Virtual Circle of Friends

[MillyMollyMandy78]

On my last post about a lack of friends, so many of you reached out with your own stories/ support/ advice. Several of you also said it would be great if we had our own thread where we can just meet up and have a chat and be virtual friends.
I apologise about the boring thread name - I couldn't think of anything cleverer! So this is me reaching out... Who wants to join me & be my virtual friend? X

Sounds like a great evening! Enjoy

deb I will try my very best to help you and I know a chap in Llanelli which is your council (Carmarthen is covered by Llanelli? Or the other way around anyhow!) Who works in the field and he will be invaluable to you if you need advice - he has autistic children himself so is not one of those people who talk the talk but have no idea how to walk the walk. My son was diagnosed with Aspergers at 5 and only recently diagnosed as High End Autism(he is 19) his ability with maths and computers is well, staggering...

I have to work today so I had to get dressed. Absolutely outrageous. Why am I not a lady of leisure, taken care of my my rich husband!?
If they put a village green on a derelict site that currently has a sign up stating 'Property of funeral director blah... blah...' Well, I for one will not be going there to, play? Are you even allowed to walk over a village green or will it have signs up saying 'Village Green - please do not walk on the grass for fear of displaying a disgusting view to those living close by...'

MONSTER So sorry we beat you Saturday in the rugby - if its any consolation, it was a rubbish game - didn't it score the highest ever penalties? We love the Scots down here in Wales so, I thought I would just say something about that...
Its Tuesday - two more sleeps to go till Thursday ;)

Cheers threebats, I'm not actually a scot, just married to one. I love Scotland but when it comes to matters of national pride (eg 6 nations) its England all the way ;-)

Yesss - two days til Mr Monstermuncher returns by which time I will be a shrivelled wreck gibbering in the corner

Have a good day folks

It was the same here yesterday Deb. Well I have had some good news today so I am feeling much more optimistic. How is everyone else?

I'm sorry.., no, really I am but monster Mr Monstermuncher! Just made me lol (as the kids would text!) I can't even go into where my mind went for a split second, had a terrible flash image - off to wash my brain out with soap and water after posting this...
Might I extend to you Monster the same courtesy as I have the others then, given you want England to win the rugby and I want Wales - at 4.50 Saturday we will be (pretend!) enemies... I know a lot of Welsh swear words as well so if I post up on here, nobody will have a darn clue what I am saying...

Are you going to extend upon your good news tithead or are we to be left guessing? Did you win the lottery? If so, I would like a truck full of Drumstick Lollies please (other lollies are available!) as I am slightly obsessed with them of late, my joy at finding - extra big ones - was just extreme. A sad reflection on what excites me these days. Did you find 5.00 in your jeans after washing them? I did on Sunday, it always feels good :)
Nothing of consequence has gone on around here today - picked up work, come home, doing said work, opening back door for cats like a glorified door man, in they come, out they go, in they come again... About to leave house and go forth into the Siberian wind to collect son from college...

Sorry Deb it would help if I elaborated wouldn't it. Well this will be rather long and maybe a bit self pitying so bear with me. I have been off work since november with severe abdo pain not knowing the cause. I had a similar episode 4 years ago but the cause was never found although it left me with IBS. Gp was concerned because of symptoms and bowel cancer is in the family. For weeks I have lay in bed unable to sleep thinking about things like colostomy bags, how I would feel about that. How would DP feel would he still love me/ find me attractive? We are currently planning our wedding and would look at lovely fitted dresses and then this niggling voice in the back of my head would say "won't look so nice with a colostomy bag will it".

At darker moments I would wonder if that was the cause 4 years ago and if so would it be terminal? What would that mean for DP and DS? Practical things like how they would cope financially would he have to give up work. If I died how soon would he meet some one else would DS call her mum? Would she take him to his first day at school? Would he remember what I looked/sounded like?

Anyway after that self pitying ramble (sorry but it feels better having written it down) I went to get the results of my CT scan today it Diverticulitus and divertular disease not the scary big C at all. So although I haven't won the lottery I bloody feel like I have, but I'm afraid you will have to wait for that truck load of lollys though.

Unfortunatly as you can imagine it's been a rather dark place in my 28 year old head so although I feel like a huge flippin weight has been lifted of my shoulders, for some reason I'm also feeling like I want to have a bloody good cry so will treat myself to some choclate and a load of snuggles tonight.

Wow that really was long wasn't it? Sorry.

Oh bugger threebats sorry I really do have a muddled head today.

