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Here we go again. Dating thread 42

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VoiceofUnreason · 16/02/2013 16:42

Evening all. As you were.

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ike1 · 22/02/2013 14:25

H club Voice ...the Hedonists club everyone did a test to see how kinky they are..Bant and Jules were absolutely filthy...cant remember the name of the test now..

VoiceofUnreason · 22/02/2013 14:30

Oh that, yes, remember that now, penny has dropped.

Don't have too much work done, ike, I was under the impression most sane men prefer things relatively natural.

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JulietteMontague · 22/02/2013 14:33

Have to say to quote Rachel from friends 'it doesn't happen to every man, it isn't normal and no, it's not ok'. Ime it's the men who are a less than firm to start with are the ones who just go floppy a lot sometimes. Others will always rise to the occasion, some just need a short recovery time, others can just keep going. I've had men just tired or sore after a while but never ever had a man who suddenly couldn't.

JulietteMontague · 22/02/2013 14:38

That wasn't some sort of stealth boast, I don't think it's got anything to do with me was just saying men are different but it doesn't necessarily happen to all men.

ike1 · 22/02/2013 14:40

Ill be judicious Voice dont worry....but I can see the temptation to absolutely go for it if you had plenty of dosh sloshing about, they can change the appearance of most things with a syringe of filler it would seem...

MirandaWest · 22/02/2013 14:42

Back from cold but satisfying bike ride. Included fish and chips and then impromptu going through a wood with bikes. Not entirely to be recommended but good feeling of achievement. Have got mud off DSs legs now :)

Thank you everyone for the thoughts on my sex life - Snape I agree that there is more to it than orgasms and ejaculating and there is :) we've been texting throughout morning and afternoon and think we both feel a bit odd. He's meant to be staying here tomorrow night after building children's furniture (they'll be with XH from about 6 or so) but I've said it's up to him what he wants to do and I'll be fine with it (which is true). Am just scared of repeat lack of performance.

Am glad this doesn't happen to the other men on here Grin. Never happened with XH except once when he had German measles and so was excused. Would rather never have penetrative sex again than be with XH though so that's not much of a benefit Grin.

Mr Nice hadnt looked at any porn since about June or so I think. He talked quite a bit about Viagra at the time and I persuaded him out of it. Sort of wish it had been due to alcohol but he had one j20 and a cup of tea Grin.

Ah he texted

VoiceofUnreason · 22/02/2013 14:45

Changing subject, the recentish talk about cake and Soreen has spurred me on. Tomorrow I am going to attempt to make my first cake since Home Ec at school about 25 years ago. It willl hopefully be lemon drizzle

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ike1 · 22/02/2013 14:49

This thread is ace where else could you get advice on face lifts, sex and cake in a matter of minutes?

Good luck voice I am an angry cake maker ...it never goes right for me...always stirred with hate.

Hope you dont mind us talking around this subject Miranda and I hope it is all helpful.xx

KinNora · 22/02/2013 14:52

To for it, Voice, homemade cake is a magnificent thing.

( Ike, me and TR clearly meant to be )

KinNora · 22/02/2013 14:53

Go for it ( cake excitement )

ChooChooLaverne · 22/02/2013 15:22

Hello all. Have been lurking on here for ages and posting very occasionally but have been firmly on the sofa until now. But I've been enjoying dating vicariously through you lot. Smile

I split up with my ex 2.5 years ago (though we lived together for a year of that) and haven't felt ready to meet anyone else until now. But I've decided I can't put it off any longer and have finally got round to joining a couple of OD sites and have my first date tomorrow. This is my first date in 11 years and I'm slightly terrified.

I've been slathering on the moisturiser to try and make myself a bit less wrinkly but I'm beginning to like the sound of botox. Ike how did you find your botox person? Were they recommended?

JulietteMontague · 22/02/2013 15:24

Excellent news Voice, best thing about home made cake is you get to eat all of it even if it looks 'different'. I'm off to gym but have promised DS chocolate cake later (bribe) Wink

MirandaWest · 22/02/2013 15:41

Am very happy for people to talk about my sex problems - I brought them up :)

Mr Nice said in his text that his feeling a bit odd is a bit due to missing his DS who has been spending lots of time with his friends this half term (and staying over at people's houses) which is completely fine but he misses him a bit (us being away last weekend sort of compounded that). Have told him to tell his DS to stay at home and look after his old dad :) Think hell miss him a lot next year when he hopefully goes to university...

48howdidthathappen · 22/02/2013 17:52

Thanks all for your support. It means alot Smile

Mr R&R is doing his best I am sure. He knows he fucked up. He has put it right. Will talk it over tomorrow.

MirandaWest · 22/02/2013 18:24

Am in the doldrums. Arse.

KinNora · 22/02/2013 18:37

Hope things improve a little for you, 48

What's the matter, Miranda ? Anything specific or just the OD blues ?

Snapespeare · 22/02/2013 18:40

Glad to hear that 48 :)

No nameless for me this weekend, he isn't feeling too bright. Apparently. Can't be certain if this is a legitimate unwell or a bin-off. lots of mega-chat yesterday and one email today, feels weird. Hmm shall be keeping busy either-way.

velvet you better have an astounding date tonight as I won't be getting any sex dates for the next wee while.

JulietteMontague · 22/02/2013 18:56

Snape noooo it must be genuine. The one email will be because he is under the weather.

Miranda is it the sex thing that has kicked off a whole set of questions or something else?

MirandaWest · 22/02/2013 19:23

Not sure. Thunk I may just be being a bit crap - slept badly including having cried before I went to sleep which never helps. Plus although I have a coil I get occasional bits of brown blood rather than a full on period which does sometimes make me feel like the end of the world is nigh. Have been eating Nutella straight from the jar Blush.

Mr Nice just sent text about having run faster than ever before. Am not feeling quite up to replying yet. But glad he is feeling better than he was before.

Need to call my mum and dad later. Am not in the mood (but will do it as am old daughter. Just need to get these children of mine to bed first).

Juggling two lots of children and two ex spouses and jobs and everything is sometimes hard work. Normally I like it all though.

lubeybooby · 22/02/2013 19:28

doldrums here too

MirandaWest · 22/02/2013 19:34

I have a spare jar too

lubeybooby · 22/02/2013 19:36

oooh thanks. I might warm it up on the radiator for a bit and then just drink it.

KinNora · 22/02/2013 19:37

Miranda, it is hard work and it's entirely natural to seek solace in Nutella. Sometimes it can seem like everyone wants or needs something from you, it can get a bit much.

Lubey, you ok ?

TweedSlacks · 22/02/2013 19:37

'Nutellla Corner' would be a brilll name for a house.

48 . You have managed to find a good one , talk to him , explain the issues . Hopefully he will 'get it' and be around when its mutually convienient
Snape . Let him recharge his batteries Smile

Snapespeare · 22/02/2013 19:38

Nutella?