Virtual Circle of Friends

[MillyMollyMandy78]

On my last post about a lack of friends, so many of you reached out with your own stories/ support/ advice. Several of you also said it would be great if we had our own thread where we can just meet up and have a chat and be virtual friends.
I apologise about the boring thread name - I couldn't think of anything cleverer! So this is me reaching out... Who wants to join me & be my virtual friend? X

I'm the same Monstermuncher comic relief and children in need have me screaming at the telly. Not because I'm uncharitable but I get cross that celebrities who have more money than I can dream of are telling me to give my money. Whereas if they all gave one weeks wages to NOT do something stupid for charity they would raise just as much money and we wouldn't have to suffer the stupid programmes on tv or radio. Also, I have my own family to worry about and we are not made of money

Rant over!!! Sorry I went off on one there!

Anyway yay Mr MM is nearly home wooooohooooooo

Good morning all!
Is he back then mm?
Comic Relief? Well, the good news is, for a pound, its no school uniform which means I can get the washing started today rather than the mad rush of tonight/tomorrow morning. Its bought me an extra 8 hours which I am thankful for!
I also will have given a pound so will not have my good senses ripped apart when I am bombarded by Tv, radio and daft people in shops dressed up telling me all about the starving and sick kids - I have given thanks...
If Jessie J was going to tape her gob up for 6 months rather than shave off her hair though - I would definitely give more :)
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Hi all TitHead here under a name change. New name for a new chapter. Threebats that toilet sign story made me chuckle. Welcome Obrigada. Hi everybody else. Still a bit of an emotional waterfall at the mo but giving myself till Monday to let it all out.

I love rawbrocoli! Its very nice indeed to crunch on!
Am angry with my Gp nurse today - had an appointment for my son to go get his ear syringed, deaf as a post it is thanks to wax. Tried all the usual remedies, nothing worked. Phoned last week for an appointment today. Had a phone call a couple of hours before the appointment from nurse saying she couldn't do it unless I bring him in immediately. I couldn't, son has Autism, knew he would flip his lid at thought of going out of the house to a strange place impromptu, even though he knew he was going today, he was meant to go at 2.20 not 11.30 - Routine and all that means to him, she had no clue at all when I tried to explain it to her, she laughed at me down phone after I explained this in a 'we are all in this together' kind of tone and said, 'Oh we are both mothers, I am sure you understand I have to be somewhere with my daughter this afternoon...' Was furious so hung up.
Tried and failed to get son up. It was murders here. He would not go. Called the surgery back and stormed at the receptionist after being told it was another 3 week wait for an appointment that, I am self employed therefore when I take time off work to attend an appointment for my child it actually costs me money. When your nurse takes time off work for her daughter she still gets paid. I did not appreciate her 'we are both mothers here' remark as frankly, it was cheeky. Asked for an appointment with our Doctor because, staggeringly, I asked the receptionist what his notes said about his disability - nothing except for a severe speech and language disorder - and suddenly it all becomes clear why DLA cut his allowance to half last time he was assessed... Am now very, very cross and am only glad I have to wait 4 weeks to see our doctor as any sooner and I would have gone into the room wielding a vicious tongue, terrible bad language and made a complete arse of myself in the process.... Grrr.... Flipping Gp surgeries!

flippin heck threebats that's awful and what a stupid bloody comment. Poor you and your son it must have been rather unsettling for him. I don't know much about autism, I have a nephew on the Aspergeges spectrum (is that the correct phrase?) I understand there completely different but I know how he would have reacted to a sudden change in routine like that. How incompetent of the surgery with the notes also you must be so frustrated

Ah, its the same all over the place Broc - you can't get the flipping staff these days. You would not believe the hoops I have had to jump through for my son... I get cross but fume here until the red mist has passed and then I go deal with it. Learned a long time ago it does not pay to loose your temper. Its far, far better to hang up immediately and go away to calm down before I go getting sarcastically horrible with people, which I tend to do, which is not pleasant at all.

