crazy sister - please help me :(

[susanjessica123]

Hi everyone I'm new please be gentle with me

I'm going to cut a long story short and just give you the details that are relavant. My partner discovered he had a sister not long before we got together in Dec '11 and since then we've all met up a few times. This weekend my DM offered to have my 4mo DD so we could have a drink and catch up with partners sister. Few hours few drinks later sister passed out on back yard her 14yo dd carrying her in she was a complete mess while everyone else seems quite sober. Goes to sleep in my living room wearing a thong and nothing else. Yesterday however she sends me texts implying I gave her daughter not only alcohol and cigerettes but DRUGS which I would not allow in my house but as it turns out sisters frequent toilet trips were to "powder her nose" ahem.

Long post really sorry what the hell can do this woman is trying to ruin my life?

Reading back it barely makes sense but I'm so upset

No one?

Why has he only just discovered this sister? Does your DH want to keep in contact? If so, maybe daytime alcohol-free short visits would be preferable, until you decide what to do in the longer term.

But, she sounds like an addict, and you can't help them until they want to help themselves.

Why does she think YOU gave her daughter drugs? It sounds like she's either trying to deflect from her bad behaviour or she is, as you say, a bit unhinged.

You said she's trying to ruin your life, have there been other incidents?

I would refrain from seeing her again, personally.