Dating thread 44

[lubeybooby]

Here we go - all dating chat here!

OWW - seems clear to me all his "you're right rubbish" was in the hope, I suspect, that you would dump him and save him from having to do it to you. He's a worthless lying piece of shit. And that's being polite. I absolutely would not see him. I don't think he is worth the consideration of a phone call unless you feel you specifically want to rant down the phone at him just for a bit of venting. I'd send a text to simply say "On reflection, this isn't working for me. I want someone who is honest, reliable, and trustworthy. You are none of these things"

No actually I would just block his number. Job done.

exactly what voice said, all becomes clear - he wants to be dumped

what a cowardly low down dirty turdwanker.

OWW .

Some men and some women are so disappointing.

I am on Match.

Although I must be being featured in the European Match, all my messages are now from Norway and Spain and earlier today Germany and France.

OWW, it's so many different things, isn't it - the depression he won't do anything about, the work stress, not being there to support you, and now this. (And of course on the other side all the nice stuff, which makes it all the more difficult). I think personally I'd want to speak to him - if only to tell him I'd caught him out - but then I'd only end up getting upset so it might not be the best thing. But I think you're right, it's just all too much now, and while some of the other stuff can be excused, it's hard to see how the Match thing can. Big hugs once again. Sorry for rushed message - off to pick up DS.

Right, have cancelled the babysitter so I'm not tempted to see him, and also taken him (and his friend!) off my FB. It's a start.

Any advance on Voice's text suggestion?

Feel very ill.

How do I block him on my phone (iPhone)?

I think you can download a blocking app, OWW but not sure, or there could be another way

Deep breaths, and a big hug again from me.

And look after yourself... go and have a lie down maybe if you feel ill with it all, always helps me gather myself a bit.

Can't lie down, I'm still at work and have an hour's drive home on the motorway so need to get sorted out.

Right, fuck him. Will text shortly. This has all made it so much easier.

Going to get a profile back up on Match (ha!!!) and PoF this week - maybe not tonight but this week anyway. Onwards and upwards.

This does nothing to restore my faith in men . . .

Could actually work his Match name into the text quite easily so he would know I've seen him . . .

Ok I am going to be slightly devils' advocate here....what is the new activity....?

I would probably just text 'I'm moving on. Its me not you. No hard feelings'. I wouldn't want the twat to think I was at all upset or that it was about him.

Then block.

I am so sorry OWW ((((hugs))))

OWW don't drive home in a state, and maybe don't jump to conclusions either, I'm not excusing LM as I do think he needs to put more effort in, but if he did think you were going to dump him and had withdrawn in a bit of a self preservation/ don't want to get hurt way he may .... just may .... have gone on Match to see what else is around.... just in the way you did and others have done, not to do something immediately? I don't know, I'm just mindful of the fact there may be an explanation?

What ? LM's on Match ? Seriously ?

OWW, sorry to hear this and deleting them both off facebook is a good start. Text him anything you want and be kind to yourself. Deep breaths for driving home and stay safe.

I'm so sorry, OWW, I mean really what a fucking arsehole. I don't think you can block a number on iPhones ( I looked into it a while back ) - what I did do, and I'm aware that it's very childish, was give Spud a ridiculous name in contacts and downloaded a warning klaxon sound effect and assigned it to him as his ringtone/ text alert.

( I'm on Match too, if I can do anything to help )

OWW - it doesn't mean he's cheating. If he's really depressed, and is in a spiral of self pity and 'oh woe the world is me' then he could be assuming you're going to dump him and he's just seeing what's out there. It doesn't mean he's chatting to anyone.

I think before just dumping him you should at least let him know you saw him on there (although his response may be - 'well what were you doing on there?')

He is probably, though, acting like an arse to get you to dump him. We do that (some of us) Why he'd do it is beyond me, but...

If he was really that depressed he would think no one would want him.

He wouldn't go on match.

It's all a big lie I reckon. Or at least over exaggerated

OWW had decided to finish with him anyway remember so I think it's best not to get into a conversation about match.

todays amusing message
'beseech, give me your ass, i go fuck you until enjoy'

I'm really sorry to hear this OWW
I think there is some mileage in exploring WHY he's been on match... but I also think the not seeking help for depression, not being there when you need him & being a bit 'mememe' over-rides that.

am on train & daft small keyboard, so wont bang on, but very much thinking about you.

Am going to meet him and talk.

Have a talk ....

OWW you've already told him it's his last chance... I have a bad, bad feeling about this.

Wishing you strength.

yes wishing you strength...have a talk by all means...but I will add it is unlikely you will see him as proper relationship material again....I never did with TR always had his card marked from then on as 'just for fun/socialising'.

So, so sorry oww.

For what it's worth I think you have made the right decision. There has to come a time, when you look at someones behaviour i.e things that just keep happening, which have to be explained away, and thus, you make allowances for such and round and round you go...

At 6 months, it shouldn't be such hard work. It's meant to be fun, and not a head fuck.

My best friend ended up having a child with a man who was on POF, 'browsing' after 4 months into the relationship. I can't think of any valid reason why someone would log onto such website, when in a relationship other than to 'play the field' or deactivate it?!

No there is no valid reason Rose...TR explained that he went onto GS to browse because we had a row and he felt insecure....I gave him a chance because of his honesty .... no excuses. I bet this is the reason LM went on OWW because he thought you were going to finish it, so preempted you...a little ego boost (crappy).