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New beginning. Dating thread 41

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lubeybooby · 11/02/2013 23:22

Dating chit chat here :)

OP posts:
SweetSeraphim · 15/02/2013 10:45

Rose Sad

Why can't you be bothered to argue with him about it?

48howdidthathappen · 15/02/2013 10:47

Sorry Rose I was harsh there.

Someone in your life should add good stuff, do not accept this behaviour, you are worth so much more ((((hugs))))

ike1 · 15/02/2013 10:57

.....bloody hell its not got any better on POF this morning...plus the GP on OkC is obsessed with my bra size wwtf?
Pleased and jealous of those having dates with lovely people this weekend...

ike1 · 15/02/2013 11:03

Someone with at least a face that doesnt resemble a lumpfish has 'hia u ok'd' me ...I cant be bothered...or at least I might write...'No I am fucking not...'

ike1 · 15/02/2013 11:17

Phew...at last a message from someone more my type!!

EternalRose · 15/02/2013 11:27

Oh no, you wasn't harsh at all. I know you are all speaking the truth. I will set up a thread in the main forum, although I know what the answers will be...

I think I cant be bothered to argue with him about it, because he has prior form and I am really tired of how he manages to swing it round to justified behaviour everytime.

I know I need to leave, but I start a demanding course in September, and I don't have one single family member for support.

Anyway, as you all were, sorry to derail this thread.

x

VoiceofUnreason · 15/02/2013 11:34

Don't apologise for dereailing this thread. This thread, although primarily dating related, is a group of chums more than anything that support each other through stuff that is generally relationship related. Plus we talk about cake and communes and rubbish too. We'll no doubt comment on the other thread as well.

48howdidthathappen · 15/02/2013 11:37

Rose What Voice said Smile

Ike Does he like Soreen?

ike1 · 15/02/2013 11:41

I'll get around to that burning question tonight 48...chatting about sledging at mo...but gotta get these kids off their DS's and out up the mountain...

StellaBrillante · 15/02/2013 11:47

hi all :-)
a quick question: I am 38 but have recently gone back to uni. One of the lecturers is flirting with me, bought me a coffee etc but I don't think he realises how old I am. Ok, I look younger than my age but not THAT much younger! My fear is that the moment he hears it, his interest will vanish and although it won't be a loss (next!) as such, it'll still make a dent on my self-esteem...any thoughts on the whole age malarkey? thank you x

Lueji · 15/02/2013 11:51

Just popped in to avoid starting a paper revision.

Stella, if that lecturer is one of your teachers, avoid it like the plague. At least until you finish having any teacher-student relationship with him.
It's a recipe for disaster.
I'm surprised he's flirting with you, and took you to coffee, as it's not advisable.
Unless he's only being friendly.

Never mind his age he may also be older than you think. Do you have access to his CV?

mercury7 · 15/02/2013 11:54

my thoughts? Older women are hot..and 38 isnt even old!
well I would say that wouldnt I :o
dont even worry about it, if your exact age was that important to him he'd surely have found out anyway?

JulietteMontague · 15/02/2013 11:56

Rose what Voice said, doing it is enough without him then trying to turn it around on you. I hope you do start a thread in the main section and meanwhile we are all here too.

Western difficult time for him yes, but it's wearing a bit thin now. This gives you a little time to sit back a bit and view his behaviour from a 'distance', see if you like what you see. Maybe this is just the way he is.

Snape all is already well Grin

All those with a date, good luck and enjoy.

VoiceofUnreason · 15/02/2013 11:58

Stella I agree with Merc that age isn't necessarily an issue. But if he is one of your lecturers, then I'm with Lueji, potentially huge disaster. If he is just A lecturer but not one of your lecturers, different kettle of fish.

JulietteMontague · 15/02/2013 11:59

Stella you haven't even hit your prime yet Wink. What Lueji said though, if he is flirting just avoid.

StellaBrillante · 15/02/2013 12:00

he's not my lecturer, different 'school' entirely with no danger of it ever overlapping - I wouldn't even consider 'going there' otherwise but very good advice, thank you! :-) he's definitely not just being friendly...first time he spoke to me was to pay me a compliment which quite frankly made my day (he's a very attractive man!) and then yesterday we met in the caffeteria and he bought me a coffee and a cake with a 'Happy Valentine's' wish to finish it off. To say that I was pretty pleased is a major understatement! A quick search on google (he's a got a wikipedia page!!!) and he's 45 so normal circumstances, it should all be fine... x

Lueji · 15/02/2013 12:08

Go for it, then. :)

JulietteMontague · 15/02/2013 12:10

Go Stella we are now waiting for an update Grin

StellaBrillante · 15/02/2013 12:13

silly insecurity, isn't it? thank you Smile

OhWesternWind · 15/02/2013 12:16

Stella I would steer well clear of any entanglement with a lecturer even if he's in a different school. It's very questionable behaviour for him to act like this with a student at his university even if it's not someone he actually teaches.

Well, the Cheese hasn't been delivered yet! Bloody couriers. I've just checked the tracking page again today (yesterday it said it was being delivered that day) and it's not got there yet. So he's off the hook on that one. Grin I'm expecting a text/call today though as it's definitely on its way.

I'm giving him the rest of this month to get through his stressful times and back to normal. By then although I appreciate it's still raw about his dad, there are no significant events and he should also have his business open and all going to plan there. And then if things aren't how I like them I will definitely be talking to him about things.

Rose come and post on here whenever you want. Really.

VoiceofUnreason · 15/02/2013 12:35

OWW - bloody cheese delivery. I think your plan is sensible. We all have tough times. How we handle them ourselves and other people while going through them is important. As I think I have mentioned, my first girlfriend was killed in a car crash and it's approaching 20 years. On her birthday, I tend to withdraw a little, just for that one day. Occasionally on the anniversary of her death, too. One year I might have a little cry, not another year. It is what it is and we deal with things in different ways.

In 2011 I went to a concert with some friends and the group performed a song called Old Friends and how they are missed. It was on her birthday and I couldn't help it and had tears rolling down my cheeks. My best friend knew what date it was, took my hand and held it. I was fine 10 minutes later.

That's fine. But I don't shut others out and I will have a bit of time to myself. I don't allow it to interfere the rest of the time.

Snapespeare · 15/02/2013 12:40

oww hooray for the tardiness of the cheese

Flipper924 · 15/02/2013 12:49

Sometimes this thread gets a bit surreal. Especially when someone is potentially let off the hook because his cheese is late. Grin

Snape, have a great time, hope it all goes well.

Rose, I hate saying this, but you do know you will be better off without this man, don't you? Life, let alone your course, will be less demanding without this to deal with.

Stella, enjoy!

Nomore, I think you have a date tonight? Have fun!

Have you still got snow, Ike? Envy

48howdidthathappen · 15/02/2013 13:06

OWW We will all be waiting the arrival of the cheese Grin

OhWesternWind · 15/02/2013 13:08

With bated breath . . .

I think my whole life is a bit surreal sometimes actually!