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[lubeybooby]

Dating chit chat here :)

I haven't got any red envelopes!! Bit did have a message from someone I was mailing ages ago on match and was messaging Mr Irish asking why I hadn't been in touch! He never got my last text?! Turns out we are going to the same place on Friday night, me with my friends and him with his. We are meeting up!! Eek! Bit nervous but pleased then I will know either way if I can write him off or meet up again.

Got day off today and planning lovely things with my children. I will get through today with a smile on my face!!

I am having a break from Mr R&R. I am relieved. I cannot be all things to all people.

I have my car booked for its MOT. It will not be good news. Still that is small stuff.

Turns out DD (who is 7) has something to give to her boyfriend. She's had the same one for two years since she was in reception :)

Once I've taken her to school I need to go and meet XH at his work and talk divorce. Fun

Nothing for Valentines Day for me. I've never actually had a card or present (the Evil Ex never bothered being nice to me any other day of the year so certainly wouldn't make an exception for Feb 14th! and apart from when I was with him I've always been single in February) but what you've never had you never miss, etc :)

I'm quite happy with how things are ticking along with Cuthbert. In speaking to a friend I had a bit of a lightbulb moment about him, and can see that he is being deliberately slow and cautious, and with our respective histories I actually think that's a good thing. So, no rush, and what will be, will be.

Morning all
Happy V day to everyone. I've got an M&S meal I'm having with my friend while we will watch Downton.
Work is wholly horrendous.
Fireman and I spent a lovely weekend together, well sat and Sunday. I wasn't planning on seeing him this week as we are working but he phoned me Tuesday asking if he could see me last night, so we went to the cinema. It's good at the moment.

I've never had a card apart from when in a full fledged relationship, no surprise ones. So even though I leave the flat long before the post is delivered I know I shan't be getting anything today.

Nothing to report from La Bellissima although she's been online. That's cool. One initial message is a huge success as far as I am concerned.

No one else remotely cute on OKC or POF and although I've only been back online for a few days I've already had my first "fuck off player, you obviously don't want kids because you just want to fuck around, how stupid do you think we are?" message. And on V Day too! Took two months after registering on POF the first time to get one of those, so they're improving on that score.

happy Valentine's day lovely thread! hope today goes well, especially for those of you engaged in non-Valentiney pursuits.

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The snow is still hanging around. Wish it would go. Now.

Am realising pension sharing probably isn't going to work due to the number and size of XHs pensions. Think I may need to potentially wave goodbye to it, or at least not get married again or make sure he stays alive a long time.....

I realise I'm harping on a bit but is frustrating that I was married to someone for nearly 12 years, worked fewer hours for the benefit of the children, stopped working and then he can just carry on, get remarried if he wants etc. still is only money :)

Miranda - harp on all you want. Surely there is a better outcome than simply forgetting them? I know you're not keen but I do think legal advice is warranted and sensible.

I have had two valentines texts DUDES... where's the bling? Goddammit. only half joking

Roses are red

Violets are blue

I don't like rhyming

Penis.

Miranda, harp on. Personally I'm not of the "only money" philosophy. If you've not had it for long periods then you realise what a huge difference it makes. If you feel genuinely short changed, perservere.

Thank you :) I'm not totally forgetting it just realising that if I do ever get married again (which I'm not totally averse to ) I would relinquish any claim on his pension. Hmm.

Am about to go and see him. Have made agenda for our meeting including AOB at the end

Dropped car off. Asked for lots of 'advises'

The sun is shining here. I am going to take the dog for a lovely slosh through the muddy fields today

voice I can't believe the messages you are getting from women regarding not wanting/being able to have children. Do you ever respond to them? I wouldn't be able to help myself.

Dear Madam, Thank you for your message of 14/02/2013. Happy Valentines day to you!

I am somewhat bewildered as to what might prompt someone to bother to take the time to contact someone with whom they have no interest, merely to point out that you consider them to be a 'player' on the basis that they have stated that they do not 'want' to have children. Although I owe you no explanation whatsoever, given we do not actually know each other - I thought it might be helpful to explain that I have chosen that option as there is no default for 'is unable to have children'. Whilst nothing would give me greater pleasure than to be a loving father to my own child, I am unfortunately unable to have my own children - so enjoy spending my time being an involved and caring godparent to my best friends two children/uncle to my widowed sisters twins/whatever. If I met someone amazing that I grew to love, we would certainly consider sperm donation/adoption/whatever.

I am pleased that you took the time to contact me as I am now able to discount any further involvement with you as you appear to be aggressive, intolerant, regard men as sperm donors to ensure your aging eggs are fertilised and have some issues that you might wish to consider working through with a trained professional. I wish you - and your psychoanalyst the very best of luck with that.

Regards

Voice

*delete as applicable, insert dreadfully sad tale about lost love

No red envelopes for me - never has been, doubt there ever will be - me and DS2 were in the marks and sparks garage yesterday buying a bottle of wine a french stick and saw roses at the till point. we guessed they were around £25. They were fifty quid there must be a lot of guilty men out there. I will buy myself a bunch tomorrow when they are £2.50.

nothing from nameless yesterday - that's OK. I am not in need of a [wetfish] just now (but if there's nothing by this evening, we might need to break out the fish fingers)

Happy flick the V to V day beautiful people!xx

I think this will be only the 2nd time in my adult life I have not received a VD card...he well WHATEVS!

oh well....

I stopped doing V day with the ex years before we split. Its just a load of meaningless gestures bollocks most of the time.

Although I did conceive my son on V day. So a good things can happen

Snape - I think I had about nine of those messages in around 18 months of OD the first time. So, not exactly zillions, but more than enough to notice them and, with just one exception, from women whose profiles I hadn't looked at. I chalk it up to random weirdos or women who've obviously had bad experiences. Having said that, that would tend to account for a quarter of all the messages I received without my initiating contact, so in that respect, quite a high percentage.

I bought myself some roses yesterday, seeing as the garden is almost flowerless and I like roses. And because I am worth it. Blokes can like receiving flowers too sometimes.

I used to by TR flowers....and he looked like the last bloke on earth who would enjoy flowers...but why not??

:) i know... i typed 'a lot of guilty men' and then thought [argh!] but we work within the confines of societal expectation and for some bizarre reason it tends to be men buying women over priced tat stuff on valentines day can't

I bought nameless a bunch of daffs on Monday as he hadn't been well... and he's commented that they're lovely. That's a quid well spent - to ensure that he looks at Daffs and thinks of me when I'm not there [evil manipulative face] I like Daffs. They're happy and make me think of spring. :)

I've had one or two annon cards, off losers people I wasn't in a relationship with but apart from that nothing unless I was in a relationship.

A couple of my friends (sisters) who were single, many moons ago, always got various forms of flowers, cards etc. They were really chuffed every year but I didn't have the heart to tell them it was probably their mum and dad.

Velvet, glad you have seen the light with C. I do sympathies with having teens in the house. It's very tricky, I would go to theirs but as he lives at home, more tricky. The other thing to watch out for with teens is wow betide anyone who tries to mess with their mum. If anyone was less than perfect for me (that's everyone) mine was very unforgiving.

I took flowers to the ex a couple of times when he was cooking cos if I took wine he would send me back home with it. He kept me in flowers for months :(

Wetfish required here I think . . . Lost a bit of positivity today.

Had very brief phone call from LM this morning to say happy V, but I was up a fire escape and couldn't really talk, conversation did not flow. I think that is probably my lot for today, no hints about cards/whatever, feel a bit silly now for sending the cheese and feel worse after the call. And I wrote something a bit romantic on the card so I feel like a right old sap now.