Besides - right after that, elder daughter who is 21 and pregnant went to the dentist with what we thought were 2 fallen out fillings... Coincidence, you say? You'd be right. Its her wisdom teeth, one is breaking through her gum and is infected, the other going the same way and they both need to come out asap - unfortunately she is asthmatic so the dentist had to call the surgery to talk about this as she can not be given antibiotics without the Doc saying so and having surgery to pull wisdom teeth out on an asthmatic young woman who is 4 months pregnant is questionable but she has lost 2 stone in 3 months thanks to morning sickness already and now she can eat, she can't eat thanks to teeth - they are worried about he baby's development if she carries on not eating and her own health.... They are debating the whole thing while she lays in bed here with spaghetti in a tin (God help the lack of nutrition!) because that she can suck over actually eat. Her boyfriend is being as lovely as he can be but she is in pain and only allowed to take paracetamol... Short tempered? Don't talk! I might go into hiding till they decide what to do with her!

Its good to have somewhere to vent but so wrong that you have to. Your poor daughter what an awful time you are all having. [Flowers] look after yourself.

I am absolutely okay brocoli don't go worrying about me - am tougher than I look. This is how I can be of some help to deb if her son gets diagnosed with Aspergers as I have jumped that many hoops I know how high to jump and what flipping shoes I need to wear to get a good height going!
Am not going to be complaining to the Doc for this oversight on son's medical records - I will simply be requesting a letter drawn up by himself for the DLA people stating exactly the problems/difficulties and exactly why, in his opinion, the award for DLA is wrong - he will do it. I have known this doc for a long time, many years... He knows things about me I am sure he would rather not! He is a reasonable man, a nice man - this was clearly an oversight which I will be asking, nicely, he correct and then make up for. Simple as that. I am very tenacious :)
Daughter will get sorted out as she has the Midwife on her side so this is not simply a case of dentist/doctor surgery trying to get their shit together - the Midwife won't sit idly by after the already 2 stone weight loss... We are all very excited and hugely looking forward to this baby - we've suffered a lot of bereavement over the last 2 years and have also lost my extended family in its entirety, completely. So when she announced she was pregnant at 21, well 22 when the baby is corn, far from slumping down in a chair in terrible shock - its something to be celebrated - its a new life, its a new start, its an addition to what is a small family unit now. She is just qualified as a beauty therapist so can work after baby is born, be it self employed or in a salon. She has possibilities and her boyfriend and his family have gone crazy over this baby - they are even more looking forward to it than we are which means its all okay - the baby is eagerly anticipated and wanted. We are all just waiting for August!
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Okay then Ladies! After the moaning posts above - this is it - Saturday 16th March - 4.50pm - KICK OFF!
I have heard through the grapevine (the rugby club and a neighbour who was there last night!!) That the Welsh boys are 'completely up for this' They are almost growling to go...
As things stand right now at this minute, I guess the score is England 8 Wales 0....
We can take that as a given as Wales need 8 points to steal the championship 7 points means we go on tries scored throughout competition - Wales win as they scored more tries....
I respectfully wish my English VCF's good luck and happy kicking but I hope a brisk south easterly arrives each time you get the opportunity to kick, lots of ball dropping and plenty of blood time outs, sin bins and accidental slips when heading for the try line..!

May the scrum commence!!
:)
(not that I am at all excited about it, of course)

Ha ha threebats you don't sound excited at all x

Waaahhhhhh! Oh my God - having trouble breathing! We won!!!
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Congratulations threebats, you sure gave us a pasting!
How are you doing Brocoli?

I'm okay I think Monster not had much time to think this weekend as DS has had a vomiting bug so DP and I have been knee deep in sick. He seems a little better today thankfully. DP is insisting we all go for a walk this afternoon. He thinks it will do me good to get out for a bit. I know he's right but curling up in bed with a book sounds so much more appealing right now.

Seeing the gp on monday about pain managment. I'm taking tramadol at the min as its the only thing that takes the edge off the pain but its aggrivating the diverticular disease. Think I'm just going to offload tell him exactly how I'm feeling and take it from therem I'm sure I'll feel better when I get back to work and things get back to normal.

Coughs under breath and blushes slightly - there I was banging on about stupid problems that are easily solved really when brocoli you are having such a tough time.
And I meant to ask yesterday but got totally carried off with rugby molly how are you? Where are you?
Monster has emerged back onto the thread so I assume all welcome home greetings have been carried out!?
And Deb Are you okay?

