Here we go again. Dating thread 42

[VoiceofUnreason]

Evening all. As you were.

Fingers crossed for you 48 and your mum. Is she going to have a phased move home?

Kin sorry to hear about your fed upness. I am not sure that I know what exactly caused the demise of your relationship with Maris.

To the rest of you lot have fun with your various 'others'.

Talking of eyebags...my Mark E. Smith autobiog has arrived....blimey he could keep a lifetime of late nights in those babies. I fear my face is fast resembling his...

kin all problems are real problems. Nothing self indulgent about it at all. do hope you're feeling a bit brighter today. :)

bant a date-that-isnt-a-date! Hope it goes well. :)

at rest of thread.

I am still playing words with friends with nameless. It's horrifically arousing. All the words sound smutty...like 'girthed' and 'agape'

I've had a couple of skype chats with a bloke, all fine, although they went on for a bit too long.
At the end of the last one he asked if I fancied meeting for coffee, I said that would be good, he said dont worry about the distance, he's happy to come to me..then he said (red flag) we could even just have a coffee 'on my patio' (not that I have a patio)

Rather irritating the suggestion that his inviting himself to my place is some kind of favour to me
and the very idea that after a couple of skype chats I'd be happy to have him straight over to my place

It has to be an automatic red card doesnt it?

That, combined with the keeping me talking for a bit too long just makes me feel like I'm being groomed

Ike first band I ever saw was The Fall back in 19 cough cough - free concert at the town bandstand! Cracking stuff. Don't think the lady at the council who did the bookings quite knew what she was letting all the Sunday afternoon brigade in for!

Nora yes, definitely adult stuff tomorrow after the family stuff earlier. You're right, he is a really nice person ... but also really filthy and up for anything hehe. Class combination.

Hope you're right, Juliette! And thanks for saying that about how I'm dealing with stuff. I'm feeling better generally, much less anxious over the past few weeks since I've managed to let go of the texting worry. Feeling confident that I will get over all this shit before too long!

Nothing to report but I am furious

The cancelling cock shot man - has just sent me a short video clip of porn. When I told him off, he said it wasn't meant for me and was meant for someone with a sense of humour and not boring - wanker!

I told him that someone that overides my feelings on a subject is not someone I want contact with and will be concentrating on men that respect my wishes - like the man I had coffee with instead of him, who has shown me respect and would be shagging his brains out at the weekend while he is still wanking off alone with his porn (not true but he doesn't know that) and he's now blocked

Why do they do it?

Evening all,

I've been in my sick bed for a couple of days with some horrible cold fluey bug, reading the thread but no energy to post until now! but you have been making me giggle

OWW nice people up for a bit of filth are absolutely a class combination

48 hope all goes well for your Mum, it must be so tough, hopefully when she is home and settled with a routine it will all start to come right.

Poppy how shit! look after yourself lovely and come on here for the tlc

Velvet everything crossed that Cuthbert has pulled his finger out and Friday is on .... he sounds lovely when you see him, that just needs to be a bit more often?

snape glad all is progressing nicely with Nameless, you sound very well suited, your updates are lovely!

Btw Bant, Mr EA is from Yorkshire, he likes to take the mick out of my Sarf London accent and I can't understand him a lot of the time, he's always on about summat but in my limited survey of one, i got a winner!

we must deal with these sneaky sordid little games (porn clips & cock shots) swiftly and decisively

MsC, what a revolting perv, the old 'no sense of humour/boring' excuse is very common from tedious, single-celled halfwits. I hope you've blocked the jerk.

Lulu, glad you're feeling better, get Mr EA to make you some parkin (not a euphemism). I love a bit of parkin, me .

Snape, strangely amused by 'agape'.

Ike, god the story of me and Spud is interminable. Essentially it boils down to him being a navel-gazing, OCD, hypochondriac, academic twerp who while claiming that I am the 'love' of his life, repeatedly has crises, during which he stops talking to me for several months. The last time being in July, two weeks before our planned, paid for and much anticipated holiday of a lifetime.

You'll have to make your own tea, Lubey, but I'm sending all sorts of affection to you.

MsC, I still don't get why they do it, does anyone ever give them a response they want? It makes no sense.

Blind date with Yorkshire lass in wedding mood sounds fun, Bant.

Why do they do it? Because it gives them the same thrill they would get from flashing, only they won't get arrested and can stay in the comfort of their own home, keeping their todgers warm.

I think you're right, for a bloke it's a 'low risk' way of forcing yourself on a woman

Well the central heating must have broken down, in my experience those todgers look like they're suffering from a cold snap.

ike No phased move. We are waiting on delivery of equipment.

I have finished it with Mr R&R. I am not in the right place just now. It is feeling like hard work. Haven't the time or energy for it. Its for the best.

48 it sounds like you know what it best for you right now, you have had so much to deal with. Are you ok?

Yes Im fine Juliette Thanks. Something had to give.

In the circumstances, 48, you just have to do whatever is the right thing for you. I hope things get a bit easier for you.

Can i dip in for a tiny bit of support? You lot seem to do this online dating lark so easily whereas Im a bloody wuss.
Have been talking.to a funny, clever-sounding bloke and want to meet up. But i have absolutely zero body confidence.at the mo. His profile includes 'big and.beautiful' on his potential date specs.... Im scared though!

What are you scared of, Stuffez ? Is he perfect ? No, I expect he isn't - go for it

How did Mr R&R take it 48? Yeah I saw The Fall at Cardiff Uni probs around 1988....really great!

Stuffez...we are all scared dont worry....not heared anything from The Kid since we swapped numbers. Oddly ok with this as now have few expectations and therefore a quick drink will be fine .

Oh meant to say Kin that Torso was a bit like that....hypochondriac and we neither of us could go a fortnight without finding a reason to ignore each other

Really sorry to hear that 48. But if it's what you need at the moment then I hope it takes away some of the stress.

Stuffez it will be fine. Is this going to be your first date?

Was he, Ike ? I never imagined TA being like that, how long were you with him ?
I never ignored Spud ( except now, obv ), he's one of those people who spends all his time thinking and worrying and then can't see the wood for the trees. And, nope, didn't go on the holiday, he'd paid for everything, he'd decided that he wanted to take me somewhere special as he thought I needed a holiday.
Cue bitter and ironic laughter.

I don't know why I called him 'TA' when I know he's 'Torso Rubber' , must be the stress caused by thinking about Spud and my non-holiday.

ike He said he was really sorry if he got things wrong, etc.
Could we stay in touch. Never gonna happen.