Fantastic news TitHead well...not fantastic that you are ill but fantastic that things are better than you feared.

threebats I had a good laugh at MrMonstermuncher too...dirty minds stick together eh tee hee hee

Monstermuncher it's nearly Thursday woooooohoooooo! I'm sure your children need an early night tonight don't they

Am peed off with the woman who gave birth to me (refuse to call her my mum as her attitude towards me is not that of a mother) too long a story to go into but suffice to say it's clear I'm an inconvenience to her unlike my siblings.

Also peed off cos my lovely boyfriend won't be getting his birthday present first thing tomorrow because the stupid shop that promised it would be there yesterday still haven't got his present in that I ordered with them. Wish I'd bloomin ordered online now! Hopefully it will be there by the time he comes home from work!

Ooh you're a mucky minded lot Crisps for goodness sake!!

Tithead, you must be so relieved! Of course you must scoff chocolate and have lots of snuggles. A cry too if you need to.

Debstar, hope tomorrow brings your parcel and a better day all round

Threebats, I am ready to trade insults on Saturday. Bring it on

Btw I forgot to say thank you so much threebats for the offer of talking to your man in Llanelli! It's much appreciated!

Thank you too Monstermuncher and yeah I believe you that it's the crisps sorry must get out more!

Yawn, stretch, fart (kidding!) sip coffee - good morning all...
Tithead Hard to shorten your name to, just tit, I mean, its hard! But I might do it from now on just for the jest of it all - Of course you feel like crying - you've been sat about for ages almost holding your breath waiting for news - good news, but preparing mentally for bad.. You had the good news and all that stress must have washed off you like a wave washes sand off a body - have a cry. You deserve one. A good cry of relief is very good for us. I am happy to wait for the lolly's on the strength of your good news :) But, what is d and d disease? Is it easily cured or controlled?
deb The woman who gave birth to me, well, I also am not going into it as its too yuk so you are not alone. Somebody, somewhere, ought to set up a Black Sheep Club cause I would get in, I would even be able to produce a letter of certification from my mother if I asked her for one, to confirm I am the black sheep in my family. I would not need to have any test of any sort to get in after that! Slap a smile on your face, remember life is too short and do better with your children than was done with you - that's what I always think, no matter what the pain inside, find humour within the situation somewhere and you will get through. Its hard but its doable.
I can#t even talk to Monster as she's clearly today being waxed, oiled and preened in preparation for the Big Thursday... You know we will not hear from her tomorrow, right? And she will slink back on here come Friday telling us all how exhausted she is and how things are aching that have not ached for decades... Oh gross :)
x

Waaaaa! Chris Evans is playing Iron Maiden - Utter Joy.... Second song in a row now and poor offspring number 3 just got jumped by a rather overexcited 42 year old parent screaming, 'Can I play with Madness!' At her loudly.... After singing, '666 the number of the beast...' rather loudly... Oh! Oh! Third song in a row... Run to the Hills - Now we only need, Send your daughter to the slaughter' and my day is complete.... Oh bugger, he stopped. Gutted :)

Great start to the morning threebats

I would probably be an elite member of the Black Sheep Club! That smile is firmly fixed, my kids know I love them and it's my lovely fella's birthday today! All is good in the land of xxDebstarxx!

Monster hope you have a lovely day today and are refreshed and ready for the return of MrMonstermuncher tomorrow - kids have an early night so the welcome home can proceed

Tithead a good cry is a great stress release. I know what you mean about laying in bed imagining potential scenario's and it's always the worst ones you focus on! Onwards and upwards now

Hi all, can I join ye on this thread? For the last 15 years I have had 2 good friends, both these people knew each other through me but didn't mix socially together, however in the last 8-10 months their respective children are dating and I have now become the one on the outside. I am finding it hard to deal with but know that I have no right to interfere or comment on this friendship but it still hurts me. So virtual friends are what I need right now as I am feeling extremely lonely these days.

Hello Obrigada please do join us! Welcome

It's hard when things change and you can do nothing about it! Pull up a chair and a computer screen and chat away!

Thanks for the welcome Debstar:) Am feeling really tired today, have reduced my intake of coffee today and wondering if that has anything to do with it?

Welcome along Obrigada I personally think coffee is a must for posting up on this thread otherwise it would be a bit like bread without butter for me! However, I am a total coffee head so, any excuse really....
Can you substitute regular coffee for decaf? Go with regular till about midday then switch? If you get a good brand you honest to God can't tell the difference and you can fool your mind into thinking its the real, hard stuff :)

Iron Maiden was great this morning - but unfortunately as I was leaving the house for the pool then work, Julie Blinking Andrews was on Yodeling her way through life - yoda-ley-e yoda-lay-e yoda-ley-e-oooooooooo!
I was about fit to chop my head off by midday - all I could hear in my brain was that....

Happy birthday to deb's chap - dare I ask, did the gift come?