Am still trying to get my head around the rugby yesterday - I actually felt bad for the English right from the start as it was a psychological game to make them wait on the pitch for the time we did before we came out. The roof was closed on stadium, its the only stadium that has a roof to close and the English team are a very young team - most of the players have never been to Cardiff to play before and I promise you, its very special in that place, its very intimidating - with the roof closed, the noise is horrendous and we sang so loudly at the start that was that I reckon - it was too much for the young English team. Too daunting, too huge perhaps? Don't get me wrong, at each try we scored the roof almost came off my house and the game itself was a hard, physical game which was driven by Wales so they deserved to win but in all honesty? Wales had too much of a home advantage. And that's coming from a Welsh person!
Now its all over, I have no idea at all what I will do with my weekend afternoons - perhaps get back to painting my bloody door frames?
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Oh Threebats there not stupid problems at all. I'm sure in a few weeks time I will look back at this and wonder what all the fuss was about

hello everyone, I hope you are all having a good day

Yay to threebats for the six nations win! I have one very happy boyfriend and one pissed off son!

Brocoli I hope the GP can sort out some effective pain management for you that doesn't aggravate your condition. Definitely offload on him...that's what he's there for.

Monstermuncher I hope you are enjoying Mr MM being home in whatever way you can sheksy stuff or just for his childcare ability!!!

Thanks for asking if I'm ok threebats. The short answer is NO. I'm having a hard time right now. Family stuff with woman who gave birth to me, friend stuff with my one RL friend, and more family stuff with my boyfriend's children. I'm also trying to set up a business because we are skint (due to family and friend problems above and my stupidity). Sometimes I wonder what's the point of me. If it wasn't for my children I'm not sure I'd still be here to post!

Deb There is a HUGE point to you. Do not define yourself on other people's actions - we can not control what happens to us/what other people do but we can control how we react to what happens/what they do.
I can't say on a public forum what has happened in my family but I will say I have no family left aside from my children. Its me and them - against the world! Imagine a family tree, see me cut out of the big family one and a wee baby one started all on its own with my name on the top.... Its taken a long time, a lot of struggle and a large heaping in of incredibly horrible pain - but - in the end, its okay. Its okay because I, as you, have the children and do not underestimate the pride that can be found in raising them well. One day, you wake up and you just think and feel, to hell with the lot of them, who gives a shite? The people that matter are within my 4 walls and to hell with everybody else outside of the walls.
As for stupidity - we are all entitled to be stupid. So you've messed up? Okay then, you have. Leave it there and go on forward learning the lesson and not repeating the stupidity in future - its not worth torturing yourself over.
Nothing is so bad that it can not be fixed or rectified with some hard work and patience :) We just think its all impossible, that's all. Everything seems scary until we actually do it.
I would miss you if you were not posting on here so that's another person along with your children who thinks there is a point to you!

Hey Debstar. Sorry you are going through a rough time. I only know you through your posts on here but from what you write you come across as a warm and caring person with a good sense of humour (plus a sound knowledge of current celebrity gossip. I like that in a person). In other words, a good person and the sort of person I, and others, want to get to know. You have virtual friends here who will listen if you want to vent.

And yes Mr MM is safely back chez Monster and its lovely to have him back :-)
It is freeeezing here today. Where did the springtime go?

thank you both. I don't mean to whinge, sorry. I'm just fed up of being taken for granted by everybody. I'm such a doormat. I need some tips on how to be more assertive and not be taken for a ride. Only trouble is when I've done that before people have got so arsey with me I've reverted back to type.

No apology needed Debstar. We all need to let off a bit of steam from time to time

Thank you. I find weekends incredibly difficult and sometimes it gets too much. I'm glad I have the VCF to vent too.

Sorry your having a bad time Deb I think you come across as a great person and an amazing virtual friend. You rant and whinge away all you want if it helps I certainly have.

Well DP insisted on the walk today. He arranged for my DB to watch DS for a bit. We walked to nowhere in the freezing bloody cold and then turned into the golf club. So I was rather Peed off and thinking WTAF? When he walks to the door of the function room and walks into a wedding fair. DP is certainly not the wedding fair type at all. I was so touched I nearly cried. We got back he has just put DS to bed and ordered a take away. It's been such a lovely unexpected day.

People do not like it when you step outside of their idea of you deb That is their problem not your problem. Until you start to live your life being yourself and not bending who you are to meet somebody else's idea of who you should be, you are going to struggle.
You can always come here and vent this is the VCF nobody on here is going to bark at you, this is a nice place :)
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What a lovely surprise for you Brocoli I'm glad you had a good day!
You are right threebats people like it when I conform to their idea of who I am. I have to be me more often I may need support for this so will definitely be venting on here!

Your kind words have really touched me. I really do appreciate them. Thank you all.