're planning our first holiday away together without DS at the end of this month (24th) so I'm fairly certain he'll be planning to pop the question then. I can't steer him towards a ring I would like or drop hints without revealing I know what he's up to. So basically I have a month or so to stew. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Xx

OP posts:
2rebecca · 09/03/2013 12:57

The months salary was a marketing campaign by the diamond seller De Beers. It certainly isn't the norm. If a pair of adults want to fritter away a month's salary on a bauble fine, although it seems only fair that the husband should have a months salary to spend on a toy of his choice. Please don't assume most couples spend that sort of money on engagement stuff though.

enormouse · 09/03/2013 13:03

2rebecca it does seem like a bit of a sex and the city-ism, the months salary thing. Its more that it should be thoughtful. I really wouldnt want anything expensive (we have a very tight family budget), Id feel guilty if it cost a ridiculous price.

OP posts:
Bogeyface · 09/03/2013 15:42

Friends of ours lived in NY when they got engaged and it was expected that they would spend 3 months salary! Shock

Lueji · 09/03/2013 16:30

Coming late, buy literally LOL at turn of events. And I don't usually when reading threads. :o

And there's only one left too!!!

Wishing you good shopping. :)

Lueji · 09/03/2013 16:31

But, not buy...

DrRanj · 09/03/2013 16:42

Yes enormouse, i am! I needed a quick nc and wasn't feeling very imaginative! Plus I am medical, so it is sort of relevant!Grin

2rebecca · 09/03/2013 17:57

When we got engaged we both decided how much money to spend on rings, after all our finances were to be pooled (we were actually living together so it was already joint money. There is no way anyone in any city would have any say on how we spent our money.
As it was we spent zilch on engagement stuff as I don't like rings and we had other financial priorities.

Trills · 09/03/2013 18:29

Did you start a thread about me?

Snurk.

I wouldn't call that an engagement ring but fr a bit of bling it's not bad.

Trills · 09/03/2013 18:32

I do have a theory that nobody can really tell the difference between any grey-shiny-metal ring with a clear-sparkly-rock in it.

Midwife99 · 09/03/2013 18:51

If you "accidentally" delete it I bet he'll struggle to find it again so job done!! Smile

Midwife99 · 09/03/2013 18:54

Sorry didn't read to the end before posting!! Grin £26!!!! Grin

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 10/03/2013 11:44

Lol! I love how this thread came and bit you on the arse! Grin that'll teach you to snoop!
He sounds like a nice bloke.

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