Welcome to The Dating Thread. Number 40.

[JulietteMontague]

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Sorry Watch, I thought (hoped!) I'd made that bit clear, what I was saying was NOTHING to do with the RL sex stuff/licking face whatever.

I don't care anything about what 2 consenting adults do (although have an interest when it is different behaviour to how I would act, not through judgement but because I'm nosey!).

My 'clutching pearls' wasn't about your sex life, I like living vicariously through you lot It was just an example of how I'm doing a bit of self awareness thinking to see why I do have a clutching pearls mindset, and that maybe others could also do self awareness, as I think OWW also said she was doing.

My posts and your sex life/anyones sex life are not linked at all.

More rows ?

Anyone want a brew ?

Snape, a bit of saucy action will definitely improve Nameless's condition, that is my considered advice as a health professional. .

OWW, I hope you're having a fabulous birthday afternoon.

im not raking over anytihng.

and calling people needy and off ... sorry, but i am going to get uppity about that. why shouldnt i? it is name calling. its also not ' percieved' when its there, in black and white.

i have told them it wasnt warranted, if you read back, again, it was just carried on.

erratic. yeah,, whatever.

I know you're not raking over anything - that comment was aimed at 'everyone else'

Anyway I've had a completely shit day and the last thing I need is coming back and seeing all this shite so I'm off to the darkened room.

At the risk of fanning the flames: I don't quite understand why Watch brings out the worst in all the amateur psychologist here.

She has said she is fine, seems to me one of the least needy posters here, why is she not taken at her word. Or if people are really concerned PM her, why keep telling her publicly that she's wrong or in denial or whatever

She, sorry for the third person Watch, snatched at the chance of a spark and, by the sounds of it, a couple of momentous shagfests. He showed himself to be a liar and a player, she shrugged and walked away. Saddened that it didn't last longer, but not, as far as she has said broken.

Not all of us sell our souls for a shag, some of us can have blinding pyrotechnics and walk away leaving nothing of ourselves behind. I'm happy to take Watch's word that she is obviously disappointed but not in need of anyone's concern.

Wise choice, Lubey, the kettle's just boiled in the darkened room and I've cracked open a packet of chocolate digestives. ( I'm prepared to get the cocktail shaker out again, if a brew isn't enough )

I have been to Torture Garden and the Rubber Ball

At the Rubber Ball some bloke came on my friend's hair though I thought he was 'dancing' although did think the 'rubbing' was a bit of a strange dance. Just as I realised it was too late and off went the sperm flying into my boots and her hair (it was down to her bum, her hair not the sperm).

Ok people - just stop now

It's horrible to read

I understand where watch is coming from - I have been on this thread for a very long time and have got to know her. There has been goading and unwanted brain reading

I honestly don't see where others are coming from

But can we please stop now

xxx - wouldn't read too much into it

I don't ever put x after a text to men, for the very reason I don't want people reading anything into it

Good news is MrCM hasn't logged on in 3 hours :)

Ewwww, Nc, that almost put me off my digestive, although I wonder if it's quite good for hair, a bit like a protein treatment. < thinks about googling, and decides probably best not >

nora - are they milk chocolate or plain chocolate?

I have both, Voice, I cater for all tastes. (I'm on the plain ones)

I would prefer it to stop. I didnt want it to start in the first place.

Its a dating thread.

Brain reading is not needed. And someones insitance that they are fine is not open invite to all pile in and convince that person that no, they are not fine at all.

All this self aware crap- perhaps people should think why they do that?
Why are people so threatened, for i cant think what else causes this, by a woman who knows what she wants and is happy within herself?

I did not ask for advice on it. Nor my mental health. Though again that is fine.

I appreciate some might like goading. I always try to politely put an end to it.... but if it continues past that, then yes. I will defend myself.

Kim - it was a bizarre evening, especially when I voiced that we should perhaps help the poor lady tied up in the bathroom wearing a french maid's outfit and clearly struggling against her hog tying.

My friend pointed out that 'she' was a 'he' and liked being tied up and left in the bathroom hence them being there at every event

Nora - milk please, ta muchly

Hoping LM is a good cook - he's never cooked veggie food before so we shall see. I'm going to put an emergency bag of crisps in the car just in case. Actually I don't really care as it's just lovely to be cooked for and for someone to make the effort to make a meal for me. I'm going to get a bit dressed up - not OTT but a bit more than for a normal night in, just to make it feel a bit special. And possibly with the infamous basque somehow involved . . .

If you want it to stop, Watch, then please stop posting about it.

Nc, it sounds like a real eye opener.

A line was drawn but has been crossed again.

To defend myself - I am not threatened by a strong woman or a woman who knows what she wants, why would I be?

I do however dislike people bullying others and then claiming they are the victim. Aas it has happened on this thread again and again recently I felt the need to speak out. It seems I shouldn't have bothered, and won't again.

I know nothing of your mental health nor have I commented on it. I think you may be mixing two things up. Some have commented on you seeming erractic or being worried about you. I have not. I have commented on your aggressive posts to others, nothing to do with your sex life, nothing to do with your mental health.

Hopefully that clears that up.

Voice, I've arranged them on a little bona china plate, with doylie, for you.

OWW, LM, what a sweetie.

i'm not going to read into the 'x'
there lies insanity!

Kim - it was a really good laugh and yes an eye opener, I just dabbled at the edges really - the fashions etc, it was crazy to see the people that lived it every day. Had utmost respect for them in being so open, must be difficult, especially if your job is high profile.

OWW - I was a vegetarian for 5 years many moons ago, would like to try again, unfortunately I hate anything spicy so am worried because most vege meals (well at restaurants at least) seem to be spicy. Do you think its doable if you don't like spicy food?

Western. I was busy so didnt get a chance to respond. I didnt realise there was a line.

I dont bully people. Who the hell have i bullied?

Again. I did not start this today. And yet im bullying??

Honestly its like being in a parallel universe

Middy, I'm drooling like Homer Simpson now, they sound bloody gorgeous.

Nc, I can imagine that kind of event being a lot of fun, I went to a transvestite and transsexual festival a few times with Spud, neither of us are that way inclined, we just accidentally bumped into the event once and enjoyed it so much we went back. It was surprising, entertaining , eye-opening and really quite touching all at once.