Hahahaha threebats what a nightmare for you! I hate having songs stuck in my head. For some reason for the last few months it has been 'bring me sunshine' so not only do I have the song I have the visual of eric and ernie too!

Yes his present has arrived thank goodness! Phew!!!!!!

Obrigada sounds like a lack of caffeine to me! Your body must be used to a certain amount and doesn't like that you've reduced it. I'm sure if you persevere you will be fine!

Oh threebats tha'ts some imagination you have there! Although I will of course be very pleased when Mr MM returns (I'm going to have to call him that so that you mucky lot don't start sniggering again), the reality is that I will most likely just hand over the kids and then go to bed for a week (alone).

Hello Obrigada, nice to have you here.

Debstar, glad you got your delivery - hope he likes it!

Have just noticed that Masterchef is back on. I like a bit of Masterchef. The baldy one has lost a load of weight, I don't think it suits him, he looks a lot older all of a sudden

Hi monster yes he did like it!

I think the baldy fella has a new young girlfriend and is probably scared he will lose her if he isn't supertrim! not that I read celebrity gossip oh no not me never

Good morning all!
The sun is shining here so Deb Thanks for repeatedly singing Eric and Ernie in your brain - must have worked!
I don't watch Masterchef on account of the fact I can't cook but I have seen the chap you are on about Obri I find it seriously hard to believe that a chef follows ww to loose weight though, somehow can't get my head around a chef counting points and eating a packet jelly to make up his quota for the day and feel as if he's had some form of a treat!
Had quite a day with my girls yesterday...
Elder dd (she's 21) asked, 'What's for dinner?'
I replied, 'Chicken.'
She went, 'Ohhh. Quack, quack.'
I sat at kitchen table and just waited - I said nothing.
Eventually she went, 'Oh! That's a duck init?'
Head in hands, hands on table, crossing legs because I have had three children and can't take sudden, hard laughter without a Pampers...
Then...
Took my youngest dd to drama last night and she squealed like the girl she is when a gritting lorry hurled grit at our car as it passed - she curled up in the passenger seat, knees up, hands over head and screamed like a girl.
We were in the car. The gritter was outside the car. In the car. Outside the car. In it. Outside it. The grit can't hit you, you wuss... And what did you expect to come flying out of the back of a gritter? Fluffy Marshmallows!? She did not stop laughing hysterically until I dropped her off...
I wish I had all boys...

Nooooooooo you don't threebats I live in a houseful of males. My two boys and my boyfriend all of the time and his boys on weekends. It's not pretty!!!! There is limited conversation just grunts when they acknowledge you are speaking but they are not listening oh no they are just pretending so you (as in me) don't go off on one. Mess everywhere because I refuse to pick up after them but they don't care because they know after a while I will do it.

Glad to be of service with the sunshine but would like a different song on repeat in my head...promise it won't be Rhianna's Umbrella hahahahahaha

I forgot to say monster Today is the day!
Are you all excited?

Deb I think I will take the boys - at least then I get to keep my jewellery, make-up, shoes... I will not be constantly told 'I am not eating anything white/green/orange this week! I am detoxing!'
'Can we talk Mam?'
Argh!! No! No we can't talk, honestly, what do you think I am? A caring parent or something? Where did you get that idea from??
Constant shouting along the lines of, 'Where's my hair gel? Who took it!? Get out of the bathroom! She took my jeans..! Waaaaaah!'
Then the dreaded - 'I have a new boyfriend!' Oh Mother of God Above - make it stop.... Please....
I stuck a note up above the loo last night that said, 'Attention! Do not flush baby wipes down the loo. Its properly illegal and the loo does not like it (drew a loo, crying) See its upset! Be kind to the loo, throw them in the bin...' I even copywritted (spelling?) it with a little copyright sign and dated it...
Within 5 mins of me blue-tacking it up - it was photographed and up on Facebook as apparently, it was 'hilarious'
The baby wipes are no longer down the loo this morning - no, they are balled up and shot across the bathroom like missiles to see if they can hit the bin and shouts of 'goal!' are ringing out... If they miss? Well, they are left on the floor where they land...
Oh how I wish I had all boys...
x

Hello all, Mr MM is on his way at last (yaay). I am totally knackered today, you know when you just feel tired to your very bones? I sometimes have real problems with sleep, I fall asleep easily enough but often wake at 2 or 3 then lie awake for hours. Hopefully the knowledge that Mr MM is safely back will mean I can sleep properly tonight and not be a zombie tomorrow.

Interesting showbiz gossip there Debstar about Baldybloke from Masterchef, that explains a lot!

Anyone else totally bored with red nose day? I realise this makes me sounds totally uncharitable but the whole thing does my head in ..