Why are so many people up at this hour? Thread 2

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This is what happens, jynier

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private for me. just couldn't put up with being the subject of all their gossipings and the many who would have to relate stories of every relative who'd ever had cancer and probably died

Waves to newbies no work today grr fell asleep at 5pm for 4hours sigh so thats me up till 10am

And to top it up my stooipd phone seems to of delted all my pics and 300+ songs FFS dont it know how long it took me to remmber those 80's and 90's songs let alone find them to download

Dp just checked sd and its all wiped wails

Sending hugs to those that need them can i have a hug

Kitty ooh you so got to watch the 3rd seris of walking dead its very good fav one is daryl wouldnt kick him out of bed for farting lol

hi stars. have a hug - how's your day apart from sleeping ?

*STOIC IS CONFUSED????

I have audacity to step away for while and steep self in alcohol in nightmare days mediate etc, and suddenly you all KNOW how much I love 69 - how is this possible? Are you all psychics as well as life-savers?

meditate even, not mediate (tho darling Ex-H could do with some of latter as has not so much as sent DS's a condolence card on loss of beloved Nanny )

But hey, t'was me that DS3 (11) got Mothers Day card and wrote in it:

Loving you this Mothers Day and all days. Your the best Mummy in the world and we hope you have a great day. And remember to think about Nanny who would make the day even better. Love you xx

MrsShrek3 - I know how you feel but it probably wouldn't be the case that people are "gossiping" about you and your DH. Colleagues, family and friends are usually kind and supportive You have been strong for so long now and it is probably time that you are signed-off from work with stress. You can't carry the whole world on your shoulders; think that you need a bit of respite now.

Take care of yourself; sending MN love, x

Hiya Mrs sherk im ok had a ok night last night trawling the net for corprisy theroies.

Dp not sleeping either strangly had really really cold legs which he cant get warm so i get the iceblocks on me sigh.

Dd boyfriends birthday was today got a cd of thin lizzy for him as hes guiter told a lovely thankyou text hoes you doing

stars... get the DH a hot water bottle unless you like ice in bed (kinky lol)

Aww stoic thats sooo sweet ( blinks hard so not to cry )

My dd and i were chatting when she was here last. Subject of big sister came u i said a commet of i should of proceted you and i didnt do that very well

She just put her arm out to mine and said you did your best under diccult circutmers i still love

Jeez that girl has defo being her before old head on young shoulders.

Had to have a momment before getting in the car to stop tears welling up

Sorry was busy arguing with DH

MrsShrek I think what jy has said is the best idea. Can you not have some compassionate leave, time for yourself. Sending you much love xxxx

Stars - ha tha'ts too funny can you not wrap him in a blanket? like a giant swaddled man haha

Stoic - aww that does sound adorable, bless that one theres a sweetie!

Morning all (it's about 09.30 here) for those who are down in the dumps for whatever reason - have a () < only a little one obviously.
We (me and DD) had an eventful evening, I collected her from school at 4.30, drove in monsoon rain to Ikea to buy some fabric to decorate her kidney, got some other stuff and was caught in rush hour traffic coming home. I mentioned that we had some adhesive rhinestones which would look 400% a bit better on Billy the kid(ney) than some random raggedy cotton.
Got home, finished the dinner then spent an hour with the shiny gems. Kidney looks great. We had words about the money she'd collected. She wanted to keep it, I was adamant it was charity and, since it totaled about !.70 it wasn't worth the worry of being found out to be a thief. She cried and then cried a bit more about the iniquity of her life V her friends and how she needs the blackberry which will be awarded for the best kidney...
It's all trauma in the Rips household.

Hehe mrs sherk dont give him ideas lol

On monday due to being called in to work before me doing dinner i said i make somthing when i get home

Get home asked if he wanted anything he said as he had pot noddles sandwichs !!!! He also so pastie sarnies !!!

