New beginning. Dating thread 41

[lubeybooby]

Dating chit chat here :)

My ex finished with me for similar reasons quizteam but after two years... I told him he shouldn't go out with anyone for any length of time if he felt that way, nice bloke but screwed up by exwife, he liked to stay in touch too... sorry no real advice except I'd avoid!

Personally I couldn't be doing with that kind of flaky behaviour especially after ONE DATE

Fuck him off. NEXT!

Quiz - last time I checked, I was a bloke, but strange things can happen!

Maybe I'm missing something. Am I right in saying this guy doesn't want to SEE you, but wants your understanding and time, and to keep in contact (presumably by text or email)?

We're all different. I can't know what's going on in his head but I find someone saying he's scared of losing you after one date very odd. If a woman did that to me I'd probably back away sharpish. It's a bit bunny boilerish. Even if you really liked someone strongly when you first meet them, scared of losing them is very odd.

As to what he's doing? Assuming he isn't very odd as I fear, the most obvious answer I can think of is that he might have someone else on the go and by keeping in touch with you he's giving himself a back-up if it falls through with the other person.

I've been known to be a sensitive bloke. This just smells fishy or odd. Like to be wrong, of course.

Others may have other useful thoughts. But I'd continue radio silence. You want to DATE someone, I assume, and SEE them, not have a penfriend?

quiz I had an online thing when I first started OD. It went on for a few months. We had met up and did really like each other. But both decided we were both too soon out of LTRs. We were a great help to each other, for a while. In the end though I just stopped going online. Decided it was not really healthy.

Some people do just want an online/text thing. Maybe your guy is like this

Quiz I think he sounds silly and immature.

I mean lots of us think things like that but we'd think it through and examine what was really going on rather than blurt it out to someone we hardly knew...wouldnt we?

'continue radio silence', hilarious!! And yes, I would rather like someone I can see.

All brilliant observations and all probably correct.

I suggested he have a complete break and he has taken himself off the site. Bloody hell it was my first attempt though.

I'd consider it a bullet dodged, Quiz

Hello Quiz ! I'm relatively new to OD too, I think it takes a little readjustment in one's way of thinking, or to put it another way, you meet some very odd people with their own unique take on life.

48, of course you deserve Mr R&R, you daft apeth !

Mr R&R is wonderful

quiz why give your time to someone who does that. Doesn't matter why.

In other news I just made a lemon drizzle cake. It was meant to look like this. Instead, it looked like someone got too excited over it

Lemon drizzle was my favourite cake. Until now. Not sure I shall be able to look at one ever again.

Thanks, Jules!

KinNora I thought I had joined the more elite - fee paying - crème de la crème of dating sites. I was not expecting to encounter too many weirdos.

Voice a bullet dodged is about it I think.

quiz that sounded jaded off hand. It doesn't matter why because some people just act strangely online almost because they can.

voice it's ok, I think I covered it up with a fetching criss cross pattern

I love lemon drizzle. Couldn't bake one. So I will take it off your hands

Fussy I aint.

Quiz people often used to tell me that you get a better quality of person the paid sites. If they have paid, they are more likely to be genuine rather than timewasters, was the received wisdom. Have to say, there seems to be no difference. I never met anyone off of a paid site, but did off POF and got more messages from OKC and POF than Match. I also know friends who say the same and would never use a paid site again.

Ah, gawd bless ya, Quiz, there are weirdos unusual people on all the sites. My first date was with a man who claimed to have a phd because he'd 'read a lot on the Internet ' and who 'didn't drink, smoke or do drugs' but had some 'very interesting fetishes'. I made my excuses and left.

No but Voice mine is the site where they 'properly' match you up. You barely do any of the graft yourself

The worst site I ever used was MatchAffinity. eHarmony appears reasonable at first but you have no choice and cant choose for yourself. I have no idea how they 'match' but although I had a lot of offers, none of them were men I would have considered based on personality not even going to mention looks

Spot on Juiliette. Except, I have had a few quite interesting propositions but have met only 'Odd Man'.

I believed all that 'matching you a the deepest level' s**t.

Thinking I could cadge some of that drizzle cake. No need to be slim now.

Some drizzle cake for me too please, don't care how it looks but I bet it tastes fab.

Hellooo had a house full of kids today was tres romantic!

Oh and my 8 year old son said he felt 'sorry' for me because I had not recived a valentines card. Ha! dont know whether that made me feel better or worse!

Ike Its lemon drizzle tonight.

I used to love a house full of kids. Wonders why?