Mab if i wrap him up he will get kinky ideas just me i can just cope with the stockings and basque ( dp loves it where i feel awkward clumsy and podgy) he knows this and makes it worse by saying it makes me more sexy !! Do have a prob with self esteam i cant still belive that he fanices me let alone loves me

Rip oh dear sending virtual bar to you

ah stoic- what a lovely card from DS3 kitty is our resident psychic yes

mrsshrek- do you have anyone to speak to about all this immense stress you have been and are still under? do you have a good HR department laughable in many cases of course

I had a period of time where, I worked in a top firm.. office environment bitchy gossip central and I had had multiple bereavements, and had to move house, and had chaos with DS childcare, and exP was being violent and dreadful, I was someones carer as well as working 7am-11pm, alongside having a baby, plus doing some very high pressured cases inside work AND outside work, plus being asked to appear on various tv shows in connection with said cases- which I declined due to massive life stresses- then I had exams, and everything got on top of me and I held it all together for so so long, going in every day, working so so hard and putting a brave face on it - then the pressure at work was always very high but one week, got ridiculous, as my boss was away - and NOBODY knew about DD or any of my other losses or stresses. And it got to the point where I would hide in the bathroom sobbing. I had no counselling, no 'containment' for any of the problems. I tried making an appointment with my GP because I knew I couldn't carry on but yet I didn't want to let work down, so I kept on going in and overachieving and working myself into the ground. Until one day, I walked into my boss's office, when boss was back from hols, and said I was leaving. boss then asked a few questions, and because this had all been building up and up and up (esp about DD and varying other massive stresses) I just burst into tears, and couldn't stop crying - literally, cried for hours and hours and hours

where am I going with this story - well, nowhere helpful - but I understand that net closing in kind of pressure you must be feeling and the exhaustion too - and I would urge you to get some 'time out' before you have a complete breakdown, even if it's only talking to someone just about you, for an hour a week - is there anything like that available? of course, if it helps you - we are all here at varying hours, if it helps to just write it down. but I think you need some space, some time, to have a rest. x

rips- difficult age indeed!!

but rhinestone kidneys in KL makes me

stars I love reading about you and DP (as you're obviously happy together and love each other - which is so nice - I don't just mean the kinky bits, in some perverse voyeuristic fashion ) as you were

meanwhile, cafe's kitchen is sparkling!

1 room down.. ehem..

thank you for sharing cafe.
I am going to have to take some of this good advice, thank you all Will re read.
im going back to lurking now as nothing helpful to add sorry

cafe - So sorry that you went through all of these dreadful experiences but, from your posts, you still seem to be running on overdrive! Did you ever make it to the GP? More to the point, were you ever able to slow down and give yourself a break or is that still on the agenda?

So lovely of you to try and help MrsShrek!

Lol thankyou cafecito we are happy together though took 20 years to be together 3 failed marriages between us nethier of us are very matreail.

Second hand carpet and most of the funiture is from british heart foundation.

He is my savouir bless him just wish he eat more veg ( or any veg ) today i made beef cassrole with roast potatoes eating out of freezer poor week month so i add 20 peas on his plate yes i counted 19 were left the last one had dropped on the floor hes a bugger but i luvs him.

Well done for the kitchen mines tiny very tiny and have tidy up all the time though it had been known that i only start cleaning when all the plates are used

I have watered some plants...

for the first time ever

mrsshrek don't feel you need to be bouncy and positive here, this is possibly one of the only places you can be real and frank, and utterly utterly miserable - but we can take it, honest -!

jynier no I never did have that break I went from one job, to another job, to having said breakdown, to leaving said job, to starting a course, with not one day off not one sick day, not one day in between . No chance to slow down though, I just can't not enough hours in the day. I have also just found out I have to sit extra exams in May (for a masters) and if I don't, my registration expires. I have done no work for them at all. And I have clashing exams for med. stressed much

I am much happier now than I was then, though.

But yes mrsshrek I wish I had just taken a little bit of time out, then, and I would have made much better decisions at the time. I regret leaving my job in some ways. Certainly at the time that I left, it wasn't the right time for me or DS, but I just fell apart, and I made myself really ill with stress. If I had had some counselling, some time out - it would never have come to that.

if you do have a good HR dept then there is a duty of care that they owe to you, and they should be fine with you taking time off, they should even be able to arrange something for you. certainly would be a good idea to tell someone what has been going on. I know how hard that is though and how much you must feel like you shouldn't - but you have been under huge pressure.

grapes - No, after the instigation of NHS, there were no home births and no breast-fed babies in our Irish conclave.

morning all, little man has decided that after 6 hours sleep that is more than enough thank you very much and don't I realise that it is time for arm flailing and gummy grins? Just trying to catch up on thread.

Cafe- would I be right in thinking you were working in law firm? Sorry if you've said that up thread, have been reading but looooong thread!